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You Don't Sweat, You Don't Lose Weight

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Some of you are very perceptive. My 'retirement' was due in part to getting my feelings hurt.

Ok, so maybe retirement isn't for me. I'm over it. I've got something to say.

I've been a member of Spark for a very long time. I've seen people come and go, either because they met their goal, or because they gave up in frustration.

Everyone has an opinion on how to lose weight.

- Exercise more, eat less.
- Don't undereat, don't over exercise.
- Eat more whole grains.
- Eat less fat.
- Eat less carbs.
- Don't go over your calories.
- Don't deprive yourself.

Everyone also has an opinion on why we fail.

- Did you count your calories?
- Did you exercise more?
- Did you exercise too much?
- Did you go over your calories?
- Did you go under your calories?
- Did you eat too much fat?
- Did you eat too many carbs?
- Are you drinking enough water?

But here's the weird and unexpected thing that I didn't anticipate when I finally met my goal: hatred.

I've read comments on message boards like, "I hate how some people only have to put in a little effort to lose weight, while I work and work and I can't lose an ounce."

If you've read my story, you know that it took me 10 years to finally get to my goal weight.

A decade. Does that sound easy?

You don't sweat, you don't lose weight. If your muscles aren't sore at the end of every workout, then you will only maintain your weight. I don't care how many calories were burned. No muscle burn, no shape change.

If your muscles aren't burning, you are only staying the same.

Doesn't that sound like a plateau?

Here's my opinion. I'm going to defy the normal convention that maintenance is hard. It is easier to maintain weight when eating clean, whole produce and protein is a daily part of life. It was harder for me to go from 44% bodyfat to 28% bodyfat. This was because I was sick. My metabolism was broken. I was never meant to carry that much fat.

Once I got below 30% bodyfat, suddenly things started working again. My body responds better to exercise and good food with seemingly less effort.

It is true. I am working out with less effort. I am losing weight with less effort. It is less effort to move a normal weight of 125lbs versus an obese weight of 160lbs.

If I want to see improvement, I still have to sweat. I have to work my muscles until they are sore.

Plateau means staying the same. More time on the treadmill isn't going to help either. You're just running in place.

I get that some people don't like my messaging. Maybe I am just preaching to the choir.

Those of us who 'made it' have a few differences in how we approached it, but we have a lot more in common.

So if you 'hate' someone because they seemingly have it so much easier than you, I suggest trying to learn from them instead. Those of us who reached goal weight didn't bang our heads on the same brick wall over and over again. We adapted and learned what our bodies needed.

And, finally, if you don't like my blogs or how I lost weight, then please feel free to move on to another. I'd rather have a few quality friends than a ton of strangers. I'm seeing the appeal of private blogs.
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    It's always frustrating to see the negativity from friends, family, and even some from a community such as SP can have towards people who were actually successful at losing weight. I see anyone who is able to make those kinds of changes in their lives as motivation...not people who somehow don't "deserve" it. We always want to tear down others in order to feel better about our own insecurities, and it is something I see all the time and it drives me crazy.

    More than anything, I admire how long you were dedicated to losing all that weight. And in some ways, maintenance might be a little easier for you because you have spent the past 10 years developing a healthy lifestyle. You didn't go on some fad diet, drop a lot of weight, and expect to go back to eating like you used to when you reached your goal. Your lifestyle is different and the dedication you've shown to reaching your goals is now just being transferred to maintenance. That may be one reason it's easier for you. And no, people don't like to hear that because they like to think that they don't really have to change their lives to get to where they want to be. If they would spend more energy on adopting a permanent healthy lifestyle instead of ripping apart others people who are successful, maybe they would have a better chance with their own goals.
    1910 days ago
    Great blog! You go lady!

    I have lost friends from losing weight...people who I thought were friends anyway. Three that I can count. I guess it was more fun for them if we could all just complain about being fat rather that face the fact that it was possible (but a lot of work) to lose it. One friend, actually was not fat ...but I think she liked it when I was cause it made her feel "better". When she saw the first picture of me thin she actually said "eek...eat a pastry! You are living in Europe!" I could not win that one.

    Anyway...people just need to get over themselves and find their way...like you did!
    1913 days ago
    Makes sense to me!
    1914 days ago
    Well put, Vhalkyrie! I have had a bit of a similar experience with folks asking "how do you do it" but ignoring the part where you actually have to put in a lot of effort and time (both in tracking, or paying attention to your nutrition, and in working out or burning calories in some way), and thinking I have some sort of easy magic path to being fit and healthy.

    Glad your back to blogging, and as the others have said, ignore the haters if you can, I think you can delete those comments too, if you like. They really speak more to their unhappiness than anything you are doing or are about.
    1914 days ago
    Don't let them get you down. I've had a rough couple of weeks, mostly of my own doing, but I am back on track. Sparkpeople bloggers like you and others I enjoy are what help get me back on track.
    1915 days ago
    Dirty Sparkpeople trolls...

    I know some people get quite mean sometimes. I've seen some pretty ridiculous comments on YOOVIE's blogs before. I hate that crap. These are the same people who would break down into tears if someone said something snippy to them.

    Haters gonna hate... whatever, you're strong and fit, and they're pissy because they're unsuccessful: "I hate how I work out so hard and never lose an ounce! What's your secret? Oh, I could never do that..."

    I raise a lot of eyebrows now that I don't count calories, I eat a bunch of protein, and I don't do cardio (I might add some in later). But it's working, so whatever...
    1915 days ago
    WOW, I had no idea! So we have a couple of haters lurking around here is that right? Maybe me and the boyz, we need to pay them a little visit....you know, to help them make a little attitude adjustment!

    Sister, those that say this stuff is easy are the blessed few. We, the unwashed masses, have to work for it....there is no fast, easy, or soft way to get there. it takes a lot of "uncomfortableness" to make lasting changes.

    Glad your retirement was short-lived....I like your blogs! Don't let anyone dissuade you from participating!
    1915 days ago
    Losing weight is hard - for pretty much everyone. Good for you for reaching your goal weight!
    1915 days ago
    This totally resonates with me!

    Congratulations, you deserve all of the successes you have earned! You have worked hard to get to where you are!

    Quality over quantity ;) Nobody knows you like you know yourself! Kudos!

    1915 days ago
    Hm. You sound a little angry.

    I'm so glad you are making progress. And I especially like how you state that your metabolism was broken. Now that you have gotten it fixed, you are getting where you want to be.

    You're right, it takes work to get there. It takes work to stay there. When some one is fit and/or slim other seem to think it is a breeze to keep it up. They don't realize how many times that person says "no" to the donuts at work, or ramps up the intensity instead of going for a stroll. Keep up the good work. And smile!!! You're doing it the way it works for you, and that's all that matters.
    1915 days ago
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