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Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Well it certainly is hump day, and in my timezone I'm about half way through the hump. I can't wait for the weekend - I'm going to sleep in (who am I kidding? I will probably be up at the crack of dawn - that's just how it goes!)

This week I've been thinking a lot about life and all that comes with it. I've been reflecting on where I've been and what my plans are and for the most part, things are going well.

As mentioned in my last blog, I'm really struggling with my job lately and I'm certain that the work I do and the lack of appreciation I receive is not worth the peanuts I'm being paid in. I'm a little lost about what I should be doing in that respect. I'm about to turn 30 and I have no career. Just a job. That worries me a lot - I was never able to afford schooling so I simply didn't go. I'm kind of at a crossroads. I decided I will keep my job here for the time being, and I'm going to start seeking out jobs I want. It may take a while for me to find the right one, but I am a very hard worker with a great personality so I'm bound to find something, right?

I am striving to make 2013 my best year yet, and I know I can do it. The last time I had that feeling I lost 60lbs in 5 months, ditched 200lbs of additional weight (in the form of an ex boyfriend), planned a trip overseas on my own (something I would never expect I'd actually do) and found a man who is perfect for me in every way. That was a wonderful year! I want to do that again, so I will.

Every month we have a little more money saved up for a down payment on a home. I never thought I'd actually be a home owner so the fact that this is almost within my grasp feels amazing. It will take some time yet still, but I'm really happy to realize just how much I've had to sacrifice to get into this position and to know that I'm doing it! That's when all my dreaming will start coming true. I have big plans to have an amazing garden, full of vegetables, herbs, flowers, everything! My plan is to slowly work to achieve sustainability. I really admire people who grow their own food, whether it's a rooftop garden in a busy urban high rise or a little family farm where you only have to go to the grocery store for a few odds and ends. I will get there. It will take a lot of time, but anything worth having seems to take time. I will probably talk a lot more about that aspect of my dreams in future blogs. I daydream about these things most of the day and it has really added a spark to my life. I am the kind of person who needs to look forward to things or else I get down in the dumps, and even though this is ridiculously long term (not to mention, no one believes I will actually make these dreams reality) it's great because I have all these days/months/years to look forward to something grand!

Do you have goals that seem ridiculously unattainable? Do you keep them a secret so people don't judge you or in fear of not being supported? Who cares what others think! If you want it, go get it!
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  • DOTTY7267
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  • FISHER011
    emoticon Great blog!
    1917 days ago
    It has been a long time since I have been brave enough to think of long term goals. Thank you for your courage. It is a great motivator for me to take the first step...
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    1920 days ago
    Loved how you ditched the 200 lb. weight. Amazing how that can weigh on you. Keep up the good work. You can do it.
    1921 days ago
    Goals / Dreams - a poem

    Hold Fast Your Dreams

    Hold fast your dreams!
    Within your heart
    Keep one still, secret spot
    Where dreams may go,
    And, sheltered so,
    May thrive and grow
    Where doubt and fear are not.
    O keep a place apart,
    Within your heart,
    For little dreams to go!

    Louise Driscoll (1875-1957 / United States)

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    30 is a great time to be thinking this way, but just know that the clock's not running out. I made a lot of major life changes in my 40s.
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  • JEM2929
    Thanks for stopping by guys!

    VegiBiker, that's so wonderful that you're going to have a B-Hag year too! Funny, I've never heard that term but I think I should start using it. Your goals really are HUGE but we both know you will make them happen. Sometimes we don't have to know how we will make them happen, just know we want these things bad enough that we will get there. All the big moves start with a single step and you will get there. I wish you the best of luck in your big year!

    Minea999, you are completely right - goals and daydreaming about what we might achieve in the future is so important. I am such a dreamer, I find myself lost in my thoughts most of the day, and that's where it all starts right? I used to never ever set goals because I just knew I couldn't accomplish anything - then I take a breath and realize I've lost a decade doing nothing all because I just don't believe in myself enough. That's changing right now. I promised myself I would give myself more credit for what I DO do and if I don't get to my goals right away, that's fine. It's no reason to give up, just more reason to keep trying. I feel great when I get to the finish line, and this will be no different :) Good luck in reaching your goals and I hope you find yourself where you want to be the most.

    MEL! We are kindred spirits I think. I am so happy to have met you here! That's great that you're into the sustainable urban gardening too. We can share what we know when the time comes to make these dreams a reality. My growing season is limited up here because it seems winter is in full effect for 7 months out of 12 but I know with a bit more research and the land to make it happen (when I get my house!) that I will grow any and everything I can make room for. How amazing would it be to know that everything we are consuming is coming from the ground under our feet! Let's make it happen!

    Also - thanks you guys. The things you said on my blog made me warm and fuzzy. I don't think I've ever inspired anyone so when you said that I seriously smiled ear to ear and I won't soon forget that. It's hilarious that when I started typing it out I was furious with how my day was going and after I hit post I felt instantly better. You guys are awesome!
    1922 days ago
    I think we might be the same person....haha. I too, dream of having a self-sustainable garden/farm! And I definitely will! I've even thought about going into a field working on sustainable urban gardening. I think that would be amazing! I really enjoy learning about herbs and plants for healing medical conditions (hence, the holistic nursing path I'm on).

    I also secretly would like to be an Indiana Jones...I love archaeology and anthropology. But I've spent way too much money on school already, it makes me sad.

    I think you are definitely doing a great thing by creating these goals! I've never been really good at goals because I'm all over the place and not organized...I'm excited to read about yours because you really do inspire!


    1923 days ago
  • MINEA999
    Setting goals and daydreaminig about them is a huge step and so important! I too have been thinking about the same types of things as you and setting some big goals for myself emotionally, physically and career-wise. Keep your goals in sight!!!
    1923 days ago
    Jennilova - it seems like you're looking for a "B-Hag" year ... what author Jim Collins calls a "Big Hairy Audacious Goal!"

    I'm older than you and also striving to make this year my best - and am very encouraged by your post - and hope you were encouraged by the end of it. The last few years have been a real struggle - and my "B-Hag" this year is to take the necessary risks for my non-profit to be flush with sufficient cash to launch into the next phase of its mission, pay off my house, lose 100lb, and wrap up 2 remodeling projects. I don't know how I'll get it all done - just that I will.

    Thank you for your post and I wish you the best as you pursue you goals! Not much feels better than slamming your life back on track!

    Good luck!


    1923 days ago
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