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Ski race, and a rant that's completely unrelated...

Monday, February 04, 2013

The picture isn't very good, partially because a couple of the trophies are clear. The one I earned on Friday night is the smaller clear one in the front. Third place (out of three, lol). But, like one of my friends says... you've got to be in it to win it! I haven't trained, and have hardly skied this year, so I was just enjoying being out there!

Okay... here's the rant (so if you want to read about fitness or weight, just re-read my ski story emoticon ):

Yesterday, I posted the following picture:

A certain person, who shall remain nameless, but who figures prominently in many of my rants, wrote the following: "Love person for sure, not necessarily their behavior. There is a difference."

Now, for anyone not familiar with me, I am a huge supporter of gay marriage, and other equality issues. Keeping that in mind, this person's mandate to not love the behavior was probably directed at several of the groups mentioned on the shirt, but likely strongly biased towards LGBT people.

I am probably going to get in trouble for this (and for another reply to something else she said), but here was my rebuttal:

" [Insert name here], there is only one 'behavior' on this list: racism. And I do find it very hard to love people who are racists (or who are bigots towards other groups of human beings that might be different from themselves in any way). So, that is my challenge on this list.

Addiction is a condition that needs treatment, and homelessness is sad. Addicted and Homeless people need our love even more. Everything else is just a descriptor of one facet of a person's life, not behaviors. So I'm going to stay with, 'Love thy neighbor - unconditionally!'"

I am fairly certain that in her mind, most of the things on that list are behaviors, lol! I don't know if she'll reply. I tried to be as nice as possible. What I really wanted to say was something like, "Just because you want to judge people and discriminate against them for being different, don't try to diminish my message of Love!" Actually, I wanted to use harsher words and call her some names, lol, but I'm really trying to not lash out at her behavior (speaking of behaviors).

She was admonishing me (yes, the religious implications of that word are exactly what I am implying). And she was trying to put a qualifier on my statement of love and acceptance. Her views of love are so skewed by all of the qualifiers that she places on things, that I'm not sure she knows the true meaning of love. Sad. Truly sad.

Anyway, Love thy neighbor!

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    Bravah, Heidi....Bravah!
    1957 days ago
    Her reply:

    Yes, I love all people unconditionally, but I do not have to love lying, immorality, stealing,,,,,,,

    My response:

    Hi [name removed]. Of course you do not have to love lying, immorality, stealing... but none of those things were mentioned, and weren't part of what the picture said, nor were they part of my clarification. Those things are things that individual people do - simply behaviors. Again, there was only one behavior listed there - racism. Lying, immorality, and stealing are behaviors that were not listed above, unless you are implying that you associate those behaviors with one or more of the groups listed above? Which group are the liars? Which group steals?
    1958 days ago
    Good to see you posting, Heidi! But sorry that it's because you had to vent because of haters. But rest assured, we understand your frustrations, and I want to tell you how much I admire you for not going with your first instinct of name-calling, lol. A verbal war won't solve anything, and you are better than that. Too bad some of your friends aren't. :(
    1959 days ago
    As I read this I glanced up at my digital photo frame with a slide show of years worth of memories....among those memories some of a dear friend who is no longer with us...I remember so many conversations with this friend of the hate he experienced in the minds of others who thought that his "behaviors" were abhorant. This friend was a tender hearted person who would do anything for others to make them feel cared for....ok, he was different in some ways...but not to be hated for those differences. Well, I hope that I can live my life with an open mind and heart. Life is far too short for hate.
    1959 days ago
    1959 days ago
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