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Visualizing my future self

Monday, February 11, 2013

Today in my Spark Coach coaching session, I was encouraged to visualize myself 10 years from today. Who was with me, what was I like, what was I feeling and doing, where was I living? This one was hard for me because I honestly can't see what will happen 6 months down the road, let alone 10 years.

I am getting a divorce in a year or so. I don't know if I will be with anyone 10 years from now. I will likely have to move in June, so I don't know where I will be living. In a way, this visualization just brought up a lot of the uncertainty I am feeling into the forefront.

What I can see is who I want to be in 10 years. Strong, independent, confident, capable. Fit in a way that I don't even think about it anymore because it's all second nature. Enjoying many outdoor activities: biking, walking, hiking, roller-blading, skating, skiing, dancing, fun fitness classes. Enjoying food as I've always done, but not rich, overindulgent, rich, high calorie, fat-laden food, but good tasting, healthy, delicious fruits, vegetables, dairy and meats cooked with care by me -- with the odd dinner out with friends. When confronted with a buffet full of the first kind of food, I naturally gravitate towards the fruit plate or the vegetable plate, not because I need to watch my weight, but because it just tastes better to me.

I am going to make decisions based on what's best for me, without second guessing myself or thinking that I'm selfish to want what is best for me. I am going to sleep well every night, be happy and at peace with myself. I am going to love me for all my faults and strengths. I am going to be honest with my friends and family in my emotions and be open with them. No more walls! I see myself with a very active social life with all sorts of activities and friends to do them with. I see myself traveling, even if it's by myself. I see myself climbing the terraces of Machu Pichu.

I see myself as continuing to make goals and constantly trying and learning new things. I see myself as never letting fear conquer me or prevent me from doing something that I want to do.

Fear is not my enemy. It can be my friend when it warns me of relevant danger. It reminds me of a need to be careful and is not meant to incapacitate me. I see myself embracing my fear, thanking my fear and settling it into its proper place.

That is who I will be in 10 years. As I look back at my current self, I will tell myself that all the work, all the effort, all the twinges and aches and pains are all worth it. I will reap the benefits not only in physical health, but in mental health as well.

As one of the quotes in my vision collage says, "Let your new self EMERGE!"
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    Here's to believing in ourselves and knowing that anything is possible. I wish you all the best life has to offer.
    1918 days ago
    You are on such a great path right now - congratulations! The future is uncertain, but that's part of the adventure. Yes there will be changes - struggles - and difficult times but there will also be rainbows - waterfalls and sunsets in your life too. The difference is in how you look at it - and it looks like you are off to a great start.

    1920 days ago
    I won't lie, you have struggles ahead. BUT, they will ALL be worth it because you will be who YOU want to be and you will be happy with who you are!! I am still on that journey but it is one worth taking to make your life what you want it to be!!

    1926 days ago
  • ASTRA58
    The blue walls are spot on, but my creativity lies more in jewellery making. I love art, especially nature art, but I can't paint to save my life. Although I am very appreciative of the work that goes into quilting, it's not for me. I prefer bead weaving to sewing quilt pieces. emoticon

    The alone moments sound wonderful, too. I'm a extrovert, but I love my alone time, too. It gives me time to reflect and work on my jewellery projects at the same time. I love so many types of jewellery: bead weaving, chain maille, stringing, wire work, and kumihimo.
    1926 days ago
  • -DAVE-
    Nice reflection today and very mindful and observant of yourself. Good work in seeing and deconstructing your thoughts...


    1926 days ago
    I LOVE what you have said about fear. It is an evolutionary response to things that could hurt us. That's why so many are afraid of spiders, heights and open water.
    Did you know that among the Inuit there is a phobia about going out into the ocean in a poorly maintained kayak? Sounds a lot like common sense to me.

    And you are so right. fear needs to be acknowledged and then put on the shelf.

    You are going to BE awesome because you are starting out awesome!

    So many many opportunities!

    I see you in an apartment with blue walls. The quilt on your bed is handmade simple squares of Amy Butler and Kafee Fassett material. You are celebrating color and Joy. You have a painting on your wall that you painted yourself. It is bright and stylistic and really very beautiful. The moments when you are alone are moments that bring you happiness because they give you time to create. Does this sound like you? emoticon
    1926 days ago
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