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Monday, January 28, 2013

An alcoholic needs to say no to drinks. I need to say no to chocolate and other foods I have intolerances to. This is for health reasons.

Food pushers may not get that you want to be in control of your food intake, unless you link a medical reason to your refusal.

Don't feel guilty or bad about holding your ground and refusing food that is not on your plan.

No matter how insistent the food pusher becomes, how much they equate your eating with their love for you, you deserve to be in charge of your food intake.

You have every right to take care of you!
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    1932 days ago
    It is your choice to be healthy! Good for you for pushing back. emoticon emoticon
    1936 days ago
  • LISAMG1220
    Well said! I have a family full of food pushers and my hubby is the ring leader. I just have to remember that saying no is not a bad thing. :)
    1936 days ago
    So identify with this! The "just one can't harm".... But at the moment I have no food pushers around me luckily. And the one thing I am now better at is moderation...So I have taught myself that just one piece of chocolate is okay - and actually for me necessary so that I don't feel I am denying myself things and then when something goes wrong gorge on it...
    1936 days ago
    Very well said!!!
    1937 days ago
    More difficult to deal with than my own foods-of-temptation and cravings are the well-intended (usually) offers from friends and family. Aunt Ginny's special brownies and Mom's macaroni'n'cheese and my neighbor's "secret ingredient" sugar cookies are hard enough to resist without having them urge and remind and cajole.

    I feel your pain, hon. I fear I'm all-too-often rude, but when I have to choose between what's best for me, healthwise, and what I can and cannot deal with - well, if courtesy ends up the loser, so be it. Regrettable, but necessary, IMHO.
    1937 days ago
    Oh I know some pushers, mostly it's meant as a loving gesture- something comforting to eat, but polite refusal often offends doesn't it.
    1937 days ago
    Hang in there. My mom is a food pusher. I know it equals comfort and love and she wants the old me back. Remember to gently, but firmly, decline.
    1937 days ago
  • SHOES17
    Most certainly. I have to remember the feeling that I feel after I eat something in other to make someone else happy. If I could just explain to them how unhappy and unhealthy I end up feeling as a result.
    1937 days ago
    HAPPY-TRAVELS, how would a white wine spritzer do? Looks like a glass of wine, and you can tote it around with you if you don't want to drink it. (Stops people from insisting that you have something, too). emoticon
    1938 days ago
    Congratulations on your journey so far. My husband is a bit of an enabler, so now we are doing this together (again...) but I remain hopeful. It seems that when I lose 1lb, we go out to "have a nice lunch". I now make lunch before we step out the door. The odd thing is - we don't eat junk food, but, like you, I am rather fond of chocolate. His calories are from not watching portions. If we go so someone's house, I take some crudites for everyone - they seem to disappear rather quickly, so I guess a lot of people actually like them with a nice, home made, dip....If someone brings a gorgeous desert to your house, take a tiny bit on your plate, taste a tiny bit, and as you get up talking to them, take your plate "absent mindedly" to the kitchen, and leave it there. emoticon
    1938 days ago
    Good for you. I have family members that are always asking to have a drink. I have to say no at least three times before they get that I am not drinking. I have a problem with drinks I find myself allergic to something that they put into them. Food I just explain that for health reasons I have to pick my food carefully.
    1938 days ago
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