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94 lbs lost so far, small frustrating issue & March Goals

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Every time I make plans to go over a friend's house or party, I have to ask if I should eat first. I feel bad asking every time, but I always assume they are going to order a pizza. Usually I am correct & they are planning on getting JUST pizza. =( Normally I don't care that I eat differently than most people I know. I only get weird about it when I know everyone else is going to have pizza and I won't eat it. If I was allergic to wheat or couldn't digest cheese it would be one thing... but it is my choice to not eat it. People poke fun at me for not eating it even though they know I have my own diet. I guess I need to get over it, but it does hurt hearing the same jabs every single time I say "I don't eat ____ anymore". I could eat the pizza and put it on my tracker, but I am worried it will cause my stomach to be upset. I also wouldn't be filled up and would still be hungry after eating it! After I ask if I should eat first, and I am told there will be pizza, I never know what to say back. Usually I say ok I will bring something for myself - but then the person gets worried or asks a ton of questions. They wonder if they should do something else instead etc.. I feel bad asking before I go, but I just want to know if I should eat first or if I should bring something for myself. Even though I ask every single time, I still feel bad when the same people get all weird after. Any suggestions on what to do?

I know I overanalyze sometimes, but I can't help it. I don't want to have a grumbly tummy the whole time I am supposed to be having a good time. That will cause me to grumpy. I also don't want to bother the people by always asking what is going on. Oh well - this is my lifestyle now, I need to get over it!!!!

On another note, I have yoga again tonight. Woohoo. I need to go on the treadmill more - I get on maybe twice a week. Not enough! I wanted to sign up for a 5K 3/10, but I don't know if I am ready. I am never ready for them unfortunately. Somehow I can't get myself to run more often even though I want to!

Hopefully everyone is still pushing towards their Feb goals. And hopefully you are thinking about your March goals! I didn't make my healthy weight goal this month.. but I am not giving up. I am at 156 right now, and I am really happy about that!

****Accomplished February Goals****
- Did every weighin & team challenge the best I could!
- Used the measuring tape once
- Tracked my protein & stayed in range most days.
- Tried new recipes & batch meals
- I have been eating most home-cooked meals at work
-Signed up for 2 spring challenges & 1 March Challenge
- Saved some money
- Stood up for myself & continued to stay positive

****My March Goals****
- Continue my 5K training!
- Continue using the measuring tape at least once a month
- Only have tortilla chips twice a week
- If I eat french fries, try to only eat them once a week
- Sign up for another 5K
- Continue prepaid yoga classes
- Try 4 new healthier Recipes
- Stay committed to the Challenges even during busy season
- Aim for 1,000 fitness minute trophy for March!
- Continue to do non-workout activities I enjoy even if I go alone(craft & pet fairs)
- Try to stay patient with my parents even when they are on the fritz!
- Don't get discouraged if I don't reach all of my goals!

***Ultimate Goals***
- Be at healthy weight (155) by April 30, 2013!
- Be at 100 pounds lost & weigh 150pounds - no deadline
- Complete any 5K in 30 minutes - no deadline

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    Yeah, I know what you mean! I'd just say, "ok, thanks." and be done. Then eat before or bring something to eat there (whichever would make you more comfortable. Or eat before and bring a bag of baby carrots to share.

    I have so many social food situations where I turn down the food now, I don't think people think it's strange now. But all those times with the pizza is one of the reasons I got to where I was in the first place.
    1847 days ago
    I'm so proud of you! I can't believe people poke fun! The 94 pounds is a testament that you care about you. I commend you for the dedication. So many of us would just go ahead and eat the pizza.
    1908 days ago
  • KLYNE00
    Keep up the great work! You are a very good role model and motivator for me.
    1909 days ago
  • SHARON10002
    emoticon on your terrific weight loss of 94 pounds! That has definitely taken some perseverance, persistence, and willpower! You did terrific in achieving your February goals, and I'm sure you will do the same with your March goals.
    As for your friends, I am in agreement with the other posters - they don't seem supportive, and to me, it seems that they are just taunting you with pizza to see if you'll cave. I applaud you for your willpower, and determination. I'm not that strong yet.
    Maybe you could suggest bringing a beautiful salad to your next get together to serve along with the pizza.
    Good Luck with losing your last 6 pounds! I don't think it will be long!

