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Love hurts sometimes

Friday, March 08, 2013

My 17 YO darling daughter is like petting a porcupine - occasionally you get in a few strokes without getting hurt before she pelts you with spikes - then you spend the rest of the day pulling the barbs out. She talked to me today and we had 15 minutes before I said something that set her off. For the most part I can be calm and collected but there are times when what she says hits deep and hurts. She is so confused and hurting and asks me for help then pushes me away. I can only be here and that is hard because I want to help but she needs to figure this out on her own. I let her know I love her and am here for her.

So I am here for my daughter but I am also finding that I need to be here for myself. That is something that I have been sorry lacking in doing - being here for myself and showing myself consideration and kindness. This week I have been clearing my work, my home and my emotions. It is hard work but so freeing. It does make you quite tired all this clearing out.
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  • SUNSHINE5268
    (((((((((((((( hugs )))))))))))))
    1196 days ago
    I hear you on this one! I have a daughter that really put me through the wringer and STILL to this day does! All I can say is love with all your heart and forgive as best you can. Treat yourself with love and kindness as this reflects back to your DD and hopefully by being kind to yourself she can see what positive changes it brings to your life and start modeling some of her own after your example.

    Good luck dear one...raising kids is NOT for the faint hearted! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1854 days ago
    I know how you feel....been going through it for awhile with my 19 year old DD. You are doing the right thing by giving yourself love. Remember you ARE worth it!!!!
    1855 days ago
    I have 2 children ages 21 and 22. I just read a wonderful and very helpful book about communicating with them. It is called "Walking on Eggshells". It has a lot of very good ideas! perhaps it might help you. Good luck!
    1855 days ago
    Self love is very important as well as your 17 year old doghter. Please, take care of yourself. emoticon emoticon
    1928 days ago
    It gets better! emoticon
    1929 days ago
    Oh have I been there! The older teen years are so hard. I have 2 daughters 24 yrs and 26 yrs. Some days were so hard and heartbreaking,but your right, we can only offer our love and support and then have to step away and let them figure it out. It would be so easy if they listened but they need to make there own way too! Stay strong and remember that you matter!
    Great job on clearing the clutter in your life!
    1929 days ago
    Blessings in dealing with clearing it all out!

    1929 days ago
    emoticon and congrats for facing those "things" that need clearing out" emoticon
    1929 days ago
    Glad u r giving yourself some love!
    1929 days ago
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