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Another friend lost to cancer

Monday, February 18, 2013

I lost another friend to cancer.

I never met RaNae in person, but were online friends. We first "met" on the Yuku message boards; we were both on boards for cat lovers and avid book readers, and we liked a lot of the same kinds of books. After a few years on Yuku, Facebook came along and message boards weren't as popular anymore; at least the ones I belonged too. We stayed in touch through Facebook though. We first bonded over cats and books, and later, cancer. She was one of my biggest encouragers when I was first diagnosed, then, about a year ago, she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer.

It all sounded so hopeful at the beginning; she had surgery, and then she would have chemo and would be fine. But the chemo was so hard on her; it was stopped and started again so many times, until her poor body just could not take any more. I was hoping that after a break from chemo, she would be fine; it was easy to tell myself that since I wasn't actually seeing her person, having faith and hope came easy to me with all the miles between us. Then, a few days ago, her husband posted on her page that it would not be much longer before she was called home. Still, it came as a shock to me when I found out she died peacefully Saturday night. Her husband said they had just put her to bed for the night; she seemed to have been feeling a little better, she had a "good" day under the circumstances and seemed to be breathing a little better. Around 8:45pm, he left the room to get something for the nurse and when he returned, RaNae was gone.

I believe that she knew that she only had hours left that day; she had a strong faith, and I think knowing that she would be called home soon and no longer in pain left a sense of peace in her heart, so maybe that was why she seemed to be doing a little better that day.

Even though we never met in person, we "talked" a lot online. It's still hard for me to believe she is gone. Having thousands of miles between us didn't keep us from becoming friends, as sad as it is to lose her, I treasure the time I had her in my life. Rest in peace, my friend, I will try to comfort myself with the thought that you are no longer hurting, and one day we will meet again, and in person when the time comes.
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    Shari, I am so sorry to read about your friends passing. emoticon
    1890 days ago
    Friendship is such a powerful thing and in our modern age, we now have the opportunity to meet more people from all over the world and have new friends so I know what you mean. I am sorry for your loss and may you be blessed to know that your friend is fine now and that someday we will all meet our online friends face to face. God bless you. emoticon emoticon Love, Chelsea
    1892 days ago
    Shari, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of
    your friend. Online friends are the same as if you
    were meeting face to face - especially as you shared
    so much. May she rest in peace. Prayers for you and
    her family. emoticon
    1892 days ago
    I'm so sorry. I am so glad you had this wonderful friend and celebrate that you were brought together by online/Facebook.
    1892 days ago
    Dear Shari, I am so very sorry to hear this news and feel for your loss of a very dear and special friend. She sounds like a very courageous lady. I hope that friendship and memories of her beautiful spirit continue to inspire you as I am sure she is with you in spirit. Sending prayers and warm thoughts your way.

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    1892 days ago
  • ORACLE2010
    So sorry about your friend. That's a very sad loss, but glad that you are staying strong and encouraged by your friendship with her.
    1892 days ago
    emoticon emoticon It is always difficult to lose someone we care about, whether in person or in spirit online. Find comfort where you can and take heart knowing that you stuck with her through it all; I'm sure it meant a lot to her to have your friendship.
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    1892 days ago
    I am so very sorry for your loss.!I am crying as I read through . I have also made a dear friend thousands of miles away and we share a strong bond. I have also lost too many friends and loved ones to cancer.
    1892 days ago
    So sorry for your loss! Keep her close to you with your memories.
    1892 days ago
    This is sad, I'm very sorry that you lost her. There isn't much that we can say at a time like this. It has been said that you feel your best just before the God calls you home. She is in a better place, and not suffering any longer.
    My heart goes out to you, and her family. You will meet again in another life. emoticon
    1892 days ago
    Shari - I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful friend. May she rest in peace.
    1892 days ago
  • POPSY190
    I'm very sorry to hear this.
    1892 days ago
    So sorry for Your loss! We do get attached to Our Friends on line! Just because You can not see someone they are still Your Friend! Love You Dear Friend!! (((((HUGS)))))
    1892 days ago
    Shari, I am so sorry to hear of the sad loss of your friend. Praying your faith will sustain you as you grieve the loss of a special friend.

    1892 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/18/2013 12:24:01 PM
    emoticon for you dearest Shari. What a blessing to have that time together with your friend. You could really relate to each other. I know it must be hard to know she is gone but I also know you are glad she is finally at peace. Sending you loving hugs dear one. Pat
    1892 days ago
  • CANDOK1260
    emoticon so sorry you lost another friend
    1892 days ago
    Sorry for your loss! Thank-you for sharing emoticon Although your friend is no longer available for daily "chats" she lives through your wonderful memories. emoticon
    1892 days ago
    I am so sorry for your loss. You have a strong faith as it seems did she and that will carry you through this sad time. One of the things about death is that all most all seem to get better just before they leave us. Maybe it is so that we can remember something positive about their passing. emoticon and emoticon emoticon
    1892 days ago
    Shari--I am so sorry!
    1892 days ago
    Tears in my eyes reading this as I've lost so many dear ones to cancer. Very sorry for your loss.
    1892 days ago
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