I’m Not a Complete Idiot, Parts Are Missing!

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

It seems whenever I begin to show a weight loss, I start getting the “What is your secret" question. I usually chuckle since I find the “What is your secret" question funny.

As we know the "secret" is hard work. We all want a quick fix, some advantage that will make it easy! Well there is no secret or quick fix or magic pill. There is only dedication, effort and hard work. It is easy to put the weight on and a struggle to get and keep the weight off.

If there were a "secret" that made it easy, we would all know the "secret".

My heart goes out to those that are suffering from with weight problems due to other medical issues. Your medical situations tug at my heart strings and this blog is not directed your way.

However I am sure that over 50% of us here are so because we took in more calories into our bodies than we expended through physical effort.

I am an emotional eater, addicted to food, who binges due to emotional distress, stress or even as a celebration of a good event. When I was younger and burned 3,000 calories a day through physical activity, I could eat as I wanted and not have a weight issue. As each phase of my life opened before me, I took time from my physical activities to devote to the new phase of my life:

• Graduating College (University of the State of New York) and getting a full-time job meant less time for physical activity
• Marriage meant less time for physical activity
• Our first child meant less time for physical activity
• Our second child meant less time for physical activity
• Our third child meant less time for physical activity

I gained over 110 pounds, then finally realized the error of my ways, got my consummation under control, reintroduced daily exercise to my routine and lost all 110 pounds. Then after a few years of maintenance I got on the downward slope once more. I regained the 110 pounds I’s lost plus another 45 for a grand total gain of 155 pounds.

This has taught me that when I complete my 155 pound loss, the maintenance mode must be maintained for the rest of my life.

I find the thousands of Sparkers here that have lost huge amounts of weight and are still here interacting with SparkPeople truly inspiring in a “if they can do it, I must be able to do it to” manner.

We can do this! Remember to keep going and do not stop your efforts.

Also I want to see if I can get my blog “King of all Weight Yo-yos Abdicating the Throne” voted a featured blog so please read or re-read the blog and click “I Liked This Blog”.
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    So much common sense many people seem to just be lacking in common sense. Yeah, you have to work hard, and it takes time. Oh well, the time will be passing anyway, won't it? Might as well have something to show for it.
    1917 days ago
  • 1GROVES2 they not only can`t do it, but they don`t believe you did either! lol
    I quit (cold turkey, no substitutes, patches, pills, etc.) a 30 year smoking habit and all my smoking friends wanted my secret, when I told them it was God, well they "didn`t believe He would do that for them", or they "weren`t as religious as me"...
    Working and Believing go hand in hand in any situation we want to change.
    Thanks for sharing your story,
    1919 days ago
    You are not alone! emoticon
    1919 days ago
    Thispost speaks to me
    1919 days ago
  • KITT52
    after I lost 210 pound people would ask how I did it...and I would say eat less exercise more and they would get a strange look on there face and say .....Oh that never worked for me...i did that once for a week and I was still took me over 3 years to loose ..they just say I could never do that...

    the real work is keeping it off, I work at it every day...some days are good some not so good, but each morning is a chance for a fresh start a new day and one more day to do my best....

    good luck ..this is the fight of your life...
    1919 days ago
  • FRAN0426
    There can't be a person that doesn't know that losing weight is dedication along with plan hard work. People who ask whats your secret are just hoping someone has found an easy way out---not going happen. Even those who do the surgery thing still need to adhere to a routine of watching what the eat, or they can start gaining weight back. I think we need to tell these people suck it in , do exercise and lower the serving size of what you eat--thats the only secret around.
    1919 days ago
    Wow, can I relate to this....check out my blog from a few days ago on "My Journey..." I also failed to sign up for maintenance and now am back with more work to do than ever. Won't make that mistake again! Glad I 'm not alone. Thanks for sharing.
    1919 days ago
    haha I love this.
    1919 days ago
    I hear ya on the question! I usually ignore the question...cuz like you, I hate it. Just be proud of me and move on...I don't know. Like you said, there's no magic pill...just hard work and determination.

    Well done! Great blog!
    1919 days ago
  • FROSTY99
    Amen brother, there is not quick fix and this must be a whole new way of living not just until we lose the weight-that is what most of us forget!!

    1919 days ago
    Great blog and I can sure identify with the same issues!!! Thanks for posting!
    1919 days ago
    Good for you, Marty, for not giving up! emoticon
    1920 days ago
    You are doing right Marty! You can do it and you figured out this is for LIFE, it doesn't' end.
    Perseverance pays off as does accountability. Those who show up "go up" or as in the case of spark, those who show up "keep it off".

