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The real goals...what???

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

SP Chris said this on a SparkCoach "lesson," and it's really had me thinking. He said, "Healthy habits aren't the goal. They're the tools to reach your life goals." Though I think my BRAIN knew that, my struggling inner girl said, "????"

But he's right. Other members have added similar thoughts that make me realize my focus on "weight loss" has been way too narrow. My ongoing wrestling match with what I think I want to eat (instead of what I planned) and with what I don't want to do (despite the exercise I planned and bought the DVD for) isn't the central issue. My weight isn't even the issue. I had lost sight of the real reasons I'm doing this, the real goals.

The real goals are something about taking better care of this body I've been mistreating, and maybe giving it the "productive" years for which it was intended. I want to move without my knees hurting, walk at Bill's pace without getting out of breath, choose one outfit from my closet and wear it without having to put 15 things that don't fit onto the bed and feel bad about myself. I don't want to be afraid to stand in front of the changing room mirrors. I want to feel stronger, stand straighter, and have the energy to help others more. I want to live each moment I'm given, really live it, and give all I can.

I'm still noodling through this, still considering the real goals of my life, because even these are still pretty self-centered. But they're a start. They're one step above where I was. They widen and lengthen my perspective on this journey just a bit step at a time.

Thanks everybody for your help - we can do this...we really can.
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    Great blog. Really one of the best parts of this program is learning more about ourselves. I totally get the scenario of trying on clothes. Been there! You used the term about it being self centered, but I really feel like this is more about self love, which many of us have been lacking. If you feel better, it will impact how your relate to others in a positive way, which is not at all self centered! You are doing great and your encouragement to me and others is very uplifting. Keep going!
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    1886 days ago
  • KENWANNE2013
    Really liked this blog. I noticed at the end you talked about being self centred. Sometimes that is OK, especially when it comes to looking after you and your health. If you put yourself first in this area, you will generate more energy and be able to give more to those close to you. Someone once said to me (forgive the food analogy!!) - a starving man cannot nourish others....
    1887 days ago
    This is a journey.... I agree with taking one step at a time. I also agree that we need to have specific life goals. It's true that healthy habits aren't the actual goal. However, this will lead to bigger and much more amazing achievements and successes in life. It's amazing how small changes lead to bigger changes eventually.

    Thank you for the support you give me, Gail. It is greatly appreciated.

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    1889 days ago
  • KENWANNE2013
    Agree. I've just watched chris's video and realise I need to think this through. Without working out exactly what we want, there is always the risk that we adopt and adapt to others aspiration's or good intent for us.
    1890 days ago
    I agree that that is an important thing to learn!
    1890 days ago
    emoticon It's a journey. You start out thinking your headed ifor one destination, along the way you discorver many points of intrest which make you learn more, peak your sense of intrest. Sometimes we run into detours and have to reroute. It's all good because it expands who we are, makes us wiser and healthier. Always learning. I think we are finally coming to reaize that our bodys don't work well on autopilot. Mine doesn't anyway. I have to have my hands on the wheel at all times or else I am off the road.

    I got tired of beating myslef up when I failed at this. It took me a long time to be kind to myself. I even went thru my closet and moved the clothes that didn't fit or I wasn't sure on to the back. I didn't want any disturbances in this new process of loving myself. As the weight goes down I will pull those back toward the front.

    Keep learning my friend. We can do this, one step at a time. We have each other and our other SP friends to pick us up and dust us off. They will be there to keep us on the right road.

    Sending lots of hugs,

    Happy Valentines Day!!

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    1890 days ago
    I share a lot of the same goals as you have. What it boils down to is I want to live a healthier lifestyle. Being the weight I am now is not healthy.
    Very well said Gail!
    1891 days ago
  • ANNIE924
    I think your goals are great. Good insight on this, I have been making my goal healthy habits, I have to rethink this. Thank you, emoticon
    1891 days ago
    SP has such great tools and articles that help us to rethink our lifestyle and goals! I am with you on your goals- I want the same things! You're right emoticon emoticon
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    Thanks for your nice comment on my blog!!!! emoticon
    1891 days ago
    Great insight, and great goals! You can do it!
    1891 days ago
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