    1911 days ago
    Congratulations on your awesome loss, you have every right to feel proud.
    When dealing with the food pushers I just say I am full but thanks, no diet talk, no weight loss talk and change the subject. Trust me your visable results speak for themselves. You don't have to explain anything. Maybe time to start looking for more supportive friends:) emoticon
    1913 days ago
    Congratulations on your overall weight loss. Just amazing! Your friends don't sound that supportive of your new lifestyle. That's a shame. Stick to your guns though because you are doing awesome!
    1913 days ago
    Maybe you can gradually start finding other friends, because these people don't sound like very good friends. In fact they sound like major sabotours.
    1914 days ago
    Good luck with losing the last 6 pounds, you can definitely do it by the end of April!

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  • BRENDA_G50
    emoticon emoticon stand firm on what YOU want to do. It's YOUR journey and everyone should understand that if you don't want pizza or if it's one of your triggers, then they should graciously accept that fact. emoticon on your weight loss. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1914 days ago
    You are so incredibly close to your overall goal - so inspiring! As a vegetarian surrounded by a meat-loving family, I can totally relate to your eating challenge. It always amazes me how people respond to eating choices and habits of others. Try to let it slide and keep doing what you're doing - it's obviously paying off!
    1914 days ago
    94lbs.. holy cow! You are still going along at a great pace, and it's got to be because you have been so strong around pizza, too! :)

    I get kind of annoyed when I get together with a freind and I suggest we have lunch. The first thing she does is list 3 places I'd prefer to not go to (Chinese, mexican, etc) and says "Oh, but you can't have that."

    I hate having to explain that I COULD have that if I REALLY REALLY wanted, but sometimes there's just no telling how many calories are on an enchilada plate, or what the heck is in Chinese food, you know?

    My suggestion would be.. continue to do what you are doing! They want to get pizza, and you know you don't want it? No problem! Without flat out lying and telling everyone you have an allergy, I'd suggest when they say there will be pizza, just say "Ok, thanks!" And that way, when you meet up with everyone, you can just say "I've already eaten," or "I didn't want pizza, so I brought my own." By now, your freinds ought to understand! If they keep picking on you about it, then it might be time to tell them flat out that that they are hurting your feelings. I've learned that being brutally blunt about it usually gets results.

    My dad told me something pretty cruel when I started gaining weight. He said, "Fat people have fat freinds," and basically told me to ditch all the people I called freinds around town, because he thought they were too fat. It is true, though, that groups of people tend to eat the same way together, and they'll probably try to get anyone eating differently to fall into line and be like the rest of the group. I applaud your strength and determination with this subject.

    Don't let them get to you. You are doing what you need to do for yourself, and not them! They can suck it. :X
    1914 days ago
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    1914 days ago
    You are doing great! I love the way you are taking care of yourself when you visit friends even though it feels hard to ask about the food. You are being very smart.
    1914 days ago
    Good on you for sticking to your eating plan. So proud of you! Keep it up.

    congrats on all the goals reached so far and I just know your next set of goals is going to be a major success :)
    1914 days ago
    What about asking if you can bring something? If there's something you can eat that is shareable like carrots and hummus, maybe turkey pinwheels or something, people would probably not notice that you're not eating the pizza. If that's not an option, I think I'd eat a light meal first, and then have just a small slice and stick with plain cheese or veggie if they have it. And the 94 pounds is amazing, you are doing so great!
    1914 days ago
    Great accomplishment and March plan. Your ultimate goal is around corner. Hung in there.
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    1914 days ago
    It is so amazing to see how close you are to your ultimate goals. You must be so proud of yourself. It is so inspiring to see how far you have come on your journey. Best of luck with your goals for March!
    1914 days ago
    Way to go on your journey so far. You are a real inspiration to me. If I know what someone is serving and know I shouldn't eat it then I say something like my digestion is acting up and I may just bring a little fruit or veggie dish to tide me over. Most real friends don't mind.

