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Sunday, February 03, 2013

Question. When your best friend is throwing a temper tantrum, how many insults are you supposed to take before you say STOP!

I took four, before I told her to stop snapping at me. I was almost in tears by that point. Her response was "huh, I'm not snapping at you". Completely clueless. She's mad at someone else and I became the punching bag. It didn't help that I think she's the one whose behaving childishly, not the other friend. I tried to get her to see reason, but she's to pissed.

Why is she pissed? Because she puts in 1% effort in maintaining a friendship and the other person puts in 0%. She said those percentages, not me.'re BOTH crap friends. I tried to explain that and suddenly I became the villain in this...this high school drama. 28 and we're still in hs. After being told that I'm biased, I don't see other peoples sides in arguments, I think I'm always right, and I do whatever I want without thinking about her, I simply told her "do what you think is best" and walked away from the conversation.

I think that pissed her off even more... How do you deal with a grown up temper tantrum? How do you explain to someone that when they discover the center of the universe they'll be surprised to discover they ain't it?
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  • no profile photo SCOTLA
    2245 days ago
    Its funny how some people will treat the ones they care about most poorly when they are angry with someone else or about something else. Its a shame you have to be the target though as you said she doesn't realize. I am sorry she hurt your feelings. Maybe waiting until the situation is resolved and discuss it with her then she can see it with a more open mind. emoticon
    2265 days ago
    You did the right thing...Was talking about this in a different way with a close friend just yesterday - we were talking about how important it was to teach our daughters that it is not okay when we are frustrated/angry/hurt etc to take this out on someone else - and how we need to model that behaviour in our daily lives with them.
    2268 days ago
    Hugs. I agree wait for her to come to you and walk away again if you need to.
    2268 days ago

    You shouldn't have to put up with someone treating you like that...

    Walk away and talk to her when she's not so upset
    2269 days ago
  • CANDICE293
    I think what Kimzee said is the right thing to do. She's having her tantrum and now she needs to cool it and when she's ready she'll come to you. As for her coming to see she's not the center of the universe she may never fully realize this. Some people are just that way. Good luck with the situation.

    Hugs and positive energy to you.

    2269 days ago
  • TOOBUSY035
    Relationships are hard, no matter what age!

    I have many acquaintances but only 2 good friends that I communicate with daily. I feel lucky that our trio is open and honest about everything. We have actually been told, by other women our age, that they envy our relationship!

    At 28, I did not have these two deep connections maybe it comes with age?
    2269 days ago
  • KIMZEE71
    I think the best thing to do is what you did by walking away from the conversation. When things get heated, it's usually not going to end well. She will cool off. Let her come to you now.
    Kim emoticon
    2269 days ago
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