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Things R Lookin' Up, Weight Is Going Down...

Monday, March 25, 2013

It has only been a few short days since my last blog, but things are looking up! Things aren't back up to the standards of emoticon's and emoticon's, but of course that will take some time. emoticon

TMI Alert: I really think PMS had made everything worse the last couple of days. My emotions were real, but I really think they were at the extreme because of the hormones.

In the past few days I have gained control of my eating, implemented a new eating plan, but I am only using it as a guideline and am adding in things and doing what I need to do to meet my own calorie requirements.

I've kept up the exercise, but I almost feel like I'm getting my groove back for WANTING to exercise, ALMOST. emoticon

I am in the process of "letting the boy go"... it is harder than I thought but it would have been harder to do it later on. He knows I am done but I guess in some ways I am still mourning that loss a bit.

There is a new boy as seen in my status updates lol, I met him on a dating site and was a little reluctant to meet him because meeting new people like that causes me a lot of anxiety... But I don't continue to talk to people if I don't think they are genuinely nice guys, and while some slip through the cracks, the fact that he made it to the meeting stage speaks volumes.

We went out on Friday and we were just supposed to have a quick coffee date, but he ended up taking me to dinner and he paid which was very sweet. YES, at the age of 27, that is the FIRST time I have had someone buy me dinner. emoticon I had one other guy offer but when I said "are you sure, I can pay my half" he said okay and looked relieved LOL. I said the same to "new boy" but he said "No, I'm sure, I want to." So that was very nice. He was very polite, he opened all the doors for me, he walked me all the way back to my car which was way farther than his. When we said goodbye he asked if I wanted to do it again. He then texted me when he got home and said he had fun then told me it was the "best date he's been on so far". He texted me Saturday, and even told me good night when he went to bed. He wanted to see me today (asked yesterday) but I couldn't because of my work schedule. Yesterday he also told me I was pretty. emoticon I can't remember the last time a boy told me I was pretty... He talked to me today and told me goodnight...

I begged "the boy" (the original) to text me good night because in his line of work it is a dangerous job if you get where I'm going with that, and so that I would know he was okay and made it home safely, but he wouldn't do it. Just in the matter of 3 days this new boy has treated me so much better than I have ever been treated. I am not one to get super excited about a new person very quickly, but I am trying to give this guy a very fair chance. It is a twisted emotion because while I am happy he is treating me so well, it is also very depressing to see just how poorly "the boy" was treating me the past 6 months. It is a lot to take in, but I am working on it.

All in all, I am glad to be doing well with my food and trying to just work on being my happy self again. I bloated my way up to about 215 and the scale is finally coming back down so I hope to see 209 again soon and onward to Onederland. Yeah yeah, I know, I've been wanting to reach Onederland since October, but I still keep wishing and pushing, one day it'll all come together. emoticon
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  • LISAN0415
    So happy for you that things are looking up!!!

    Oh my goodness, when I am pre-menstral, my appetite is out of control for some reason!

    BUT it's better than the alternatives right now: pregnancy or menopause, LOL

    1849 days ago
    Oh sweetie, I am so glad to hear that you KNOW you deserve better than (the original). I'm really happy that things are starting to look up for you. Enjoy the rest of your week!
    1854 days ago
    When I got back into the dating scene after being in a relationship for 12 years, I had to quickly learn what I would and would not tolerate and be okay with cutting off a guy quickly if he could not meet the expectations. I wouldn't be rude about it, I would be honest. "It doesn't seem that you are willing to give me what I need right now and I don't want to waste either of our times. It was nice meeting you, thanks for hanging out, I wish you the best." And I would tell a guy immediately if something he did or said didn't sit well with me. At first I felt like a huge bitch but I kept telling myself, If he is worth it, he will be willing to try harder. I am now getting married to one of those guys because he respected my boundaries and stepped his game up. You deserve everything this man is giving you and it should become an expectation for him or any other guy going forward.
    1854 days ago
    I think I like "the new boy"! He sounds super sweet and very gentlemanly. There aren't too many guys out there anymore that are respectful and considerate. I'm very anxious to see where this goes. :D
    1855 days ago
    Yay! I like nice boys. And Onderland is just a hop away. It isn't going anywhere. You focus on you, and the journey. We will get there when we get there (and it won't be that much longer!) I'm so glad things are looking up and I'm sorry the previous boy couldn't get his act together. He has no idea what he is missing.
    1855 days ago
    Glad to hear things are looking up. You deserve to be treated like a princess and I am glad to hear the new boy is treating you well. emoticon
    1855 days ago
    I've missed alot lately because I've been so busy.. but I am glad to see you seem to have found a sweet "boy!" Sometimes we don't see how bad things were until we are treated better. You deserve the compliments and deserve a good guy. So here's to hoping he is the one! And you are right, you will see Onederland soon. They always say that you are more likely to keep it off if it is achieved slowly.. so we'll just assume that will be the case right?? I think I will always remember how hard it was to lose weight and that will make it impossible for me to hit my high weight again.. or anywhere near it for that matter!
    1855 days ago
    Glad to hear you're spending time with a guy who is treating you right = you so deserve a sweet man who opens doors for you and treats you with respect! So happy for you! Keep us posted - its always easier to stay on track when good things are coming your way - may this be another boost to get you where you want to be. emoticon
    1855 days ago
    It's kind of scary when you find a guy who will treat you with the respect that you DESERVE. It's ok to be a little cautious, even if you know this time is different. And just think about how far you've come. Yes, you may have dealt with the "old boy's" shenanigans a little longer than you should've, but you finally decided enough is enough and put your foot down. Many people end up staying in relationships like that for years because they aren't ready to stand up for themselves or think they'll ever find anything better. I know because I was one of them. And when those bad relationships were over, I still made a few mistakes while dating. But the level of disrespect I would tolerate kept going lower and lower each time. Now I'm with someone that treats me like I should be treated and I couldn't be happier. It just takes time to find someone like that (You gotta kiss a lot of frogs, lol). But I am THRILLED that you went out with him and he does sound like a good guy. YAY!

    I'm also glad to hear that you're back on track with food and (hopefully) exercise. I'm sure Sparky doesn't want to miss out on his walks!
    1855 days ago
    This new fella is sounding super sweet! Glad to hear he's treating you well and you are getting back on track!
    1855 days ago
    emoticon Oh yay!! I'm so glad for you! I totally get the "mourning" process... it's okay to go through it- and it might take a little while to really feel "over" it. Remember to forgive "the boy" nad yourself when you need to. I always got so cross with myself because I allowed xyz to happen. But you know what? You did the best you could with what you had. It's over. Lesson learned.

    Happy endings are possible, and while they may or may not be with this new interest, you deserve to be treated as well as can be. And speaking as your friend, remember you don't have to reward him with "favours" for treating you well... if you know what I mean. You deserve to be treated well because you are an interesting, kind, caring person- not just for what he can "get out of it". Don't let yourself fall in that trap! :) Not that you would, just that this is a temptation that catches so many lovely ladies!
    1855 days ago
    Wow, this new boy sounds interesting. I hope it goes well with you. Great job on the losses. Keep it up. You are doing good.
    1855 days ago
    Glad things are better.
    1855 days ago
    Soooooo happy for you!!!! Hope things keep going in the right direction!!!!
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    Glad to know things are looking up emoticon
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