What do the 30 day challenge, a stalker, and a sunny day all have in common?
Tuesday, February 12, 2013
At age 56 I have a stalker. Its not a love interest but some one who I had been doing charity work with and for. It went terribly wrong. Last night after an unbelievable number of unanswered calls and texts from this person, she came to my house in pajamas and slippers expecting me to let her in because she was upset and felt that only I could soothe her to sleep. I have never let this person stay at my home and she has only been here a couple of times. I set clear boundaries from the start (most of my co-workers thought I was being uncharitably tough on her... ha).
I know that there is no way to win against an obsessive personality. If I cut her off, which I did, the stalkers actions become desperate, which they did last night.
If I'm firm but cordial, the person assumes a deep relationship that doesn't exist, which this person does. Any way I had to change locks today, alert the police and have my phone blocked.
But I ate clean-- no matter what, I'm on a journey to feel better and not overwhelmed by the tricks of life. Despite my stalker's best intentions there was no drama in my house. The drama is hers to suffer.
So after the locks, the phone, and work, I took the pups for a long walk. It was a sunny day. The snow is still too high to walk on the paths , so the road it was until we found a packed down trail parallel to the road. The three of us trudged through the snow falling and slipping and having a great time.
I think getting control of my eating and my cravings helps me feel hopeful, like the sun does on a crappy day.