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Breaking a habit is hard to do

Monday, February 04, 2013

Sometimes people who haven't had to lose weight think it should be easy, eat less & exercise. Truly it is a simple concept. But for people like me whose weight loss issues originate not from just having a large appetite and being inactive, but have a deeper reasons behind being overweight, losing weight is much more complicated. Its almost entirely a mental process. Yes, I have to eat less and exercise but if my state of mind is in the right place those things do come natural for me. My emotions, my thoughts are what got me here in the beginning. I depend on food for too many things. When I am having a bad day junk food or fast food or soda are a comfort to me. Some of these things even bring back memories of easier times in my life. Really I am very happy with my life. I have a wonderful family, a decent place to live. Things are good in that way, but the everyday stuff is what gets me in trouble. Financial issues, not being able to find a job that I like, extended family drama; these are the things that keep me up at night. When I was younger it was self-esteem issues. Food is the answer. Or at least that is what it has been for the last 12 years of my life. How do you break a habit like that? I am not sure I even know the answer, but I am going to do my best to try.

Do you ever wish you could back in time and tell yourself "don't get fat"? It would be much easier to have started as a normal eater. Found normal way to deal with things. I am not even sure what that is. Some people drink alcohol, smoke, and have other vices to get through life. Of course, there's always exercise. But that's not always an option when a bad day comes along. I need techniques, strategies, new habits.

My new mission is to work on me. Figure out a new "normal" for me.
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    OMG Yes, I feel the same way. I have issues that go much deeper than just "eat less, move more" to lose weight. People who don't have a problem with don't understand. They can't possibly.
    Same here. I think about how much easier it would be if I just never let myself get fat in the first place. Wow that is so crazy to think about.
    I'm so glad you are here and working on you. I'm doing the same thing! We can do this!!!
    Hope you have a great day!
    1960 days ago
  • RUDITUDI2000
    I have been struggling this past week. It just seems so hard sometimes...during PMS for me is the worst.
    It sounds like you have a very full life with four kiddos. Are you taking time to yourself? Making yourself a priority? The hike sounds like a great start! Back to basics, little by little our choices do add up to good results (or bad ones...). Just don't give up. It does not sound like you are, you sound like a fighter and that will get you where you need to be! emoticon emoticon
    1960 days ago
    One of the really cool things about this process is seeing the transformation of our inner (emotional, confident) self alongside the transformation of our outer self. Not saying that fit people have it all together (sometimes their bodies are their vices, y'know?). But a huge part of this is realizing the "why" factor, and you're doing that. Once you can identify it, you can work to overcome it - or use different techniques to deal w/ it. I've found journaling helps (I don't blog as much as I used to, but it doesn't mean I don't journal!). I don't remember where you're at spiritually, but prayer helps, too.

    Then, there's always bubble wrap.

    Yeah... I do sometimes wish I could go back in time & tell myself "don't get fat" or "don't date that guy" or "study more in school" or whatever, but you know what? I would be a different person than I am today. Maybe we need to go thru times like this and go thru this process to come out as a total package on the other side (I'm not saying this well, but I think you know what I'm trying to say).

    Hang in there, Sunshine!
    1960 days ago
    I wish I had some advice for you, too, but alas... If you were seeing a registered dietitian, they'd have you work in conjunction with someone to get to the root of the problem (like a therapist or something). It doesn't sound like you're that extreme. Maybe there's a Spark Team somewhere around here that can help? Either way, I hope you're able to get to the root of the problem and overcome it. You're very deserving of living a healthy life the way you want to.
    1960 days ago
    Far be it for me to advise anyone because I too am an emotional eater - stress and boredom have led me to my present state of being overweight. However, I do know that simply drinking lots of water and exercise is a way forward. I am putting that into practice after I'm off the computer. Best of luck to you I know the more you exercise the more as I call them, "happy hormones" work on the body. And I've decided that every time I crave for anything like cake or biscuits or bread I will reach out for water & be active.
    1960 days ago
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