Stress and Eating!

Wednesday, March 06, 2013

My recent bout of "The Troubles" (written about in several previous blogs), which I've re-named "Mother Madness" has earned me 3 extra pounds! I no longer come home and eat a pint of ice cream after dealing with my 90 year old, very independent and uncooperative mother. I'm thankful for that! However, I do still seem to compensate by overeating certain "comfort" foods. sigh

I'm stuck. Too old to be emancipated, lol. Can't divorce her. Have no siblings. If I ignore her, she's on the phone with a barrage of nastiness to both my sons, who are always wonderful to her and help me a lot. (She did tell someone at the grocery store the other day, where I take her at least once a week, that "I have no children" - I should have recorded that and made it official, hmm?)

I was only about 2 lbs from goal and now I'm 5 lbs from goal. While talking with my primary care physician this week, about my recent struggle to keep my blood pressure in line, we made a discovery that confirms what I already knew.

He took my BP first. It was a little high. Not unusual for a doctor's office visit. Then we talked about my mother a while and he took my BP again and it had gone UP 40 pts!

When stressed, my mind empties of all the good, healthy lifestyle proven ways of staying in a healthy zone, and I curl up and eat, don't exercise, etc. etc.

So, I'm promising myself to get a grip here! I'll go back in 6 months for the full blood test ritual and blood pressure, of course. I know what to do. I've developed my own plan over a period of a year's worth of trial and error. Now to JUST DO IT!

While in this process, I'm lowering my goal by 5 lbs too. I was at the top of my accepted range with the first goal. I know I'll be safer and healthier if I reach a slightly lower goal.

So here I go. Back to swimming, walking, cutting out starch and sugar as much as possible and consuming all the veggies I can! AND measuring blood pressure, blood sugar, logging food - every single day.

I've been down this path before. The tracks should be easy to follow, lol.

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    1853 days ago
    emoticon emoticon Sorry I'm late in reading your blog. Hoping and praying things will settle down and you can relax for a while.
    God Bless and (((Hugs)))
    1899 days ago
    Karen I am so sorry you have to deal with your mother stress. But I also know you are aware of what you need to do and WILL manage to reach our goals.

    My stress from last year caused me to gain 10 pounds. I should say I let it be my excuse because actually I could have kept on exercising and eating correctly, but I instead used that as my excuse. Why or why do we do this to ourselves. We are old enough to know better and still we do it anyway.


    1906 days ago
  • KATHY024
    Maybe it's time to put yourself First in your life Sounds harsh but maybe you will be able to cope with your difficult aging mom a little better if you put her in the "backseat" position and work on your own health and happiness. emoticon You will make it back!

    1907 days ago
    emoticon Wishing you peace and patience.
    1907 days ago
  • JEANNE229
    I had a "troublesome" mom, too. It IS stressful, but what do you do? Thankfully you get away from some of it with Joe. SO glad you have that enjoyable relationship. It sounds like the perfect one! Mom had several brain scans that showed "infarcts" which damage the brain and change the personality. She was a sweet woman but died very sad and mean. Yet I miss her still.
    1908 days ago
    Karen, it's so difficult to deal with our mothers.
    We are going to south Ga. to celebrate mother's 90th birthday. The immediate family is meeting at a restaurant for dinner. We are keeping it simple and stress-free if that' s possible.
    She has had a bad week. She saw 2 doctors yesterday.

    Good luck. I understand what you are going through.
    1908 days ago
  • GABY1948
    Karen, where would we be without our sons? If you remember I went through almost this very thing with my mother until she "left" in 2006. When I read things like this blog I am SO thankful that I don't have to go through them anymore! Another thing I am thankful for is that, like you, I am nothing like her...I am like my dad totally! God Bless you and one day you will have some peace of mind. Though it took me about 2 years to relax after she was gone...I, to this day, hate the phone ringing!
    And your are my chief inspiration for being able to get the health right...and I have not a doubt that you will emoticon
    1908 days ago
    Hang in thee, my friend. You have inspired me so much with your words of wisdom - about my health and eating issues, for example. This is a good place to vent your frustration. As you support others, let yourself be supported by our encouragement. WE know you can do it and we know you know how!
    emoticon - Mo
    1908 days ago
    Oh dear, Karen I am sorry to hear shes still as spirited as ever emoticon Good on you for stepping back a bit to remember all the tools you have at your ready to take care of you. Good luck on your new goal my friend, you'll do great!

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    1908 days ago
    I can relate. I had a difficult relationship at times with my mother. You must take care of yourself though and set limits. This is not good for either of you and you know it. Good luck!
    1908 days ago
    Best of luck.
    1908 days ago
    I'm rooting for you, Karen. I firmly believe that when we have your kind of success in our history, it's easier to pick up the pieces and do it again. Most of us never go all the way back.
    I've been too easy on myself over the years. So accommodating that I've kept giving myself a new "ceiling", i.e., top weight beyond which I won't go. I'm now working at knocking back one of those ceilings and once goal is reached, never to return to that easy goal. I'll soon have that 10 pound ceiling behind me (no joking!).
    1908 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/6/2013 8:12:08 AM
  • --KREN
    Thanks, Nell, but this is really not a personality change for my mother. If you weren't a nice young lady, or a nice middle aged lady, you won't be nice old lady either!
    My sons are like yours. Mostly let it roll off. One of them is not quite as good at it as the other, lol. But they always advise me to try to be that way.

    1908 days ago
  • MOGAL1946
    Good for you in getting a grip and not letting all the stress stop you for reaching your goals. You have done it before and you will succeed again. Sometimes it's a big step from knowing what to do and actually doing it, but you said it all with the "Just Do It"! emoticon emoticon
    1908 days ago
    I so understand! My mother is the same way. I wish I had my kids' equanimity, or my sister's. Mom's mental issues just go over their heads. They tell me to just let her be the a** she has become, it's not her fault, there is nothing I can do about it. If I knew the answer I'd patent it and be a gazillionaire. At least I saw her MRI which showed all those hundreds of tiny strokes. Maybe your mother is the same?
    1908 days ago
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