Letter back to a good friend

Sunday, February 17, 2013

I was touched today by the Spark Coach video which talked about treating one's self with kindness and dignity; sort of how I would treat a good friend trying to lose weight. In other words, I cheat myself out of kind sayings and thoughts just because it's me talking to me and this is the way I do it. THIS IS WRONG. Here is a letter back to myself as if I were talking to a friend having a similar weight issue. Many of my great friends here have told me similar things about myself and how treating yourself with respect and love goes a lot further than frictional negativity. Great therapy!


Dear Dave,

I got your letter today and wanted to comment on a few things that I noticed. First off, you are not treating yourself with respect. Your descriptions like "fat pig", "loser", and the fact that you want to die by food suicide is ludicrous. Why would you even write that? Let me point out a few things that may jog your memory and also to kick your mental butt for a few minutes.

1. I've known you all your life and I am insulted that you'd call yourself a loser. Your family adores you and you've raised a son who is just as treasured as you are by the world. You have a house, provide for your family, and are respected by the community. Do you think a loser could do these things? The only thing you should be losing is fat. THEN you can call yourself a LOSER!

2. The statement I keep hearing about how you will NEVER lose the weight is untrue. I have the same problem and we can do this together. We can support each other, be buddies, cheer each other on and push each other when the other doesn't want to work out. It is not a fact that you will NEVER lose the weight, but a FACT that your 180 lbs. that you gained were put on over 20 years and they will not just melt away after a month of working out. You are doing an awesome job. You are eating 100% clean nearly every day. Your cravings are down. You are more flexible. You seem more happy. Changes are happening and you should embrace them. YOU ARE CHANGING FOR THE BETTER AND I SEE IT!

3. I do see a change in your appearance; you seem more confident. You should be, you are doing a great thing and you will be there for your family and son when they need you. Don't think about leaving this earth by suicide; that is selfish and your family will be devastated beyond any comprehension of how they would feel. You are not a selfish person; you give to others, you give your time, your ear, your money, your car....you are a caring and giving person. You are not selfish but in my book you are SELFLESS and that is the Dave I know and love.

You can do this Dave. It WILL be hard, not easy and at times it will be very, very frustrating. You will want to give up. You will want to quit. You will want to run away from it all. You will want to die at times, but that is because of the fight. YOU and only YOU must keep up the fight for what you deserve. You want to be happy as you have told me hundreds of times - you've said many times to me; "I want my health and then happiness". Well? Go get it.

Nobody said it was easy. It wasn't easy gaining all this weight and it will NOT be easy losing it, but it will be an experience that will make you stronger. A stronger mind and body ready to take an endless challenges that wait for you - a 5K, a 10K, an iron Man; the sky's the limit Dave. Go seize the day and the life and make yourself the person you want to be.

Your habits are changing - you are now getting up earlier than ever to work out - you are eating well - you are juicing - you are drinking and eating delicious whole foods that are energizing your body and cleansing out the old Dave.

Hope to hear from you soon with better news and I hope your next letter is that you're on the road to recovery along with some of your great accomplishments. You got this!

Love, Yourself.
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    1921 days ago
    emoticon emoticon Good morning Dave,

    What can I say but WOW! This is such a touching "letter".....so inspiring. It has touched me in many ways and I thank you for sharing it with us. You are doing a great job and I know that you will be a success and "arrive" where you want and need to be in the journey you are on.

    Thank you for being a friend.

    Have a blessed day and wonderful journey to the new you!

    Paula emoticon
    1921 days ago
  • WAYNE1997

    I was touched by the same message from sparkpeople and wrote a shorter letter to myself also. I like the detailed approach you took. I am working on caring for myself each day and it is not always easy. However this morning I have a new day to treat myself kindly and to make the good choices for eating and exercise. I hope you have a fantastic day of being kind to yourself also!! emoticon
    1922 days ago
  • FIREFLY4407
    Well done on taking the significant step of writing this out and sharing. It's clear that you have a supportive family and are going into this with the right attitude. Congratulations on your successes so far - Spark has all of the tools to help you keep progressing, and if you just stick with it day by day I am sure you will achieve your goals.
    1923 days ago
    Very well said Dave. You should print this out, highlight the encouraging statements and put this up where you will see it everyday! You CAN do this buddy.
    1923 days ago
  • _BABE_
    Couldn't have said it better myself....and I need to as well. emoticon
    1923 days ago
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