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Sunday, March 24, 2013

I have been away from home for a month due to my father's illness and passing away. I am an emotional wreck. Obviously with more important things going on, diet and exerciwse were not on the top of my list, My father always wanted me to lose weight. I actually did not gain any weight during this difficult time while I was away, and I actuall lost a few pounds, but now that I am back home, I have been overeating. I feel so out of control.. I will try to walk 1 mile with a Leslie Sansone DVD today. I am really struggling right now...
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  • INDIBLUE7240
    I am deeply sorry for your loss. emoticon

    I can relate to your post. I lost my father last year, and I had to take care of mom for awhile, I didn't eat, I lost a lot of weight. I just didn't have an appetite. When my mom was taken care of in a nursing facility, and I went back to my normal routine, I started binging again. It was a delayed reaction to my emotional time.

    The only thing I can say to you, is to not be hard on yourself, you've been through a traumatic experience. Try to focus on one thing at a time. I couldn't control my eating and I'm still struggling, but I am doing well with the exercise now. I walk a lot too, it's therapeutic. I'm also trying to avoid sweets and I'm doing well with that too. Choose one thing, one day at a time. Be patient with yourself. emoticon
    1885 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/26/2013 5:58:53 AM
    I am so sorry about the loss of your father. My parents are gone as well and it is so hard to deal with. Give yourself time to grieve. Do not beat yourself up. Know that he loved you and if you need me I am here. emoticon
    1886 days ago

    I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your father. Don't beat yourself up because you've turned to food for comfort. We've all been in the same place before. I'm definitely going to encourage you to keep exercising in some way. Take a walk outside. get out of the house. the fresh air will do you some good. Walking is not only great cardiovascular exercise, it's a great way to reduce stress too.

    When you feel an urge to run to the kitchen, put on your coat and take a walk. if you don't want to walk, sit and have a cup of tea. listen to some relaxing music. take a long hot bubble bath. It's okay to pamper yourself a little because you need to take care of yourself. Stress can break down a person's body.

    Take things one day at a time. Every little bit really does make a difference.

    1887 days ago
    I lost my dad some years back. You need time to go thru the greiving process and that's ok. Walking and exercise will help. And maybe get a notebook and put pen to paper and let all the emotions pour out of you. I am sure sure your dad had your best interests in mind when he wanted you to lose the weight. The thing is you need to lose the weight because you want to and for your reasons. If it would have pleased him or anyone else, that's just an added bonus. I hope I haven't offened you with my comments.
    1887 days ago
    Jo, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father... Somehow, at times like these (I lost my own dad back in 2002), weight loss and/or fitness take a temporary back seat to the tremendous, sometimes seemingly bottomless pain of grief. But I found time itself to be a bigger healer than I had ever imagined possible, and I hope that with every passing day, you'll find more peace and healing enter your life. It's not an even or easy process - it's one of life's most traumatic blows - but we're all with you. So glad you were courageous and strong enough to reach out... I wish you all the best as you face each coming day.

    It does eventually start to get a little easier... emoticon
    1887 days ago
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    1887 days ago
    Hi Jomama,
    I hope I can help. I just joined today so maybe you can help me learn about the site too.
    Anyway, I understand how you feel ,my Dad passed away as well.We were close. It took me a couple of weeks to remember and grieve. But I took the time and then I knew he was OK and in a better place. We had a celebration of his life instead of a funeral.
    And that helped to remember all the wonderful things and fun times and how much he gave to all of us. And after I gave myself that I time I picked myself up and got back to work. Each of those things helped....
    1887 days ago
  • SOFT_VAL67
    sorry to hear you are struggling. i am too...but for my own self sabatoge reasons...what you are dealing with is something i have no knowledge of, i wish i could help, but all i can do is offer words of support and encouragement.
    you said you dad wanted you to lose weight, so operate from that...every time you reach for an unhealthy, high calorie food, remember what your dad would think or say, or how it makes you feel later....
    we all go thru these downward turns and im in one myself, but trying to put my feet up against the wall to keep from sliding any farther down...
    just remember how much better you feel when you do exercise and eat healthy as opposed to the alternative
    and good luck emoticon emoticon
    1887 days ago
  • LYNNA1968
    1st I am sorry for your loss. It seems to be emotional and stress eating, now that you have a chance to think instead of on auto pilot its hitting you. (my professional opinion, lol which I am not). You have support here and you have the skills needed, it will take time but you will be where you need to be. Try to stay strong. emoticon
    1887 days ago
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