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My Daughter's Results Are In.

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Well Nicole was at the doctor's today, Wednesday 23rd Jan 2013, so this is the news.

Nicole is very ill. No more surgeries, the cancer has gone to far. They are going to try Chemo, they are doing a resistance test to see if the pills or the IV chemo is better for her. She will start, which ever one is the right one for her, Feb 6th. It may buy her some time we hope a year may be 18 months. If she does nothing, the doctor's time line is 6 months.

As my husband and I take all this in, the reality of bringing up her boys begins to sink in. So as we loose her, we gain 3 boys! We have to get back to our house asap and get it ready for an 18, 14 and 9 year old. Perhaps her too, because she does not want to go into hospital, at all, ever!

I have to get my head around this quickly. It means such a life style change for us. My husband and I choose to have our kids when we were young. We have always planed a retirement of travel and spending time with each other. Even though my husband has not retired I travel with him most of the time when he travels for business. I will not be able to do this anymore.

I can't figure out if I am sad over my daughter, or for her kids, or for my loss over what was going to be my future. I guess it is all three! LOL

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    Very touching. My grandmother (actually my dad's stepmother since he was 7) went through the same thing. My grandpa died of brain cancer and two weeks later my aunt died of cancer. Then grandma had three teenagers to raise. This was in 1977. They are all grown and very nice people. One is a nurse. Grandma died in December 2007 at the ripe old age of 90. She was fabulous. She had a hobby of raising Siberian Huskys, so one of my cousins raced sled dogs. Grandma did a good job of keeping the kids busy to keep them out of trouble. She was a force in their lives that made a huge difference. She was an amazing lady and always interesting.

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    I will be praying for you and your daughter, her children and your family.

    2451 days ago
    I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. This is too much for any parent to have to go through! I really can't even begin to imagine...
    I know it must be difficult but stay strong and try to take care of yourself as much as possible and make sure you spend as much precious time with your daughter as you can...I am doing the same with my mom emoticon
    2451 days ago
    I have tears in my eyes reading this. I've been through it with my dear cousin, who was like a sister to me. As a parent, I feel your pain. Will keep all of you in my prayers.
    2452 days ago
    sorry to hear about your Daugther. I will keep you and yorfamily in my thoughts and prayers. My God bless you.
    2453 days ago
    I am sure you are sad over all three, and rightfully so. I will seek to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
    2453 days ago
    Thank you to everyone. Knowing that you are out there, and caring is so important. Your wishes and prayers are all so important.

    We never know what is going to happen so as I have said in the past, I am planning for the worse and praying for the best. Thank you!!!

    2454 days ago
    emoticon So sorry the news is not better emoticon
    2455 days ago
    I'm so sorry! Lifting up a praying for you as you try to make careful and quick adjustments. Praying for you daughter too.
    2455 days ago
  • MRE1956
    Oh, dear - I am so, so sorry about this - I will keep you and your family in my best thoughts!

    2455 days ago
    Sorry to hear the news, but heartened to hear how you are making a place in your home, heart and future for your family.

    Going through things strengthens people and I am so happy your daughter and the children will have such lovely parents/grandparents to be with them through everything that is coming.

    God bless you!!! emoticon
    2455 days ago
    I am so sorry, God bless you and your family.
    2455 days ago
  • JOSIE2013
    I am extremely sorry about your daughter. I pray that God delivers her a miracle. It sounds like you are a very supportive family and sometimes that makes all the difference. I know how devastated you must be and all I can think to say is to prepare for the worst, but pray for the best. We are all praying for your family. Have faith.
    2455 days ago
    I am so sorry for what you and your family are going through. I will keep you. All in my thoughts and prayers. It is a lot to take in , overwhelming
    2456 days ago
    I will be praying for all of you God Bless and best wishes You will be in my thoughts
    2456 days ago
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