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My Son's Dr Visit...

Thursday, March 07, 2013

Last night my son texted me and wanted to stop by my work today, then get subs at a place near our old house then take him to his Dr's appointment.
He said he didn't want us coming back with him at the Dr. We (my hubby, son and I) had extra time between the deli and the Dr so we took him to the grocery store. While in there, he said the kidney Dr told him to take would THINK that he would have picked it up when he told him to! Anyway, we bought that and other groceries for him. He stood and read every label and I could tell he is just not thinking quick. It took forever to get down three aisles. He wouldn't buy anything with sugar!

We then went to the Dr - our family Dr. My son went back by himself. After a while, they both came out. The Dr started to try to tell my husband and I a few things, then had all three of us go back to his office (there was someone else in the waiting room). The Dr is setting up an appointment for my son to see a gastroenterologist. He said his body is not absorbing nutrients. He said he told my son the only time he has seen this is with young girls with eating disorders. He said since my son told him he is eating a lot and not purging that he must have something else going on. My son is going to see the same gastroenterologist that my husband sees.

Tuesday I am going to take him to the kidney Dr for a follow up, and my family Dr is going to talk to the kidney Dr ahead of time.

I asked my son if he liked what the family Dr was doing, and he said he did and that the family Dr was going to get to the bottom of it.

I did observe that it took my son a long time to eat his lunch. He ate 1/2 of a chicken wrap. He then waiting a little while, then slowly at the rest. Before this happened, he always ate half, then wrapped the other half for another meal. I packed my lunch today and brought it with me (trader joe's greek salad, cottage cheese and a pack of pink salmon). The salmon was a double portion size. I ate half and gave the other half to my son. He ate it after we came out of the Dr's office. I brought up how I noticed he was eating slow. He said he didn't want to feel sick.

He wanted to stop at GNC on the way home. He picked up muscle milks. He drank 1/2 of a big one on the way home.

Tonight he is going to an ice hockey game. He asked my husband to go with him, my husband told him he already had plans. I was stunned. He has plans but I felt like my son was reaching out to him and his plans were not a big deal. I felt like yelling at him, but I didn't. When my son was with the Dr, my husband said he regretted saying that. My son hardly has energy to walk, we have no idea how he is going to make it tonight. My son told his girlfriend she could go so it was too late to change. Later, my husband asked when the next game was - he said Sunday. So, they are going to that one.

I did manage to get into work early and get to PT this morning. I bought a stick at the running store this afternoon to rub on my IT band and quad. Already used it once, boy is it sore!

I am so happy that tomorrow is FRIDAY!
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    It sounds like he is burning more calories than he is taking in. This can make you feel woozy and nauseous. I hope he gets a doctor that knows about eating disorders. He may feel like giving up with that girlfriend! Sadly, he may feel it is the only way out of his situation with her.

    I would tell her that your son is sick and for the time being, needs to be by himself. Do you think she wrecked the car on purpose, or had a flat on purpose. I have seen some women that think they have to be the center of attention, regardless of how the other person is feeling. They let them fend for themselves instead of trying to care for them physically.
    1893 days ago
    Catching up on your blogs and news since last week. There are some encouraging things here.
    - He thinks he's eating a lot, but people with ED do think that. The fact that he's eating a little more is perhaps a sign of being more objective about it.
    - It's also good that the dr. introduced the concept of an eating disorder, without hitting him over the head with it yet. Maybe that indicates that there is time to ease into treatment? (It's also possible that the dr. is just nonconfrontational, I suppose.)
    - He. Reached. Out. That must do a mom's heart good.

    1899 days ago
    I know someone who would get very sick when she ate and would have to eat very slow and very little. She found out that she had IBS and they gave her a diet of certain foods to eat and what will help absorb more nutrients etc.. I have to say you are an amazing role model with everything you have done for yourself and the knowledge you have about food and eating well you can teach him so much and really help him. It is a hard road not knowing etc.. but it looks like you are getting to the bottom of everything and bringing your family together in the mean time.
    1901 days ago
    I hope you'll find out what's going on with your son, and he gets adequate treatment and gets better!
    Your son is lucky to have such wonderful, caring and supporting parents.

    1901 days ago
    I don't know if you realize what an inspiration you are to those of us just getting into the healthy stealth mode. You are going through a really tough time, and you are treating yourself with exercise and healthy habits. That is so awesome. I'm looking forward to being in your shoes some day.

    Keep up the great work!
    1902 days ago
    I know you didn't ask for advice, so I apologize if I'm stepping out of bounds. I'd look into seeing a doctor that has experience or specializes with eating disorders. His behaviors from this blog and from others make it sound like it would be worth checking out. And if its totally off base, then you can move forward without any questions in the back of your mind.
    1903 days ago
    1903 days ago
    Sounds like things are slowly turning around with your son. At least you know he got some decent food in him today. Continuing prayers....

    I too am VERY glad tomorrow's Friday!
    1903 days ago
    It sounds like encouraging news that he is listening to the Dr. Will keep you all in my prayers! emoticon
    1903 days ago
    Sometimes hearing things from someone other than your parent really hits home. I hope that the dr's are able to help your son. You are doing so fantastic at remaining strong.
    1903 days ago
    It sure sounds like your son has an eating disorder, and the Dr was stereotyping by saying young girls, it is something that boys do also succumb to.

    Eating slowly is one of the classic signs, too.

    Examining every label for sugar - why did he need to? Unless he has been told medically to avoid sugar?

    I hope you are successful with the doctors. Is it possible to talk to the doctor separately and explore the possibility of anorexia?

    My niece suffered from that, and had to be hospitalised (sectioned) for a few months. She, her father and her sister went through family counselling. Her mother's death triggered it, and they were all grieving.

    1903 days ago
    You're a fantastic mom, and I'm so happy for you that the lines of communication are reforming between your son and you/your husband!
    1903 days ago
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