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Day 18: Being Kind to Myself...NO SHAMING!

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

So before this weekend, I was tracking everything healthy and not healthy, I was being ACCOUNTABLE...I also was practicing being Kind to myself. This is a new concept, because before when i ate someting "unhealthy" I would get so upset with myself, I would feel like I just undid all the hard work I had been doing, now I am trying to allow myself room for imperfection and realize it is normal to crave ice cream and pizza, etc....its just either getting a lower calorie version next time, or budgeting your calories for it. But if you did neither, thats okay, because there is always another opportunity for success....every meal is an opportunity to praise ourselves and realize this is a JOURNEY and in order for it to sustain itself it needs to be realistic to your lifestyle and who you are at the moment, and for me right now that means the occassional pizza and ice cream...I am hoping to budget calories better, and have these occassions fewer and farther between.

So this past weekend, was just that time, It started on Saturday and ended on Monday...I let me emotional eating play part again...this time it wasnt boredom or sadness it was happiness! I was with my friends this weekend, and part of our time together revolves around eating and sharing laughs, and i went with the moment and wasnt thinking I could watch my calories and have fun...It was almost as if I was upset at having to do that..has that every happened to you? Resentment at the fact that everyone is eating cake and you have to (or should) say "no thank you im on a diet" I hate that statement, it makes me feel like an outcast, and brings unwanted attention to I just ate everything with no thoughts of calories, and I didnt take my medication for my pcos, which is not good! So this was LEARNING EXPERIENCE not a "BAD" trying to refrain from BAD or GOOD blanket labels, it brings about that shaming feeling.

So here I am day 18, practicing being kind to myself and not shaming myself, because I am a work in progress and am learning how to take care of myself from the inside out...

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    If we're honest, I think everyone, somewhere on thie journey, encounters that "oh poor me, oh woe is me, everyone else can do (fill in the blank) or eat (fill in the blank), so why can't I?" I sure know I have done this many times on the road. I think it's human nature to want to "fit in", but we're not all one size fits all.

    I think of it this way. There are just some foods that I cannot eat, they're not good for me, essentially I am labeling it I am allergic to it! It doesn't have to do with being on a diet or not. It's all about the fact that it's not good for MY body. And maybe, I also tell myself, there are things that I eat which may not be good for someone else's body. The point? We have to learn to listen to our OWN body's needs and try to be less influenced by what others around us do.

    It takes practice. It takes changing that relationship with food . . . treating it as medicine for our body. If we don't take the right medicine our bodies won't function the best.

    Just a few thoughts for what they're worth.

    Hang in there. Just always remember this is NOT a diet, it is a lifestyle change.
    1948 days ago
    Forgive yourself for all your mistakes, congratulate yourself for all your victories! You have the right ideas - you can do this! You're right that ice cream, cake and pizza can all be part of a healthy diet - those are "sometimes" foods, not every day foods. You're on your way!
    1948 days ago
    I think thats a great idea. We are human and must live in the real world. I have three males in my house I am only female they eat much more than I do and things that are really bad so instead of completely not eating that kind of food pizza in particular I may havd 1 slice and don't eat the crust. In your case portion mayb the solution have your cake but don't eat the whole thing do more talking than eating. I agree sometimes it draws attention but you must do what you need to do for you

    Good job....great post emoticon emoticon
    1948 days ago
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