Friday, February 15, 2013
Reading the first of 10 articles in Dean's (love Dean!) "Mind over Body" series (found here: www.sparkpeople.com/reso
He says: "People who succeed at doing what needs to be done are people who have mastered the art of defining problems accurately, and choosing (and implementing) effective solutions." Right on!
He talks about the power of starting your sentences/thoughts with "I", in order to get out of the victim mentality.
I'm having another - thought related - though. How about shifting to "I choose..."? So that something like "I am too tired to exercise tonight" will change to "I am choosing to not exercise tonight because I feel tired".
Dean's process to help identify the actual problem is:
1. Whenever you notice a problem, try to define it in writing - just free-write about what needs to change, why you think you're stuck, any triggers or causes.
2. Review what you've written and change all passives into actives, replace any external forces (e.g. "it's too cold") with "I" statements (e.g. "I decided not to walk in the cold").
3. See if any solutions are revealed through this clarified problem statement.
4. You can also do this after the fact - after you've done something you wish you hadn't: describe what happened, why you think it happened, triggers, thoughts, etc.
5. Do this often - daily even - and this will quickly change your own thinking and help clarify your issues into better problem statements - which in turn will help bring about a solution more easily and quickly.
I just love Dean...