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Handling Disappointment

Sunday, March 03, 2013

I've come to realize that Overcoming Disappointment is a skill that I need to acquire. Yesterday morning, I was handed a large disappointment and I let it ruin my whole day and at the end of the day, I had a binge-eating session before going to bed. Not a stellar day to say the least.

So, today is a new day. I'm still down...about the it carries on through today...and about not continuing with my eating control. Honestly, when I started overeating, my thoughts were, "I really don't care now...who cares...I don' doesn't matter." And I ate. Today, I am still feeling pretty down. I think I will get out for awhile and do some walking...probably go to Half-Price Books and browse around. I think I may be too deep in the middle of this to make any good decisions or get any good perspective right now.

I think I am going to write down some questions that I can review later when I come out of this funk. I read in my 100 Ways to Happiness book yesterday about being our own guru. I think I could do that. I think I would have answers for myself...but not right now. Right now, I am barely functional. I am going to wash the dishes and get the kitchen cleaned up and then head out for awhile. I think I just need to be out and alone. I have a lot to think about.

Hope you all are having a good weekend! Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on!
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  • DS9KIE
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  • JSPIN74
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  • SHARON10002
    I hear you, Cathy. I just drafted a Pledge of Allegiance to my Body, and the ultimate goal is to learn to love myself and my body. Here is one of my pledges/goals:
    "I promise not to criticize myself, punish myself, or feel guilty when I make a mistake. I am human, not perfect; I know that my mistakes are a way to help me learn, which then helps me become stronger."
    If you can learn to approach it this way, a mistake i.e. an error in judgement contains within it a silver lining.
    Here's another:
    "I pledge to never again to participate in a barrage of bashing of myself. This includes picking myself apart when I make an error in judgment or a mistake – no matter how big or small."
    I believe these two go hand in hand and compliment each other.
    Don't be so hard on yourself, Cathy. The sooner you let go of your anger with yourself, the sooner you can get back on track again, and heal.
    1904 days ago
    I am sorry to hear of your disappointment and the binge. We all handle things differently at different times. Some days we are strong and others not so much. I think your plan to go out and get your mind off it is good.
    I hope you feel better today. emoticon
    1905 days ago
    I hope you are doing better today.
    1906 days ago
    I am behind reading my blogs. I do hope all is well with you and want you to know I am thinking of you. emoticon
    1906 days ago
    Sorry to hear that you are feeling so disappointed. Hope you can work through the issues soon and get back to track. You can do this, we are here for you. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1906 days ago
  • BOPPY_
    This post was a real eye-opener for me.

    I handle some disappoint well, and, some, very badly.

    First, the good news. For things where I prepare myself, I handle it well. I'm very good, now, at handling disappointments in weight loss, and conditioning. I've also gotten good at not letting other disappointments impact nutrition, and fitness.

    I'm awful, however, at dealing with other disappointments, and you've made me realize, that I've got work to do. emoticon

    Now, why would a total stranger have so much impact on me?

    Because I know how hard it is to lose weight, and you've blown me away with your credibility!

    Keep after it.

    I'm d____d impressed!

    Lee emoticon

    1907 days ago
  • L1LL1AN_M
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    1907 days ago
    Your visit to Half Price Books is something that I would enjoy! It occurred to me as I read this that I need to do make a list of 4 or 5 things to do when I need to handle disappointment in a way other than food. Thanks for the food for thought!
    1907 days ago
    Don't worry about the binge, GF. I'm more concerned about you. I am praying for you and for a good outcome to this problem. You are a wonderful person. Love you!
    1907 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/3/2013 12:28:06 PM
    I hate disappointment. It is so disappointing. I also get so disappointed in myself when I gain weight by binge eating after the initial disappointment. Okay, enough talking about disappointing disappointments!

    Yesterday, I had a crappy day. Report cards to do, a return trip to the hospital due to wife's kidney stones, too much to deal with. While sitting in the emergency room and my wife sleeping I went for a walk. Briefly looked at a vending machine but instead turned away and went outside for a walk in the cold rainy night. You know what, it felt way better.

    I guess I am saying, look at the way you are dealing with disappointment and see if you can find a better alternative that gets you back in the right frame of mind.
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    1907 days ago
    it is disappointment or tragedy? if it's not tragedy please reconsider your feelings. I had 3 very bad weeks last month and I realized how happy I was before emoticon I'm also an emotional eater but that time everything tasted like sand , I couldn't eat anything. I didn't even know I could react that way. I stopped eating , sleeping , breathing properly and I was wondering what will I do for the rest of my life . fortunately God was good and sort of repaired things. so please don't do things that will make you feel even worse. emoticon emoticon
    1907 days ago
    Hi! I'm sorry about the disappointment you've encountered. But, your post is very thoughtful and even optimistic. You have a fabulous idea to clean up the kitchen and then get out for a walk. I hope you are already doing that and that it helps bring you some clarity and perhaps clearer thoughts. It's never fun to deal with disappointment. Please try to stop it from ruining your day.

    Take care.
    1907 days ago
    Don't beat up on yourself. You have been doing really well. In the past 2 years one of the biggest things that I have learned was that it's not whether we are perfect or never binge, it's how we get back on track. I think that beating yourself up or getting really stressed makes it worse. Of course this is easy for me to say, I am having some discouragement myself right now, and beating myself up...need to blog about it, will probably do it today! Be kind to yourself and back to your program as soon as yoy can.
    1907 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/3/2013 11:15:55 AM
    I too find the days I feel happy I can conquer the world those other days lets just say I should have stayed in bed... I'm learning however that If I make the time to evaluate the issue that plagues me , usually by taking a walk and talking it over with myself, I can dissect it until I find a positive and then hold on to that to get through the day. Walking it out is how I refer to my self talk and the miles I put in have done wonders for my weight loss progress... Best Wishes for lots of rainbows in your life... emoticon
    1907 days ago
    Many emoticon for you Cathy.
    Please take special care...& you're absolutely right! Don't beat yourself up, just keep moving forward! Today's a new day & new beginning! You'll recover nicely, & when you're able, you'll find the answers you seek! It's a process! You are loved, my friend!

    1907 days ago
    Big Hugs... times like this are... tough. If I can just see my way past it and get into some activity, I can usually get past it. Food is a huge panacea, but always backfires. I say this 23 lbs up, and it took me awhile to get it back in gear. In the meantime, love yourself and I hope you feel better soon.

    1907 days ago
    Sending a hug! It is hard to keep your mind from free from expectations. Wishing you a better day today!!
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  • HOLLYM48
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    I hope you are feeling better about yourself soon. We can do this. emoticon emoticon
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    keep looking forward and not behind u
    1907 days ago
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