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It's not the Reeses but the obsession

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

I read all the time that we cannot be expected to give up something we love, not even for a short period of time. If we do so, they say, the cravings will kill us.

But isn't craving just an outward result of obsession?

I remember breaking up with a guy many decades ago. For months I looked down the street where he lived; I looked at the license plate whenever I saw a car like his. I sought out gossip and information on him. But it was an old two way street that had become hopelessly one way, and without anything in return that obsession FINALLY faded, though it took awhile. If he had said one word to me, it would have extended that obsesssion, but what I thought at the time was cruelty, was actually the best thing that could have happened. The obsession faded then disappeared.

There is nothing hopeless about Reeses. It will ALWAYS return the love. Yet I had to kick the obsession and there was only one way to do it: cold turkey. For months I craved them, and talked about them and agonized over them and fantasized about them. But, miracle of miracles, I finally started to forget how they tasted. Other things and other sensations had moved in and taken up the space that Reeses took up. I am still hyperaware of their presence: I can spot them in an instant in any setting. But I don't eat them, not even one. I had to break up with them.

I'm sure there are people who can eat a Reeses, smack their lips, crumple up the orange wrapper and go about their business. But I will obsess. The next time I see (or smell) one I will too vividly remember that special taste.

If I dip a piece of milk chocolate in peanut butter, it doesn't taste the same. The manufacturer took two delicious but (to me) non-obsessive foods and combined them in a way that I crave. I don't know what the difference is, but I know that if I eat one real, honest to God Reeses, the thought of Reeses will once again take up too much room in my brain.

My life is much more comfortable when I don't have to fight an obsession every minute of every day, and that is what it's like to give up something I love, be it human or food. But give it up I did, and much as I'd like to eat a Reeses like they do on TV, I would end up with the old obsession.

It isn't the Reeses, it's the obsession that I am so grateful to have left behind.
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    And here I was, thinking I was the only one who had an obsession with Reese's...
    2758 days ago
    On TV when they bite through and it leaves a perfect, even imprint of their teeth? I still have white chocolate Reeses now and again, but not very often. 250 calories is usually too much to put into a candy, and I can't eat just half the package.
    2759 days ago
  • GABBY98_80
    2759 days ago
    My obsession Use to be Pizza or Pasta. I got tired of feeling guilty during and after I had them, so I worked on not letting myself give into the so called pleasures. Now I can take them or leave them. it took a long time and yes once in a long while I feel the urge for some. I try to remember the guilt I felt the morning after indulgence and how lethargic I'd feel. That helps me a lot. Kudos to you!!
    2766 days ago
  • SHARON10002
    Well said. I could relate to both as I read your blog. I had a couple of boyfriends that I obsessed over as you did. I love Reeses too, but not to the degree of obsession. I guess for me that would be ice cream. That is a true weakness for me.
    2767 days ago
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    I get it. I have that reaction to cashews and so it's easier to just give them up.
    2767 days ago
    Nell: great story!
    2768 days ago
    Thank you for sharing this. I too have foods that CANNOT be in the house. If they are, eventually I will not just eat them but devour them. I just wish those foods were healthy ones.
    2768 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6210994
    I do the same thing with sourdough bread. I can eat loads of it constantly and always want more. If I try to eat it only occassionally, or break down and have some as a 'treat' I'm right back in there with it always on my mind.

    I've read a few times from various sources that certain foods hit the same parts of our brains that deal with addictions in the same way as opiates and narcotics; specifically I think it was in 'Wheat Belly' the author states that wheat pushes those buttons, but I wouldn't be surprised to hear that sugar/salt/chocolate/[insert any food you hear of people being addicted to] would do the same to us also.

    Looking at it like that, you never really recover from an addiction, right? You're always in recovery like a recovering alcoholic or drug abuser.

    Not really cheering, but if staying away from Reese's completely is working for you, by all means, keep it up :)
    2768 days ago
    2768 days ago
    Great analogy. But for me certain foods are best totally avoided. Reeses tops the list, followed by cheddar pringles and choc chip cookie dough ice cream. Mostly everything else is OK in moderation.
    2768 days ago
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    You're right: Only by completely avoiding some food and all alcohol can I hope to break the obsession. Good blog. emoticon
    2768 days ago
  • GABY1948
    I am SO there with you! Good blog, for sure emoticon emoticon
    2768 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    Awesome Blog!!! The best thing to do is the walk away from Trigger Foods, Obsessions Etc. Find other things that make you Happy. Learn to enjoy other things in life. God Blessings to Everyone. Have a Fantastic Day. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!
    2768 days ago
    Good blog! How did you have the strength to quit that obsession? I need to work on my M & M cravings. I just can't seem to leave them alone. If I have even a couple, I want more and more.
    2768 days ago
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    You are so right. Very well put. Thank you
    2768 days ago
    What a great comparison! I can relate to both the human and the food obsessions.
    2768 days ago
  • JEANNE229
    Great analogy girlfriend. Obsessions (in any walk of our lives) ARE addictions.
    2768 days ago
    great way to put it thanks
    2768 days ago
    Good points Nell........I don't allow any food or anything
    to be an obsession.

    Thanks for the blog....

    2768 days ago
    2768 days ago
    Love your analogy :)
    2768 days ago
  • SUNSHINE99999
    it is a tough one to avoid. Keep making those good choices at least in moderation. emoticon
    2768 days ago
    There's a concoction called buckeyes that is just as addictive as Reeses, but must be home made. Luckily, I don't have the recipe, but we got a large supply of them as a Christmas gift, and I went through them one or two at a time every night until they were gone.
    2768 days ago
  • DR1939
    I am the same way about candy. I cannot leave it alone if it is in the house. However, if it's not there I can't eat it, so I don't buy it. When I was in the heart hospital they gave me a single Dove chocolate every night. I wish I could do that a home but I can't and I know I can't.
    2768 days ago
    The only way I can deal with a trigger food is to avoid it totally. Good job with the Reeses!
    2768 days ago
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