How to win a date with Jennieonfire

Monday, January 28, 2013

Ok so I found myself to be on that path of “dating” again after about five years of not trying and being in a one-sided relationship. My friends mostly decided for me that I need to start dating and I really have not put much thought into it because I have been really happy with doing my own thing and really trying to improve my health in 2013. I haven’t thought much about dating and I can tell you that the reason I think I avoided it so much was because of my constant fear of rejection. I don’t like the idea of putting myself out there on display and getting friend zoned which seems to be my problem. I got set up on a double date yesterday with my best friend, her boyfriend and his coworker. It went really well, I had a lot of fun and looked really cute but I could tell he wasn’t into me and I wasn’t into him. He was just very like dry humor and sort of reserved where I am more of a free spirit, carefree and well very talkative. I don’t know where to go from here I sort of liked the idea of being on dates but the rejection thing still irks me. It’s not easy explaining to guys that you aren’t a size two or working on losing weight some guys around here are just so full of the jersey shore image of women that it’s sort of disheartening. Anyways enough of being debby downer, here is what I discovered about myself last night that I didn’t realize….I am completely beautiful the way I am, I have a striking face, nice curves and a great smile so that’s something to keep informing myself and if guys are that conceited than they are not worthy of all that I have to offer. I also took a few pictures last night and took one full body shot that I am actually ok with seeing (that has been a really hard challenge for me) I cant get myself to look at or see full body shots…O well here’s to a happier 2013.

The shirt is not something I would typically wear and my friend made me try it on...I must say that color looks fantastic on my skin tone! O and ignore the socks lol my feet were cold after bowling.
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    You are absolutely beautiful and I am glad that you realize that! You look great in this shirt, and I love the smile on your face.
    2235 days ago
  • LILYPAD12311
    You are beautiful! And yes,,, the blouse looked beautiful on you,,,,,,, in our society we "talk" about inner beauty but often times do not really embrace it,,, I try to teach my sons that the real beauty of a woman is inside her heart not just the exterior (exterior fades and wrinkles) (LOL)
    2236 days ago
    Thank you everyone for your support,love and encouragement it was totally needed! This has been a long process for me...I don't know how many times ive gained and lost and I am hoping that this is the last of the last time I have to lose any of the pounds I have :)

    2237 days ago
    I'm so glad you discovered this on your own. What a wonderful thing to have found. As for the dating, do it on your time. Mr. Right is out there and you'll find him when the time is right.
    2239 days ago
  • 2008GINA
    My best friend has been bugging me about dating again, but I'm not where you are with your last section of your blog...I think I'll bookmark this, you're so encouraging! Love the photos, too emoticon
    2239 days ago
    You look great. And you shouldn't HAVE to explain yourself. There is someone out there who will see your beauty for who you are, as you are!
    2240 days ago
    Lovely girl!
    2240 days ago
    I love that you know and accept how beautiful you are! :-) You should never settle. There are special thing sins tore for you!
    2240 days ago
    Just because you guys didn't click doesn't mean it was "rejection"! Think about it - there are plenty of women we meet who we don't click with as friends, right? And we don't call that "rejection," we just consider that person not a great match as a potential friend. The same is true for jobs, school classes, trainers, television shows, etc. Don't take "we didn't click" as "I got rejected," because that's not at all what it is. Some people will fit you, some people won't, and there's nothing wrong with YOU when you don't click with someone else. It'd be like saying a pair of jeans "rejected" you because they didn't flatter you - the jeans didn't "reject" you, you rejected them for not being flattering! It's the same with guys. Keep putting yourself out there, and you'll find the guy that fits.
    2240 days ago
  • COOKIE_AT_51
    So glad to hear that you "know" yourself and that you aren't trying to be someone you are not. You are BEAUTIFUL, emoticon inside and out, so refreshing to hear you know it!

    Your 2013 focus to work on you will only improve you and ALL your relationships ... emoticon to you as I understand that feeling of "rejection", if someone doesn't take the time to get to know you maybe they aren't worth the time?

    Keep sparkin' gorgeous cougar! emoticon
    2240 days ago
    You'll find the right person for you. Keep looking. I recommend this for my clients: make a list of everything you're looking for in a life partner. Put that list somewhere and don't look at it again (unless you want to add something to it LOL). Visualize that person walking towards you. Positive thoughts--very powerful.

    Have a great day and keep Sparking! emoticon
    2240 days ago
  • ADORE83
    lol you're so cute! you looked great am so glad you had fun. there's no shame in easing into things to a point where you're comfortable hun
    2240 days ago
    You are beautiful! And remember, men aren't all interested in just the external "outside" of a person. Yes, you are beautiful, but you are also kind, compassionate, fun, silly, carefree etc. That initial attraction is important and it happens (because you ARE beautiful!) but it's the inside features that forward thinking men focus on- because when you're 80 who cares what your waist size is/was?! So, maybe try viewing it less as a rejection and more as two puzzle pieces that don't really fit. As my mom would tell me, not everybody's gonna like you. And that's okay- it's a GOOD thing actually! So you don't have to explain the way you look, or why you don't look a certain way- EVER! Jersey Shore girls also have body image issues, and sometimes they don't have the rocking personality to keep a guy at home. You are lovely as you are, and that's that.
    2240 days ago
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