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"An evil friend will ruin your mind" - Buddha

Friday, March 22, 2013


I read a truly inspiring blog yesterday sparkpeople.com/mypage_p
by my SparkFriend LYNNWILK2 and it really made me stop and think. In fact, I've thought of very little else all day and I wanted to share it with you all. I hoped the link tried to post works so you can read her blog for yourself.

Anyway, the following are "my take" on what she wrote about:

As members of SparkPeople I think we all have a lot in common be it with regards to changing our lifestyles or maintaining the one we have now. Yes, we come from different countries, religions, upbringings, pasts, and beliefs but we all seem to find someone we have enough similarities with that we become friends. Like real friends, we encourage each other and we support each other through the good, the bad, and the downright ugly. How many times do we send woo hoos, hugs, and the like?

You know what we aren't to each other? Negative. You rarely see somebody respond to a blog with "put on your big girl panties and deal with it" etc, because we are too busy being supportive. I'm not for a minute suggesting we change the way we respond but I am suggesting we change the way we blog.

Here's a wild idea.........why don't we try to become our own best friend? I think it is high time that we start fostering the same positive attitudes and love toward ourselves that we feel towards the people we treasure as friends.

I'm as guilty as the next person for berating myself instead of giving myself a pat on the back. In fact today I had to leave work due to a migraine and as I was doping myself up all I could think of was "crap, I'm not going to get my steps in today". Then a little voice in the back of my head spoke up and said "be your own best friend"....and I did! I dug out my warmest pjs and climbed into bed to give the medication time to work. For once I'm not kicking myself for being weak or striving to be a perfectionist and I feel so good about it all tonight. I triumphantly entered 1.5 km (that I had walked earlier today) instead of entering "only" 1.5 km.

Buddha supposedly wrote " An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast will wound your body but an evil friend will wound your mind"

I'm tired of being my own evil friend - how about you?

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    Such a great blog! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1887 days ago
  • SILVER1369
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    1891 days ago
    I would say you had a break through. Being kind to yourself has got to be the key to healthy living.
    Way to go Susan! I love it.
    1891 days ago
    Love this idea, so awesome!

    Have a GREAT weekend!
    1891 days ago
  • _LINDA
    Its all the supportive, positive air that really makes me keep coming back to Sparkpeople for more. Its not like this on any other website. This is truly the best place to be safe and be yourself and get valuable life lessons along the way!
    Here is to being our own best friends!
    Have a wonderful weekend Susan!
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    1892 days ago
    I like that quote. Great blog!
    1892 days ago
    oh god Susan, thank you so much!! I will always find a reason to put myself down ,but rarely find a reason to give myself a pat on the back. If someone else were to put in the effort I do I would give them a
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    The only thing I would give myself would be the boot
    .......in the @$$........ emoticon

    What a great friend you have, and how wonderful for you to allow yourself to have a different outlook....and what a great friend I have for doing the same thing for me. What comes around goes around.
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    1892 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/22/2013 11:02:56 PM
    1892 days ago
    I am so glad that my words sparked a cord of self-care and worth with you. I am glad you are feeling better and rewarding yourself for the word that you did today, no only the walking/steps but also listening to your body, nurturing it and and being gentle and kind to it, as you would recommend the same care to a dear friend... you are a success today Susan, you made wise choices and treated yourself with respect and loving kindness.
    1892 days ago
    I am really trying to be my own best friend too!
    For once I looked in the mirror and instead of
    crying about the look, I just said hello Anna.
    That is a start. No more berating oneself.
    I want to be my best friend too! Great blog Susan.
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    1892 days ago
    i "LIKED" this cos I think you have a great point. I am slowly learning to be a better friend to myself and care for me. Hubby believes that more than I, he will say you know you can take the time to... and I have never said not to but yet you seem to think I don't want you to.
    A wk ago at the naturopath she said I am proud of you, not waivering off that plan is awesome. no gluten, sugar or dairy for 3 wks is great ( now on it for another 6 lol). I thought YEA I am proud of me too!!!
    HUGS and glad you went home, hope you feel better, and enjoy the snow --- sigh.
    1892 days ago
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