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Monday, February 25, 2013

It's been an UP-hill battle!The emotions are the roller coaster ride.My Kids are grown and I can go and do what I want.They can't take it!They want to run my life!!I try to be kind and considerate but...HOW?If I have plans with my friends,they want to be included.I'm enjoying working out,taking walks,hiking,shopping,lunching
,etc.I see them just not as much as before.I go and see them and stay an hour and return home.They didnt give a HOOT when they were living their lives.NO im not playing the payback card.My DH says they are used to me running to them when they ask.I've turned the tables and now they are worried.I was originally,putty in their hands.My backbone has grown alot. emoticon They are still my universe just,not the center of it! emoticon emoticon SUSAN
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  • KIMBERLY19732
    Most people do not like change. I've seen this many times. A wedding in the family? Someone has big drama. A big financial gain? Big drama. A new baby? dramaCollege graduation? Big drama and so on.
    I believe people get worried about how a change will affect their place in the family. You know? Most times it seems to be subconcious, and isn't about the person who has graduated, married, lost weight (or whatever). It seems that is about the friend, or spouse or children who are SEEING the change, their insecurities.

    Many times this is seen as "Oh Sister Sally is jealous that her brothers finances are better so she is trying to get attention."

    There may be truth to that as well.

    I have seen positive results with

    1-time, everyone sees that the new baby in the family is NOT a bad thing.

    2-reassurance, when a person sees that they are still loved and esteemed.

    3-setting some boundaries--but trying to "make it up to them" or balance things a bit. Not giving up your new healthy lifestyle but inviting them to join SOMETIMES. Or asking them to spend a day together, let them choose the activity. Just be clear that this is a compromise-not a surrender emoticon
    1912 days ago
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