    1920 days ago
  • KAYDE53
    You're right! I've a mix of overeating & medical problems, so it's always one fighting the other, and slow going at best!! Good luck to you!! emoticon
    1920 days ago
  • ANDY_54
    Losing weight is ahrd, end of story. But the pay-offs are wonderful! Great blog! We can do this!!
    1920 days ago
    LOL @ your title.

    Our poor kids... they always get blamed for our emotional eating and our weight gain.
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    1920 days ago
    You're awesome! I'm with you! I totally understand where you're coming from here. Back when I was in college I had plenty of time to be active and could eat whatever I wanted whenever I wanted - and looked great doing it. But after graduating, getting married, having two wonderful kiddos...well, there just isn't enough time and energy in the day - especially with a full time job! I worked really hard last year (pre-SparkPeople) to loose the first round of baby weight, now I'm kind of stuck. So here I am with all of you great people forging ahead! I look to all of you to help keep me motivated! I will definitely be watching your blog. Keep up the good work!
    1920 days ago
  • LINDA!
    You are an inspiration to us. I agree that it was so much easier when we were young with no responsibilities. It takes a lot more work now that we are older and sedentary. We have to find the time to exercise. You are on your way to success. (BTW, I hit I Like This Blog on this blog and also “King of all Weight Yo-yos Abdicating the Throne”).

    1920 days ago

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  • JACKIE542
    Same for me Marty, lost weight and gained it back and each time I gained more, that is when I had finally had enough and did everything that I read here on Spark, It truly does have to be a healthy lifestyle change. Hard work, but Yes YOU CAN DO THIS! emoticon
    1920 days ago
  • BOVEY63
    Like you, I have been successful only to fall back into the old routine and gain it all back - plus some for good measure. We do need to realize that this is a lifetime commitment if we never want to go back again.
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    1920 days ago
  • POPSY190
    Yes, we don't want to believe just how much hard work goes into it! I go to a free 10 week osteoporosis exercise class. It's free because it is a pilot scheme between the gym and the local hospital board. Well, a good 50% of those there seem to think they can improve their bone strength just by attending. They actually complained that one trainer didn't suit them because they didn't want to be "pushed". I might add that this is all supervised by a physiotherapist and the pushing is hardly body building stuff - more like "try to stand with legs 2" further apart", or instructions on how to use the machines with proper form. I want to tell them that ST doesn't happen by osmosis but have managed to keep my mouth shut!! So far!
    You might be interested in the team At Goal and Maintenance+Transition to Maintenance. You don't have to be at goal to join, and there is evidence that spending a long time preparing the mind for maintenance is necessary for success.
    1920 days ago
    Marty, I wish there was a LOVE button for your blogs instead of just liked !!!

    This was my motivational quote for President's Day.

    COMMITMENT is what transforms a promise into reality - Abraham Lincoln

    Now, let me tell you a story about a friend I hadn't seen in many years who raved about my weight loss. She wanted to know,"How did you do it ?" When I told her that I "ate right and got some exercise", she seemed genuinely crestfallen. She seemed to hope that I would say I took this pill or did that diet. Well, I did neither. I learned to be mindful of what I ate and I became more consistent with my exercise.

    Too many people want the quick fix. Well, there is no quick fix. Weight loss really IS hard work.

    1920 days ago
    So recently at a family gathering cousins were whispering about me.They are huge people and called me fat!!I just smiled and said im sorry you feel that way because of how fit you are and all!I held my head high though the biting remarks hurt me deeply.My sweet cousin that's the size of a doll put her arms around me and hugged me fiercely.Im so glad you came she smiled.They are just fools and if they are talking about me,they are letting someone else alone!I was just thinking how maybe I was just meant to be fat?Looking around at all the "big boned"family members.But Im eating well,drinking my water,walking,lifting weights and sleeping well.You are inspiring me to do better...THANK YOU!!!
    1920 days ago
    everybody is disappointed when I answer the question "what did you do? ". but I confess I'm a little pissed off when I think I did the same things for more than 2 years and results nada. someone should find a magic cure for those plateaus emoticon
    1920 days ago
  • JUDY1315
    So true! Sounds so much like my own circumstances. Somebody recently said they were jealous of me for my weight loss. If they only knew what you have outlined in your blog: it's a lot of hard work! They, too, can do it if they put their minds to it unless a physical issue prevents them. Thanks for reminding us!
    1920 days ago
  • -POOKIE-
    You are totally right.

    But when people ask that, they don't actually want to hear that the answer is hard work and effort!

    Work is a 4-letter word you know!! emoticon
    1920 days ago
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