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Going through a quiet time

Monday, January 21, 2013

Good Morning: I have been going to the gym about 3-5 times a week. I have been watching my food but not always tracking. I have been very busy getting ready for my grand daughter who is arriving this week. My DS has finally engaged in the fact that his child will be arriving in a few weeks. I think b/4 he was like a deer in headlights. In some ways he still is over whelmed with a baby coming, but he is a soldier who has been through 2 back surgeries, has a baby on the way - when the doctors thought he would not be able to father a child due to his surgeries. emoticon He is a young father who is afraid if he will be able to hold his baby long b/c of his injuries. I feel this baby will encourage him to do whatever it takes to recover. Army is messing around with him again- assigning him to CQ and making his life miserable. He is taking some leave to be with Adrienne when she comes. He says it is time to take some time from the Army.
I asked him if he regretted going into the Army. He has grown up the hard way. This November he will have been in the Army 6 years. I have to let go when I think of his future b/c so much relies on his back. He says he can not imagine sitting in a classroom for a hour for each class on his schedule. emoticon
DD will be going to a reunion of about 10 friends from her university at Disney World. She is excited to get a brake. DH and I did a deep clean to get ready for baby. Mostly baby proofing was the aim. DH was complaining about cleaning. I told him that he is so much stress- I am going to the gym. When I came back I asked him why can't you just do the work without complaining; it is so stressful to me. I just do what needs to get done. Why can't you do any thing without complaining. We have been doing puzzles - 1000 pieces and that is all he wants to do now. I worry about him slowing down. I try to get him motivated to do anything except sitting. He has not been going to the gym but I am making him today b/c he is off. I am not arguing with him but I am concerned he has slowed. He talks about having sex but he is more talk than action. He is not doing well in that area either. I tend not to bring up subject b/c it is not a good experience. Much of his problem is his attitude- he has two channels - old or teenager, He just does not know have to be a good partner at his current age.
I sure would like some input on this subject. I love to talk- experience things but at an adult level. Since he does not travel as much, it has been hard to relate. I have to keep him busy b/c he gets bored and just overeats or over drinks. emoticon Have a good day!! emoticon emoticon He has had a physical and medical tests are fine. emoticon
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  • CONCHA77
    My husband retired almost 7 years ago and sometimes he can get to me too, I believe it's normal. He's the intelligent kind and likes to read lots and be on the computer. He does like to cook though. I am the opposite, I am hyper and like to get things done around the house, move all the time. It does take some patience on my part. I went and got a part time job and that seems to be helping.
    Congrats on you becoming a new grandmother soon! Now that is a Blessing.
    Hugs and Health. Connie
    1945 days ago
    Men do go through the Change as well as women, sounds like he is well into it, but I do know what you mean, love mine much, but he drives me crazy sometimes, the older he gets, the ruder he gets, with everyone, not sure if he thinks he has earned always being right, or what. but he isn't any more right now than he ever was. emoticon glad that baby will be there soon, Enjoy her
    1947 days ago
    **SIGH** sorry that your son is still getting grief from the Army! Wishing him and his GF all the best though as the baby comes! No matter what life's circumstances are, the pending birth of a little one is stressful . . . and it continues!

    As for your DH, all I can say is I have already told DH (who turned 61 on the 17th of Jan.) that IF and WHEN he retires, he will need to be a WalMart greeter! LOL -- the message really is, he needs to be busy or he'll drive me looney too!
    1947 days ago
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