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2/12/13......not a happy valentine's day (nobody died, yet)

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

I know that men and women think differently. that's not an issue for me, MOST of the time. what is an issue is that my DH's family lives here, across the river from us. so, he can see his extended family whenever he wants. my parents live across the river from me, but i can't see them whenever i want (it's the way my mother wants it, don't ask). my extended family lives far enough away from me that it requires a LONG car ride or plane ride. therefore, i don't see them very often. my parents will be celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary June 2014 and they want everyone to go on a cruise with them. I have never been on a cruise, don't really like the idea of it. but, i want to go. so, i told DH about it (knowing he doesn't like cruises since he can't do anywhere to get away from all the passengers????). i told him he has over 1 year to get used to the idea of going, because he has skipped out on at least the past 2-3 family events on my side. he says that he doesn't like people planning things for him, and he doesn't know where he's going to be at that time or if he'll have a permanent job. i am so incredibly pissed at him, i am ready to spit nails. at him. we had a disagreement last night. i don't understand his thinking and reasoning. i know he likes to pay for things himself and plan his own way, but this is a f'ng cruise (that we could NEVER afford, even the cheapest one). why can't he swallow his d**n pride and go, to make me happy? since he skipped out on my grandfather's 100th birthday and a thanksgiving in baltimore, MD and at least 1 other event. i don't like him right now and don't want him touching me.
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  • MKELLY72
    I had a meltdown on my OH right after New Years for getting (in my eyes) ditched, because he wouldn't commit (or even just say he'd rather stay home with me) to an evening out to dinner with a group of friends. I NEVER have meltdowns on him, and we had never fought about anything before, but he has issues with too many people, other people planning outings, etc. too, and after my meltdown, he has been so sweet and accommodating and attentive to things that I like/want to do. He didn't seem to have realized before this how important those gestures are to my happiness--and ultimately his as well :)
    I could have kicked myself for suffering in silence for 5 days before finally telling him that I was upset and why.
    I hope that a reasonable resolution is in your near future.
    1949 days ago
    emoticon Family situations are difficult and delicate. I am older (and hopefully wiser) and suggesting that you do what you need to do for YOU and while this isn't the solution you most desire it may be the best for both. Sometimes compromise isn't "all that".
    1951 days ago
    That is too bad that he doesn't want to go. I would go and leave him at home. And I get seasick. If someone is nice enough to pay for it then he should go.
    1952 days ago
  • GINA180847
    Men?????????????? Where did they come from? Are they a race apart? This is a good question and one I don't know the answer to. Who can figure them out? They don't make sense 99% of the time and the other 1% they are mute. Hormones, genes whatever? Honestly I think the ancient Amazons had it right! Oops, I forgot about my boys though. Sweeter guys never existed. Pity they will grow into men! Okay now that we have gotten that out of our system lets go to ON2Victory(spark person) and see what a real man is like. Yay for SPARK!
    1952 days ago
    Pray about the situation emoticon
    1952 days ago
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