    1915 days ago
  • SLEE103
    94 pounds?!! that is tremendous! what an happy for you! your friends should be too rather than getting all weird. Anyway, I completely understand where you are coming from and I KNOW its hard...but maybe just ask if there will be food there or what kind, and when they answer, just a simple okay thanks! will suffice rather than making them feel bad if you say then I'll bring something (or you could just offer to so you know whatever you bring will be healthy). If you leave it at a yes/no there will or won't be food then you'll know how to plan without an awkward discussion.

    Keep it up, you are so strong!
    1915 days ago
    Kimpy, it certainly is difficult to eat differently from the people we hang out with. I just am surprised that your friends aren't beginning to ask you what they might add in to the meal for you. I would think that if you have repeatedly brought some of your own foods they would consider having food which suits you and them. It's unfortunate that hasn't happened. I like the suggestion made above to say, Is there anything I can bring because it is true that when you ask that people will often say no but tell what they are planning to have. What would happen if you brought something you could eat and could share to add into the pizza meal for your friends. Perhaps they would start to see that it doesn't have to be an all or nothing---yours and theirs but that with it all there people can pick and choose from both options....Just thinking.
    On another note: Fantastic work on the goals. You are such an incredible role model to many. I'm getting so excited for you reaching your maintainence goal and 100 lbs lost goal. That is such an accomplishment.
    You've reminded me that's it's time to start review goals and writing March goals. Wasn't thinking about it yet but will today now.
    Have a terrific Tuesday.
    1915 days ago
  • LYNSEY723
    Do you even see how close you are to 155! SOOOOOO CLOSE!!! You can do it!

    As far as the asking what there is to eat when you go to social events... you have every right! Maybe you should just keep a little cooler in your car and keep food in there any time you go to such an event. Then, if they do have pizza you can just run out to your car and eat whatever you brought. If they have something other than pizza - then SCORE and you didn't have to ask! Just a thought... :)

    Good luck!
    1915 days ago
  • JSPIN74
    1915 days ago
    Congratulations to your weight loss thus far! Keep up the good work!
    1915 days ago
    WELL DONE with your weight loss If we go to friends i always ask if there is any thing i can bring to eat and they usually say no we are having---------Then i know what is ahead and can work around it emoticon
    1915 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/26/2013 2:28:58 PM
    Yikes! You are making me feel very lucky to have supportive friends!

    If I cheat it is absolutely my choice and not something anybody is pressuring me to do.
    1915 days ago
    It can be tough, I try my best to plan around functions like that too. But unfortunately we can't help but feel we are hurting someone's feelings if we turn down certain food that they have there. Luckily, everyone here is understanding usually but they also poke fun. But remind me how happy they are. You have done wonderful and are still doing fantastic. Which is way awesome. Just stick to your guns, I'm also getting to the point that if I eat something greasy or fatty or too high in sugar I don't feel well often groggy so I try and avoid that, and often take a small bite or two of whatever they have to make them happy. Wishing you the best of luck on your goals.

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    1915 days ago
    I vividly remember my mother's response when someone was pressuring her to have a drink. She said, "I don't question your right to drink, please don't question my right not to." Give it a try.
    1915 days ago
    Sorry you're having to deal with people's weirdness. Some people just can't grasp how others can PREFER to eat healthier food instead of the junky items.

    Only one more pound to the healthy weight goal! You can do it!

    Good luck on your March goals!
    1915 days ago
  • RAMONA1954
    It's rough when you eat different than everyone else and people can be so cruel about it too. Keep up your fantastic job! Look at all you've accomplished! Good luck with the 5k.
    1915 days ago
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