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What is my true motivation?

Sunday, February 10, 2013

Spend a few minutes writing about the reasons behind
your fitness and weight-loss goals. What is your true motivation? What do you
hope to achieve or experience after reaching your goal?

This is what SparkCoach is asking me today. These may seem like easy questions but as I sit an ponder them, they become more complicated.

I want to lose weight to feel and look better but what is my true motivation? I have had that goal for years and my weight never budged - I actually watched some of my coworkers get fit and slim down and even though I had good intentions to do the same, I got left behind. I don't want that. I want to keep up. I don't hate myself or my look but I want to look better, I want to feel more energetic, I want to do things with friends and not feel too exhausted to enjoy myself.

I also want to get rid of the belly! Why? Because I am tired of being a 40 something year old women who looks like she is 8 months pregnant! It is embarrasing! That is a good motivator. I don't want anyone asking when I am due. Yes, it has happened. I laugh it off but it is to hide the pain. I am actually angry to be asked this. I don't want to EVER be mistaken for pregnant again!

I NEVER ask any woman when they are due unless they are a patient admitted on the OB floor and I am drawing their blood - then it is appropriate. Wish other people were this considerate.

What do I hope to achieve or experience after reaching my goal?
1) I want to shop in the regular sizes - no more plus sized.
2) I want to experience getting "checked out" because it has NEVER happened (that I know of). I am happily in a relationship with my loverly for 15+ years but it would be nice to get looked at - you know?
3) Going the distance, doing more, experiencing new things fearlessly.
4) Being included in activities that I normally don't get invited to (I didn't know I wanted this until it happened the other day - I got invited out with a coworker to her woman's group for dinner/movie/wine - she has never invited me before so I feel like I am doing something right).
5) Never having to ask for a seat-belt extender on the airplane.
6)having my daughters feel proud of me!

I am sure there is more but I will digress. I would like to hear what your true motivations are and your thoughts. Please share with me.
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    Thanks for sharing. They sound like a whole lot of good reasons to emoticon .
    1891 days ago
    Thanks for sharing! Those things are the same things that I found that I loved when I first lost my initial weight! It is so nice to be able to be able to go to a "regular" store and buy jeans! Yeah! And even though, I did not reach my goal weight, it was nice to see a guy or two to check you out! It wasn't a lot, but a few. But, if you keep those goals in mind, then you can keep motivated. They kept me motivated and I lost all the way down to within 9 pounds of my goal weight, having lost 50 of those pounds twice! Then due to circumstances beyond my control, I am now 50 pounds from my original goal! UGH! Now I find it hard to stay motivated. Thank you for reading my blog. I have not really joined anything groups or anything yet. I am finding it hard to get committed to anything right now. I am excited for you now that you have found your motivation. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1892 days ago
    Thanks for sharing your painful feelings. It's good to get it out into the open. My motivation for losing weight is so I can get into my little black dress, I want to feel sexy again, and I want to live a little longer, healthier.
    1892 days ago
    These are all great motivators. The plus sized one was the case for me. I was so f-ing tired of going to used clothing stores and not finding anything that fit, and I live in Chicago for crying out loud! What is there a shortage of obese people? Sheesh. But now, I always find something that fits. However, I am in between sizes and the belt isn't quite doing it anymore. Plus, I feel like I just went bra shopping yesterday, which I'm sure is not the case. Anyway, my real motivator was my knees. I had an awful time going up and down stairs; now, I'm fine. I can also run after my three year old. That is the best part. But, enough about me. You keep reflecting and doing that hard soul searching. I think that's important or else you won't sort yourself out for the long haul. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1894 days ago
    Good for you. I'm at goal, Never give up... Your so worth it.
    1894 days ago
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    1895 days ago
    CHALLENGER75 - I will go - it is for this coming Friday, so it hasn't happened yet. I will keep you posted

    1895 days ago
    Very good!

    Question: Did you go when you were invited? There was a period of time that I would have found some excuse, but not any longer...
    1895 days ago
    You've got your goals in plain sight--you can do it!
    1895 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/10/2013 6:51:28 AM
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