Accepting That I Can Only Be Responsible For Me

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

This is actually hard for me. I'm the one who takes care of others and who wants to fix things when stuff goes wrong. But I'm finally realizing and accepting that to do the best for myself I have to put myself first and focus on me first. It doesn't mean not being supportive it just means not taking an active "do-for-them" role in the lives of those I care about. It's hard but I keep reminding myself that when I'm at my best for me I'm at my best for others. It's not selfishness it's self-preservation and that's very important in a world when we're bombarded with stress all the time. So I'm learning to take a breath and let go of guilt. I'm learning to accept responsibility for the choices I've made and to not take on responsibility for the choices others chose to make. Growth is hard but I hope with this shifting of my thinking that I'm taking steps forward that will benefit me and my life.
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    emoticon Total agreement here. It is hard for caregivers to take care of their own needs but it is also important or you will get burn-out. Keeping yourself healthy and your own needs met will make you less stressed and more able to handle anything that comes your way! Way to go! Now, keep it up - it is an ongoing process. emoticon
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    Self-preservation not in a negative way. Talking care of self helps one to be available for others. Stress can harm you, so knowing what our stressors are can help us take care of ourselves.
    1929 days ago
    Absolutely! You have to take care of yourself, because who else would! So, continue to take a more active role in caring for yourself and hopefully others will understand this! You are worth the effort!
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    Your so RIGHT !!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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