Dad will be leaving the hospital for rehab/ dealing with even more stress now because of bullying

Tuesday, February 05, 2013

This past month has been a horror and now the cherry on the sundae? We're dealing with a bullying situation yet again with my son!!!!!!!!!!!!
I thought this was put to rest when he left middle school we had to get the cops involved as he came home bloody from a school function and now it's starting up again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Between all that I've been through with my dad, my health and now the bullying again I need this like a hole in the head!!!!!!!!
My son had to go to the guidance counselor because of two girls , yes you read that right GIRLS!!!!!!!!!!! They are worse then the boys! One found my son has Lyme and keeps saying he's diseased , she kicks him in the shins, she stomps on his feet and today he had his hand on the desk and she turned around and punched her fist into the top of his hand, this is a girl doing this! He's always been taught not to hit a girl and to have respect, she told him she skyped to some guy and said he's going to come and kick my sons a$$. She also said I wish I had long nails so I could claw your face, what is wrong with this girl? What is wrong with parents now a days don't they take notice to their kids? I'm so sick of the bullying in the school system.
I don't need this added stress, my son is a good kid but honestly I think we live in to snobby of a town, if you don't have money you don't really fit in here.
My stomach turned as he was telling me how long this has been going on for and what he's been dealing with I think she's doing this cause she knows he can't hit her. I'd love to get a hold of this little %itch!
As for my dad he's going to a rehab tomorrow not sure of the time, they moved him out of his room today , my dad was upset he's been there for a few days and I mean really he's leaving tomorrow , you mean to tell me they couldn't leave him in that room overnight? The healthcare in this country is so messed up, you pay top dollar and you have no say in how your treated in the hospitals and nursing homes...
My brother said he was to sick to see my dad I called up on my phone and he put this pathetic voice on when he answered and then when I called him from a different phone number he didn't know he answered just fine, what a jerk I can't even believe I'm related to these people. He was so sick in the first phone call (he has my dads jacket and he needs it for tomorrow so he had to come down) with his voice all low and then the next call he was fine and then he called me back and again sounded fine, he had to drop off my dads jacket, he was saying how he didn't think he could drive, I said what about your wife????
They like to put my husband into everything, hey she knows how to drive ... but he called me as he dropped off the jacket to my other brother who probably didn't even tell my dad the jacket was there and again sounded fine just didn't want to visit and spend time.
My dad was saying he didn't want to use the bi pap and my son started to cry and say do it for me, I think he was still emotional from all that happened at school today and my dad was kind of rude to him saying don't put a guilt trip on me, when my son left the room with my husband I told my dad don't talk to him like that he's having trouble at school.
I honestly wish I could afford to go on a long vacation and just forget everything for a week and just feel better and calm down...
Share This Post With Others
Member Comments About This Blog Post
    Hello there Friend. I am so sorry you are having a rough time now. I can relate on all you are going through. My son is 13 now and his 6th and 7th grade years in school there were some girls bullying him. He would not call it that but if quacks like a duck and walks like a duck well it is a duck. Things have been better for him this year. As for the healthcare sit o my. I work as a social worker in rehab and long term care and you are right about the healthcare it is not only a problem in your area but it is here in the south as well. I send lots of hugs and prayers your way. Keep your chin up. There are brighter days around the corner for you. emoticon
    1960 days ago
    Jeepers, what are the parents teaching these kids ? I do remember some of the worse bullying I had in school was from girls, not the boys. Some kids are just plain vicious. I hope the school puts a stop to this immediately. Get these girls expelled or at least disciplined. They have to be shown their behavior is totally unacceptable.

    I thought MA was supposed to tougher state bullying laws. Are the schools not paying attention ? get the teachers involved. they're going to have to keep an eye on these girls. It's a mob mentality. I have a friend who's a teacher and he tells me horror stories.

    I hope your son is okay !! Hope your father is improving too.

    1961 days ago
    I really feel for you in your situation. My daughter was bullied in school and it has effected her life until this day. Go to the school and report the abuse if you haven't already and keep on going. The only thing you can control in your situation with your dad is what YOU do for him. As was said before, your brothers will probably regret their actions when it is too late. Love your dad while you have him and do the best you can, that is all you can do. Lastly, but most importantly, take care of yourself. You're no good to anybody if you run yourself down. Turn to friends if family is not there. Have a little "mini" vacation with a nice meal, hot bath and some wonderfully deserved me time.
    1961 days ago
    1961 days ago
    Yours is the 1st blog post I read this morning. My heart goes out to you and to your entire family. emoticon Having worked in a school system, I suggest that you (if you haven't already done so) begin documenting everything your son is going through. Take photos, write down incidents and who were involved, what class he was in, did the teacher see the incident, do anything or ignored it. If you've reached out to the school system and they've ignored your requests, then see if you can find a pro bono lawyer or check with your local prosecutor. The only way schools "really" respond is if the law is involved. It's unfortunate when there are so many bullying reports on tv, yet schools still turn a blind eye.
    Dealing with family is always a hot button issue. I saw it with my own Mother and her parents (when they were still alive). The only thing I can say is to do as she did and do the best she could with them (they moved in with us after my grandfather became a quadriplegic after a horrific elevator shaft fall) and forget about her 6 brothers who offered no help. Your personal family comes 1st! And if your Dad needs you, then do what you can regardless of your brother. His actions will come back to bite him...eventually.
    I don't write this to you thinking I KNOW EVERYTHING, because I do not. Every situation is different. And, when it's happening to you, it's very hard to see solutions. Do take care of yourself and your family. You do have a support system out here in the virtual world...although, I know you wish it wasn't just virtual. God bless.
    1961 days ago
    WOw honest to god, and that is a small G. What a mess and boy that girls entire family probably needs smartening up. I often wonder are those kids sweet an all around home, or are their parents a "my child won't do that" I NEVER took that stance cos you nevr know. Luckily my kids were good kids. HUGS to your son as that is so hard. I feel badlly for him.

    Guess when your dad enters rehab and hopefully it isnt the same one, or at least if it is they know you aren't going to put up with their Shi!. Make it clear that you will not tolerate any BS and will be calling and visiting at any ole time. That way they dont' say oh that daughter comes at 2 eeryday get dad up and washed. etc. it happens believe me!!

    Now I better go downstairs and put dads support socks on him. Hubby and i are going to TIMS with him. I don't want to go, but hubby sort of put a guilt trip on me.
    1961 days ago
  • MARYBETH4884
    You are in my prayers, your dad and son also. I had to catch up on the last few days. My aunt was in the hospital and we just got her settled in rehab last night. I hope your dad is in a different rehab this time! Keep praying yourself, God does not give us more than we can handle. We really just need to give more things up to Him! This life was never meant to be easy. Be glad you have a renewed relationship with your dad. Pour love and reassurance into your son. Fight the rehab and the school system as best you can. Remember you are loved and many people are praying for you! emoticon
    1961 days ago
  • Add Your Comment to the Blog Post

    Log in to post a comment

    Disclaimer: Weight loss results will vary from person to person. No individual result should be seen as a typical result of following the SparkPeople program.