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Hospice care for Mom

Saturday, January 26, 2013

Mom had another serious bladder infection 10 days ago. This has been her undoing this past year and led to her worsening kidney failure and infections in her bloodstream which resulted in several heart attacks, an infection in her spine and now loss of blood flow to her large intestine. This caused the intestine to die. She is too sick for surgery so the intestine will result in her demise. Mom has not complained through all of this except to tell dad before this last insult to her body that she was ready to go home to heaven.

Mom is out of the hospital and back in the nursing home where she is in familiar surroundings. She has had a burst of energy for the past two days the likes of which she has not had for the past several months. She is lucid and talkative. I am enjoying this precious gift but know it will end soon. Mom still has an infection which will get worse, uncontrolled high blood pressure, severe electrolyte imbalances and has had no food or drink in 10 days. I do not know what today will bring. It is hard to lose her.

I am trying to be strong for my family. I am a nurse so they look to me for explanations. I am the durable power attorney for healthcare so I have to make the decisions or sign the paperwork after discussions with my family. So I teeter back and forth between nurse and daughter. I feel so bad for my dad. He and mom have been married 63 years. He has taken such good care of her. He is a wonderful, loving, patient man and she is such a lucky woman to have him.

So if anyone is reading this, please pray for my mom to pass peacefully, for my family to find strength and peace, and for my father to know he has done his very best and to find a way to live without his fiesty bride and find joy and fulfillment in his remaining years.

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    May the Lord give you and all of your family peace at this time.

    Many blessings to all of you,

    1913 days ago
    Kathy, I am so sorry for the pain all of you are going thru as it isn't easy to say goodby to a loved one esp a parent. As a nurse, you are also having to live thru what is going on in her body as it fails. I wish her a peaceful, painless passing and you and your family peace and strength to get thru the grieving process.

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    1914 days ago
    Dear Father,

    I pray for Kathy and her family tonight... such a difficult valley through which to pass! Yet You are with them. For Kathy's mom, please allow her to travel into eternity with You peacefully. Lessen her pain, if it be Your will.

    For Kathy's dad, I ask for special strength, too, for him. I cannot imagine losing my husband of 31 years, so I can't imagine the loss that he feels and will continue to feel in the months and years ahead. Help him to rest completely in Your arms and may You hold him up when he can't stand on his own.

    For Kathy, give her wisdom for decisions that need to be made. I know that these are difficult decisions. At the same time, give her time to grieve the upcoming "loss." Encourage her heart. In these days that her mom is more lucid, give the family special memories as they interact with her. Some families tend to fight during these hard times... but I pray that You would unify this family, that they may bear each others' burdens.

    Hold them all tight! Be their Light during this dark valley.
    In Jesus' name,

    1915 days ago
    Oh, I am so sorry, Kathy, that it's time to kiss your dear mother good-bye.

    Weren't your parents so lucky to have found each other and had such a long happy life together? emoticon

    And to have a caring daughter to help them through the end of their lives.

    My sweet little mama rallied those last few days, as well- she knew she was dying but was so thrilled that so many of her children finally came to visit her- she was ready to die.
    1915 days ago
    I will pray for sure. Consider it done. That the Lord will take her.

    My parents died at 95 and 96 from the nursing home. My Mom had Alzheimer's and my dad had demensia. They were married 70 years.

    1915 days ago
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