Am I doing this on purpose?

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

I wonder why I hit a certain weight then go no lower. Its as if I am afraid to succeed. I made the half way mark of my total goal in early November. I am unable to find the motivation to start again. i have gained over 15 pounds back.

I can make it all day following my diet plan, exercise for 30-45 minutes and by 10pm eat everything I can find.... Still trying. Wondering if I am afraid to feel good about myself since it has been so many years. How do I face and conquer this?

I am not sure this is my problem, I have four children and maybe its the stress of the day?

How do I soul search and find what is blocking me?
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  • SAMI199
    I know you are already doing better-keep on Sparking,my friend.

    1963 days ago
  • SHARON10002
    I too am in total agreement with EXOTEC. My other piece of advice is to begin changing your perception. Try focusing on the things, no matter how small, you do right instead of all you are doing wrong. Remember how you felt getting those gold stars or stickers on your papers when you were in school? Same theory. Build your confidence by changing your focus!
    1963 days ago
    I agree with EXOTEC. As soon as I saw the word "DIET" that sent up the red flags. This is not a diet, diets deprive you and set you up for failure, I've tried them all, it's a LIFESTYLE Change, that's the way to success.
    1965 days ago
    I completely agree with EXOTEC. What a great answer. It's not that you CAN'T do it, because I know you can! emoticon
    1966 days ago
  • ADZY86
    EXOTEC is so right! Low carb and low fat is a recipe for disaster. For me, I want to enjoy food! I love food, I love eating. If I can't feel satisfied by my meals or whatever eating plan I am on, 9 times out of 10 I will give up after a few weeks; that's just too much work for me. Don't be afraid of the fats. They will make you feel so much better, full, not deprived, and you'll be floating.

    I do agree with you on whether you are afraid to succeed. I have wondered that myself. Last year I managed to lose 27lbs or the 45 I wanted to lose, only to go and gain back 17 of them in the last 6 months! emoticon It's been a learning curve, let me tell you. But I know now, as I start again, I DO want to succeed. I DO want to be happy and I DO want to be confident and healthy. I just need to put that into action.

    Just keeping taking things day by day. Keep tweaking your plan to suit your lifestyle. Once you find something that is easy to keep up with, you'll be flying. Some days will be harder than others. Like my brother said to me the other day, when you don't feel like doing it, 'suck it up, suck it in, and just do it anyway...the next day you'll feel a lot better'.

    Keep going. We're all rooting for you emoticon
    1966 days ago
    *claps for EXOTEC's answer*

    Spot on!
    1966 days ago
    Ahhhh... I see a possible point to address.

    I went to your page to see your shared Trackers, but the only one listed there was for exercise. I wanted to see your Nutrition Tracker (you really should try it out, if you don't use it; it will help you - honest!).

    But I went to your previous blog and saw that you're on a low-carb AND low-fat plan. Therein lies a problem! Fat is what creates satiety. It keeps the hungries away. When you go low carb, you MUST replace those calories with another macro, and since excess protein is converted to glucose, you may as well eat sugar. So most of us replace with good fats (real whole butter, cream, full-fat dairy, hard cheeses, bacon!!!). You can check various websites online which support this method (MDA, for example).

    You're also right in that it may be stress. Children, no matter how wonderful and well-behaved, add things to juggle on your plate. All life stresses interfere with weight loss; in fact stress in general interferes with any sort of goals you set for yourself. It's just that weight loss tends to be more emotional than other things.

    I agree you can't rule out some amount of subliminal sabotage, too. For those of us who have been fat most of our lives (**raising hand**) the prospect of becoming "someone else" can be a scary proposition. I have a lot of issues circulating around that. But I have to just focus on today, one step at a time. I'm strong, and I will deal with other issues when they're actually issues, and not just phantoms.

    You can do it. Find some quiet time for yourself; make some moments in which you can reward yourself with pleasures unrelated to food. You will need to learn those skills WHEN you reach your goal. And you will reach it. But, as with your eating habits, you have to begin to learn "how to be" as you go along. May as well start learning now!
    1966 days ago
    I think the best thing to do would be to work on not looking back, but always forward. With 4 kids, there has to be stress--I've only got 2 girls, and I get stressed, but then I take them for a walk or "dance" to an aerobics video with them, which makes me happier, gets me off my tush and teaches them to be active, too.

    I generally try not to weigh myself every day, but I usually do, and what I've learned is that seeing it go up doesn't change whether or not I can breathe--anything that is really important is whatever changes my ability to breathe. When the scale is higher today than it was yesterday (or 3 hours ago) I just remind myself that ups and downs do happen, and that it is only a big deal when I let it be. I don't let myself think of my failures--there are too many of them--but keep reminders around of the successes I have and can achieve.
    1966 days ago
    I'm not really sure how to answer your question, but I am sure someone here will help guide you. There are plenty of ways to try to curb the late night munchies, but I have a feeling that is not what you are looking for. I hope you are able to dig deep and find the reasons for your self-sabatoge, and begin to heal. emoticon
    1966 days ago
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