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Help Me Understand Why People of All Sizes Can't Just Get Along

Wednesday, March 06, 2013

I am truly hurt by the fact that people of different sizes seem to think that the other size is judging them, without stopping to think that they're also judging the other size.

Truthfully, it's difficult to lose weight and it's difficult to maintain a healthy weight.

The person trying to lose weight needs to burn calories at the gym and the person trying to maintain a certain weight needs to burn calories at the gym.

I hear so many comments in which both sides of people feel like they're being judged, but rarely does someone stop to point the finger back at themselves.

I'm not faultless here, either. I've fallen into the trap.

We should all be inspired by each other and respect each other's journey, give each other support no matter what.

I'll admit that this post might get me into trouble, but please understand that it hurts me as much as it hurts you to be judged.
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    I had hoped the world had become more tolerant and sensitive to size issues but it sounds like it not. I grew up during the Barbie size era so I have spent my entire life trying to reach that size but I know from lots of reading and experience I will never be a Barbie. There are some people who have no idea that we can't all be Barbies and they judge everyone by that size. These people are narrow minded and not people you can change so you just ignore them.

    "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time"
    1928 days ago
    I agree with you 100%. I felt same and got hurt when I was judged by my size. Why can we all be friends, no matter of the size. I can be a good supporter, regardless of my size.
    1929 days ago
    I feel that no one really knows the other persons journey except the person themself. I try and say positive, kind words. emoticon emoticon
    1929 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/6/2013 6:02:09 PM
  • FRAN0426
    I'm one that can relate to all of this. As a child and even in young adulthood I was stick thin, andcould eat anything I wanted and as much as I wanted; well didn't I hear about you are to skinny, you need to gain some weight. Oh how I tried, but to no avail. Fawst track to my fourties, and little by little weight started creeping up. Now all of a sudden all the poor habits were working against me. Now at almost 68 I am a type two Diabetic, and struggle to lose the amount of weight I want to get off. So I'm overweight--know the stares from both perspectives. It would be nice if we all could get along; as I find myself envying those thin girls-just with a few more pounds added.
    1929 days ago
  • KA_JUN
    I always try to err on the side of being positive and supportive. We don't know everyone's challenges or hurdles, goals, or attempts.

    We should probably just try to help each other progress, because everyone being able to achieve their goals would be truly a great thing to behold!
    1929 days ago
    It's a good point. Pride can look down or up. We used to talk about this concerning wealth, but it applies to weight too.
    1929 days ago
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