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Unexpected Turn in the Road

Monday, January 21, 2013

We found out on January 11 that my dad's cancer is back. Since it's in his head it's obviously close to his brain. They offered more radiation/chemo but my dad said "To hell with that!" So now the prognosis is 2 weeks to 2 years. I'm guessing it will be closer to the former than the latter.

We were in Mobile last Sunday for the half marathon when my dad mentioned they were going to sell their Florida home in a popular retirement community. We offered to drive the 7 hours and get it ready and pack up their personal stuff.

What we THOUGHT was going to be a 3 day side trip -- (drive down, pack their stuff and run the vacuum, drive back) is now in its second week. No matter how clean you leave a house (and my mom is a fanatical housekeeper), leaving it empty for two years will take a toll!

So we've been cutting bushes, putting down mulch, calling repair people, cleaning, doing windows, etc. etc. We've had three showings so far and we have the last repair person coming today. It's amazing how fast the days go.

I'm afraid my eating is all over the board. I know there is some emotional eating going on. I haven't been Sparking much at all -- just haven't had the heart. Things will continue to be busy for the next week or so while we wrap things up here and head back to Mobile to get our trailer and go home.
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  • BUTTERFLY-1976
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    1912 days ago
    Such heavy news, my condolences for the difficulty of this transition for you and your family. What a gift to them that you are both able to be there for them. Keeping you and your family close in my thoughts.
    1914 days ago
    The important thing is that you are there for your family..................TAKE CARE!
    1914 days ago
    What a wonderfl daughter you are: and your DH is a keeper to be right beside you!! So sorry about the stress and anguish you're going through. All best.
    1914 days ago
    1914 days ago
    Oh, dear.
    I am so sorry to hear this bad news.
    Life can be so difficult at times.
    Take care of yourself, my friend.
    1914 days ago
    Be kind to yourself. What an emotional trauma! In spite of that, you're being a WONDERFUL daughter and son-in-law taking care of stuff your folks don't have the energy to do. (and you've lately still been getting more steps per day than I am!)
    Take care of each other.
    1914 days ago
    1914 days ago
    You've been in my prayers since I knew you were undergoing some stress. Take care and don't be hard on yourself.
    1914 days ago
    I am so so sorry to hear about your dad.
    Sending hugs and prayers your way.
    1914 days ago
  • FLGIRL1234

    Prayers to you and your family during this stressful time.
    1914 days ago
    There aren't really words to say how much your blog squeezes my heart ... for you and for your parents. There is nothing that you can do about the circumstances but there are alot of things that are blessings to be thankful for. You and your husband have the liberty to be there to help out and make something good happen for them by selling the Florida house AND you are spending time with them.

    Eating and exercise (I would suppose you are getting plenty of exercise, it's just a new kind!) are things you will have the rest of your life to do. Some things ... and especially people we love are just way more important. Be very kind to yourself and please know you are in my prayers. emoticon
    1914 days ago
    I am so sorry about your Dad. It's his decision, though, and all the people who love him can do is go along one day at a time.
    1914 days ago
    Sorry to hear about your dad. It's so nice of you to be able to help them out. I'm sure your mom isn't in any shape (emotionally) to handle all that you are doing.
    Life happens to all of us. Don't worry so much about eating, just take care to eat the real stuff. Eating junk food might only make you feel worse.
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    1914 days ago
    I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. Please cut yourself some slacks you go through this challenging time.
    1914 days ago
  • NANCY-
    Oh sweetie! Please remember to take care of yourself.
    1914 days ago
  • 1935MARY
    So sorry about your Dad. I am sure stress and emotional eating has been part of your life lately, but it sounds like you have also been busy , packing and other things, so you have gotten exercise in with out even thinking about it, and eating may have not been as bad as you think. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. May God be with you and help you through it will be a hard journey. I know what you are going through I went through 15 months of it with my Mom and when to doctor told us ,his words was she could drop dead any time and if she felt like doing anything to do it. I feel for you and completely understand. emoticon emoticon
    1914 days ago
    Sooooooo sorry to hear about your Dad!!!!! Sending prayers and hugs your way!
    1914 days ago
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