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What's the Use?

Sunday, February 03, 2013

Ha! It is February already and I am finally looking at 2013! Where does the time fly?
I want to discuss a conversation I had with a friend recently. We were out to eat at a Mexican resturant and catching up with each other's busy life. She has always been single(no kids) and I am finally an empty nester( 2 kids in college). We are both in our mid 50's. Ok that's all the background you need......

We started talking about our jobs. We both talked about looking for a change. Me because I am afraid healthcare reform will have a huge influence on my type of work and she because she is bored and unchallenged. As we talked about it, she ended our conversation with: at our age what's the use changing?

We started talking about what we had been up to and I asked her if she had taken a vacation or done anything fun this past year. She told me she didn't have anyone to travel with. I suggested joining a tour group and she said: what's the use in spending all the money to vacation with strangers.

We talked about our weight. I said I was planning for some big changes this year! I told her about new healthy recipes, yoga, being more active and taking a hiking vacation. Her response again was what's the use in denying yourself what you really want at our age? Now that made me really think....what we really want.

I really want:
To lose 40 lbs
To be more active and adventurous
To live longer and healthier so my husband and I can enjoy retirement when it comes
To dream still. Have destinations I want to see, strangers I want to meet, food I want to taste
To continue to be a role model for my kids even though they are adults
To set goals and achieve them "at our age"
To stay in love with life and appreciate each day as a gift
To be so filled with gratitude for the little things that I am blown away with the big things
To give back to others even if it is just a smile
To be spontaneous and have an open mind
To love a new challenge to learn, grow, and meet goals
To know that I am a child of God and keep His love flowing through me to others

We may have 2 totally different attitudes entering this phase of our lives, but I was grateful for our really made me think. Neither of us is right or wrong it's just all about :What's the use? I choose to live it fully!
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    Oh the sad sound of hopelessness.... I'm so happy you are in your friend's life to be a great example of loving kindness--both to her by not judging her, and to you by treating yourself with the respect and care you deserve. I hope your actions show her how fun life can be when you just keep practicing and believing.

    1802 days ago
    I just now read your blog... and I love it! What a great attitude you have! emoticon

    Thanks for sharing! emoticon Marge
    1945 days ago
    I LOVE your attitude!
    1952 days ago
  • BILLB000
    Love your blog and the healthy fresh perspectives you share. The cup really is half full isn't it? Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I had many very similar thoughts when turned 60, which has become almost a mission statement for me.
    Keep the faith.
    1963 days ago
    I like YOUR attitude...Stay positive!
    1963 days ago
    What's the use? In opening the door to opportunity, and dreaming, living, being a whole, complete person? As you seem to know it's everything! Hope your conversation got your friend thinking about her options and possibilities that still await her! If not, at least you see it!
    1964 days ago
    Great Blog! i feel bad for your friend though. she really seems to be missing out on life. oh, i want to fix her so badly! give her a big hug and "make" her love the same God i love, hoping that HE would put the joy in her life.
    i suppose she is blessed to have a friend like you who is accepting and not judging. i am 52 and i just cant see living my life in such a way.
    1964 days ago
    I love your perspective on life - life is not over and you lord willing have many good years ahead to live to life's fullest
    1965 days ago
    So sad when hear friends expressing what seems like depression.So hard to know how to help them grab onto life and opportunities again...
    1965 days ago
    I really want to get rid of this big belly! You do what you gotta do to get there! And it feels so go when you are accomplishing each step along the way. You need goals in life, passion!
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    Keep your eye on the prize!
    1966 days ago
    emoticon We do what we do - The Sacrifices, Traveling Alone, Passing on the High Calorie Snacks (sometimes!), Going to The Gym when we'd rather read a Book, and all the Other Choices that We make on a Daily Basis - Because at "My Age" I have FINALLY figured out that I AM WORTH IT!!
    1966 days ago
    What's the use? I am not dead yet. That is what's the use. Why not try and get what we want, if we are still living? Seems to me if we say what's the use and don't try, then aren't we already dead?
    1966 days ago
    "The best is yet to come".... That's my mantra. What's the use? Well, the use is in living each day to the fullest and learning all that I can. Making the most of every opportunity. Thanks for the Blog! It is an excellent reminder for me to be grateful for every moment that I am alive! emoticon
    1966 days ago
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