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Happiness is the Most Important Design Element in my Home

Thursday, February 14, 2013

I see people spending fortunes trying to come up with the perfect living room or kitchen, that "expresses their style". But really it's the owner's comfort within the room or the home that makes it perfect. A happy owner makes a happy home, not the sofa or the lamps. Trying to find happiness through acquisition doesn't work.

I hear people decrying houses as all looking the same. Yet if you know the owners and LIKE them, the house looks different from the others. Every home is its own little country: it has its own language, history, balance sheet, traditions, customs. Those are made by the occupants not the house. It never translates into a photo, it's in the air of the home, in the very walls. I have a traditional home, not an "open concept", yet it is filled with the collections of 30 years of marriage and 4 kids now grown and gone. A stranger would assess the decor as too granny, but I am the most important design element in each room. I feel the history and it translates to how I feel about the house, and within the house. Will my home ever be in House Beautiful? Hardly. But I wouldn't trade it for the world.

The next time you drive around, look at each house, notice each apartment in an apartment complex where they all look the same from the outside, and know that they are all so very different. I wonder about who lives there, what their stories are, but I don't envy any of their kitchens or their bathrooms or their rugs, seen or unseen. And because I am happy with my life, happy in my own skin, everything around me looks happy.

On a weight loss journey (or any other long term goal), one of the most important by-products is happiness within ourselves. It can't be bought, or even earned. It is a quiet comfort gained by liking bits of your life, little by little liking more bits of your life. Eventually you'll like enough of your life to realize happiness. And that happiness exudes itself like an aura, and you look wonderful, feel wonderful, and everything around you will look wonderful. Happiness is better than any make-up or make-over.

I wish everyone Happiness, One Day At A Time.
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  • no profile photo CD2332407
    You are so right Nell. I love your blog and what you stand for. Wishing you HAPPINESS EVERYDAY.
    2800 days ago
    thanks love i wish you continued happiness too.take care and keep smilig. emoticon
    2803 days ago
    lovely lovely blog....Would just add love to happiness...Not only between the occupants, but a house that shows a history of love and happiness (and of the joy in some of the objects because of the memories they hold rather than their dollar worth) is always to me a beautiful home.
    2806 days ago
  • GABY1948
    And I also wish you happiness...and whatever makes you happy also! Have a GREAT weekend
    2806 days ago
    U said it....Happiness is here if you want it.....Grab it - Catch it and for God sakes hold on to it! and that is if you are fat or skinny by the way....its what makes a house a home....

    I remember a few years ago as I went from neighborhood to neighborhood as a US Census worker....I came upon one of the most beautiful, elogant & most spacious homes I had ever seen in a spanking brand new neighborhood....a woman came to the door..we proceeded with the questionaire, a man came and stood by her in the doorway ....he proceeded, talking only to the woman and never acknowledging my presence...what are you doing..? .."what you doing that for"....we not doin that"....the woman basically closed the door in my face as I stood there stunned.. live& in living color..on the outside this beautifu home and inside was a situation of fill in the blank...Wow
    2807 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/15/2013 2:33:33 PM
    You nailed it! My journey these last two years started off being all about the weight but has shifted to much more personal growth than I could have hoped for.
    2807 days ago
    I agree 100%, Nell. Most of my life I've walked by houses and wondered what was going on inside, who the people were and what they were like. It always boggled my mind that EACH house had a story and then it becomes like a lens going the opposite of zoom...wider and bigger and eventually encompassing all the earth...and each place has it's own story!
    And not only that, EACH person in that place has His/Her own story.
    I find it almost overwhelming.

    Yes, I too have a "granny" decor mixed up with a "student" decor mixed up with a "hip chick" decor. C'est moi!
    2807 days ago
    Beautiful blog. So very true! Thank you for sharing your feelings and ideas so well. It is filled with many good points. Our friends have what I call mansions with expensive everything in them. Their decor is quite stylized. Our is what I'd call rustic......and, well, "unique." It is hard not to compare, but I finally realized that we are making our home to fit us, not some idealized version of home. I think "unique" is a little underrated these days!
    2807 days ago
    emoticon Blog! And so true! I feel the love in many homes when I enter. Some are more comfortable, because I am more comfortable in them. My sister's home is a great example. It is the best next to my own apartment, that is!! Hope you have a wonderful day surrounded by your memories and the home you love! Angie emoticon
    2807 days ago
    Wonderful blog, Nell! I wish you many, many more years of happiness to light up your home.
    2807 days ago
    Love your attitude! Your words are right on target. The happiness truly is the best decor!
    2808 days ago
    all the best
    2808 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    Awesome Blog!!! I'm in complete agreement with you.These lovely thought are all so true. God Blessings to You and Everyone. Have a Happy Valentine's Day. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    2808 days ago
    Couldn't agree more! I've always had homes imbued with memories and personality. Every corner and possession has a story. I think I blogged about this, too, long ago.
    2808 days ago
    What lovely thoughts and so true!
    2808 days ago
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