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Writing to Daddy

Friday, February 01, 2013

I have a dad who is living in an assisted living home.
He cannot work a TV without goofing it up.
He cannot work a cell phone.
I used to call him daily and we talked for hours about politics and religion and sports.
But he cannot do that now.
He cannot even describe what he did or what he ate that day.
I just miss him so much.
So I have been writing a letter or sending a postcard every day in the mail.
The problem is I forget what I told him the day before. So I will have to keep a copy.
He is 91 and physically healthy except for osteoporosis and not remembering who people are. When my sister comes to visit he asks her, " Have you been here before?"
We wanted him to stay in his home but that does not seem to be possible.
He asks every day when he can go home.
I live 2000 miles away and feel so powerless over the things I cannot do for him.
I visit a local lady who is still living alone so if I were closer ... i would take care of him.
So what can I say to him today. He never writes me back.

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    Write what is in your heart.

    I went through the same thing many years ago.

    1902 days ago
    It does not matter whether you remember what you wrote the day before or not. One can never hear too often nor read too often "I love you." You know how older people get stuck in a rut of telling the same stories over and over? Follow suit. Share your own favorite memories with him. "Hey dad, remember that time we..." From experience with the elderly, I know that this is meaningful, and helps them to remember the love, even when they can't remember the names or the places.
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    1902 days ago
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