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Monthly Weigh-in and LONG Update

Saturday, January 26, 2013

First of all, this week I have finally gotten back into reading blogs for the first time in several months; I am trying to read them daily as they come in instead of saving them all for the weekend as I have done in the past. I have so enjoyed catching up and the daily motivation helps, too. I missed you all!
In this blog I will try to give you more of an update on what has happened the past few months with me.

Today was my monthly weigh-in, and I stayed the same...175 lbs. I was a little disappointed, but not too much...I was happy to stay the same, considering the fact that I have had a lot of change in my life in the past month. I have also lost 5 lbs the last two weigh-ins combined, after another plateau, and I know now that I am only 10 lbs from my goal, there will probably not be a straight path to my goal, and that's OK. I have made it this far, and I will make it the rest of the way.

I told you all, I think, back in October, that I found out that I would either have to move to a renovated apartment in the building where I have lived for close to 20 years by the end of this month, with a rent raise of over $275 a month,(Bringing my rent to over $1400 a month for a STUDIO!) or move out. I ran the numbers, and found out that even though I would have to be careful, it was do-able. I had also planned to look for a new place before I made my decision, but with the other thing (I will get to that later) that is going on in my life, I had no emotional energy or time to look not just for a new apartment, but also most likely a new neighborhood, because this one has become a bastion of rich young hipsters, landlords know that they can charge outrageous rents and there are plenty of people who can afford it, but I now make half of the average salary in this county, so that leaves me out. So I decided to do it and rent month to month instead of signing a lease for a year, to keep my options open so I could still look when things settled down. So I made arrangements to move on 12/27, and that was the day I moved to a apartment directly above my old one...I actually completed the move gradually over about 4 days, but all the big stuff moved on 12/27 and that was the first night that I slept in the new apartment.

However, about a week before THAT, they taped notices to all of our doors to notify us that in January, they would start installing smart meters in our apartments so they could now START CHARGING US FOR ALL OF OUR UTILITIES, which have been included in our rent for all of these years. (Of course I was not told THAT was coming when I had to make my decision about whether to stay or go) So tack on another $80 - $120 a month for me, add the 2% pay cut due to the tax break that was taken away, and you have a great recipe for financial stress. So now I REALLY have to seriously think about moving again. I am starting to look around. If any of you live in the Northern VA area, I am looking for a place with easy access to 66 West, in a good neighborhood where I do not have to drive to everything. I will not move to any place run by my current building management, because they are greedy and I do not trust them.

On top of THAT, my SO, who has been unemployed for a long time, was evicted from his apartment, which had been a long time coming. I spent about 4 days helping him move his items into a storage unit in December, (The actual move took a lot longer than that, too) and it was an absolute nightmare. He moved in with me temporarily on 12/15, (My birthday!) until we could find a better situation for him for at least part of the week, which is yet to happen.

I don't feel good about sending him to a shelter, because he has a lot of issues with depression and anxiety, and there has been suicide in his family. He has been registered with his county's community service board, even seeing a therapist every week, but they have done very little for him as far as I am concerned. So because he is so discouraged and depressed, (He can't take medication for it, either, as he has had really bad reactions to it) I have been trying to find alternative housing (and some good job counseling) for him, with no luck so far. He is 63 and does absolutely no substances. If anyone has any suggestions, please let me know!

In the meantime he is living with me under the radar, which is stressful...I am not supposed to have anyone living with me all the time, although I think that weekends and maybe another day would be OK. I live in a large building, and we are trying to be careful, but I do not feel comfortable doing this. I am between a rock and a hard place.

Even without the stress of breaking my lease, I am a person who needs a certain amount of space and "me time" so having to live in ONE ROOM with someone all the time is not easy for me at all, although I am getting used to it. I have no privacy (other than my drive to work) unless I go to the bathroom, out to my car, or to the gym. And my eating habits have changed...he takes care of most of his own food but I make dinner for the two of us, and find myself eating more grains, pasta and potatoes than before (and more than I really would want to) to be able to make enough food for us. (We are both vegetarians) I still am religious about my gym time and have been also walking outside a lot at work when I can. So that's why I am not that disappointed about my weight staying the same this month.

Anyway, that's the update. Now you know why I was so out of touch for so long.
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  • SHARON10002
    Wow, talk about an overflowing plate! I agree with timeline for SO. You have more courage than me; I'm not comfortable in situations like that. Some people can really do a number on your heartstrings. . . .and just dig in. Good for you not giving in to the stress of it all with food.
    2971 days ago
    Wow, what a lot of turmoil and financial pressure. Best wishes to you in finding a better living situation. Maybe you should give your SO a timeline for finding his own housing. Keep doing the best that you can! and hang in there.

    2999 days ago
    Wow...I would say that keeping your weight at maintenance right now with all that you have been having go on is amazing. Kudos to you. I hope you find some relief with the living situation soon. That is really hard...on all counts. I work as a Rep Payee for Social Security clients who cannot handle their finances. A lot of them have mental issues and are on disability Social Security. I don't know if that might be an option for your SO or not. It's not much, but it's something. And it would give him an income and hopefully he would be able to find a place to live. I know, that's really hard. I am always helping my clients to locate low-income housing. Some places are better than others. You just have to keep looking...and hope you get lucky. We're glad you're back! Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon emoticon
    2999 days ago
    you really are under a lot of stress but seem to be handling it pretty well. It was good of you to take in your SO but I would put a time limit on it. I like my privacy too.
    3002 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12164424
    Wow, considering everything that is going on w/ you, I think I would be pretty happy with no gain too!! It is good to be back and good to have you back. I enjoy reading your blogs and your comments. You are always so encourageing and I need all the help I can get. Thank you.
    3003 days ago
    My, oh, my! What craziness! Hopefully you can find a
    place to live that is affordable and housing for SO.
    I admire your spirit and pray that it all works out.
    3003 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/26/2013 10:17:45 PM
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