The Wedding Dress Dilemma

Thursday, January 24, 2013

I'm getting married on June 15th. It's my second marriage and his first. The first time around I wore a boring skirt suit with a little lace. This time I want a real dress. And a ceremony on the beach...barefoot. I have the venue... on the beach... but I am going NUTS trying to figure out how to deal with the dress.

First of all, I ordered one. For me the dress was so-so but my maid of honor and my daughter had a wow moment when I walked out of the dressing room - you know the one... but I didn't have that wow moment. Granted, the dress looks good on me. Even at this weight. So... I put a deposit down on it. And now... I am going to cancel it. I am holding out as long as I can to see how much I lose. I want the dress that makes ME cry when I see myself. That won't happen till I'm smaller. It just won't. I don't want to settle for the one that fits.

Of course there is the question of how long to wait before making a decision. I keep calculating... if I lose 3 lbs a week for so many weeks... blah blah blah. WAY too much pressure on myself but what do I do... I need to decide! Sigh...

The answer will come to me.. it always does.
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    I just went through this last week. Same identical situation. Tried dresses on found one everyone liked but it was not my wow moment either. I realized I was not going to have that wow moment till I am at least small enough to try dresses on that somewhat fit. So I am waiting till April and then trying things on again. My wedding is the 6/22. I am here if you need someone who totally understands.
    1911 days ago
  • C70CHRIS
    sniff sniff... thanks for the validation!!!!! I will keep looking! emoticon I
    1914 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/24/2013 10:10:50 PM
    Patience. You will know the right time, and recognise the right dress when you see it.

    emoticon You still have time, keep looking!
    1914 days ago
    Hmmmm . . . I've been married for 24 yrs. so kinda removed from the planning a wedding scenario BUT I remember vividly trying on the wedding dress that made ME cry. Just so happened it was my Mom's dress! Of course, she cried too, and so did my Maid of Honor. DO hold out for that dress that makes you cry. Honey, no matter what the size, you WILl find something that makes you cry. It takes patience (like everything else in life for sure!) but you'll find it. Big hugs and good luck. Definitely don't settle.
    1914 days ago
  • ZRIE014
    hope you can have it the way you want. just remember that today is the first day of the rest of your life and make the most of it. emoticon emoticon
    1915 days ago
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