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Hungrier than normal DH-driving me crazy!

Saturday, January 19, 2013

i hope his doctor next week can help! DH is handicapped and did not usese to eat this much. He is in a mortorized wheelchair and is continually looking for food. I have to transfer him so him gaining weight is a huge problem. Also his wheelchair is strong and heavy. It scraps everything --walls , fridge, dishwasher front, door frames.... The noise of him driving the chair continually is enough to drive me insane. Knowing that he is unsettled is emotionally draining on me. And when he opes the fridge, freezer, cupboards he knocks stuff on the floor.

I am not sure if I can take this new problem! Chris emoticon
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    Hard to be the caregiver! Did that for my mom. Sounds like you could use a break. Maybe you can stock some low cal snacks where DH can get them easily. Also start serving lots of clear soups, hot tea, etc to fill him up. I had the opposite thing with my mom. She just would not eat as she did not feel hungry. Thankfully, she loved ice cream and milkshakes!
    Don't forget to take care of the caregiver! emoticon
    1919 days ago
    Bud kept his chair humming 90 percent of the time. It was fine in his house, but his constant fidgiting in Mom and Dad's 800sq ft house was stressful. I don't blame you for being frustrated. Maybe he needs to get out of the house and into a social group of his own. Could one of your helpers take him on field trips a few times a week? Then you would have the house to yourself and be able to get some things done such as a warm bubble bath, a good book and a glass of wine.
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    1919 days ago
    you have got much advice praying for you look after yourself
    1919 days ago
    I hope knowing you are being prayed for and that so many people are here for you helps Chris. Is it possible for him to go to an Adult Daycare for a few hours to give you a break? As everyone is saying you need to take care of you . Tender Hugs. Pat
    1919 days ago
    Chris, I have no words of wisdom but you have my prayers and I am here whenever you want to vent! emoticon emoticon emoticon Dee
    1919 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    I agree with what has been said so far. Call the Case Worker to see if You can get Part time or Full time help. Full time would be better for You. You need to take care of Chris. You can't afford to get down yourself. You are an Important Beautiful Lady and You Worth It. You have done so much and accomplish meeting so many Goals on this Journey. You can Be Very Proud of Yourself. I'm very Proud of You. I have been a Caregiver Myself and it is no fun. I understand where you are coming from. Maybe your DH needs to get out of the house more to get his mind on other things besides food too. What are his Interests and enjoy doing? Does he like to read, plays games, watch Movies etc? Does he have any male friends that conld visit and do things with him? That would help a great deal too. It is to cold to take walks right now. Maybe take him to the Mall and let him look around or just sit there and watch people walking by. I hope this give You a few ideas that might help. I hope so. God Bless You and DH. Have an Enjoyable Day. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!
    1919 days ago
    I have the opposite with my husband and he does not want to eat and he is losing weight.
    1919 days ago
    There is so much I want to say but instead will agree with the others. Take care of you. Do what you have to do to keep your sanity.
    I used to sit with elderly or disabled. That was my job for years. I'd wheel them around, read to them, talk to them, play games with them, change them, bathe them etc. Gave the other member of the house time to do what she needed to do. Please hang in there & I will hope the Doc can help with this.
    1920 days ago
    As a caregiver myself you need a support system it is not an easy task caring for someone you love
    take one day at a time
    If you can find a support group it would help to know you are not alone
    Look into getting yourself people who will come in and sit with your DH so you can get a break we have volunteers from Catholic Charities and we have to pay for that service based on our income
    Also have name at church to perhaps get someone to come sit with my DH for free
    It is not easy to ask for help
    There are programs each has it own regulations Adult Day Care may be another thing you might want to look into Sounds like you DH needs something to distract himself from so he will not seek food
    You are in my thoughts and prayers
    Hang in there

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    Comment edited on: 1/19/2013 9:02:39 PM
  • DEBBY4576
    God bless you girl. As someone said, the job of "caretaker" is a big one. Yes, I agree, maybe the doctor will give you some useful ideas to keep him out of the food, so you will not lose the ability to move him. I really feel for you and your situation.
    1920 days ago
    Very very tough to be a caregiver. I hope you can occasionally get away and have a break. I think it is VERY hard to not overeat when one is physically restricted; I see that with my mom, who is now confined to her bed. Her taste buds have changed; eating is her only pleasure, but she can only really taste sweet flavors and salty flavors. So lots of cookies and potato chips. She used to love fruit; now it all tastes sour to her. Hang in there and do the best you can. emoticon
    1920 days ago
    I you are headed towards crazy any way, why not try walking there instead of driving. It's a healthier option.
    Don't forget to take care of YOU. You are important too. Never forget that you are loved, and look for humor where ever you can find it. Laughter is medicine for the soul.
    1920 days ago
    There's probably more going on physically and mentally with him than anyone realizes. Having a stroke actually causes parts of the brain (those where blood flow was interrupted) to die and as other parts try to compensate things can get out of whack. You may want to ask about him seeing some specialists to see where his physical and mental functioning is at. If he's becoming severely depressed, that will cause dramatic physiological changes, and if something his hormones aren't working properly it can cause depression or other mental health issues like overeating and anger outbursts. I hope you keep searching for help from doctors and your county/state.
    1920 days ago
    It sounds like you have "a full plate." So much responsibility, and some of it beyond your ability to control. I'm a caregiver to my mother & sister, so I do understand. I hope things get better.

    As I read this, something hit me that may or may not help. I'm not familiar with your situation, so if I'm way off base, oh well. But here's what I was thinking. Something is triggering this change in your husband's appetite. It could be an emotional response to his physical issues, or it could be something totally physical. One thing that can cause this is blood sugar issues.

    I don't know if he's diabetic or hypoglycemic, but that is common as we get older. If he is, then you know his sugar level can affect his cravings. I am hypoglycemic, and when I didn't know what foods spiked my blood sugar, I binged like crazy. I couldn't stop eating! Then a wonderful endocrinologist told me about Sugarbusters and low glycemic eating. There's information all over the internet about it. When I stuck to the low glycemic foods, my appetite got more normal.

    No matter what it is, I hope the doctor can get to the bottom of it. You have so much to handle, and it is definitely stressful. Wishing you a good week!
    1920 days ago
  • SHERYLP461
    A caregiver has the toughest job in life. So much more so because we love the person we are caring for. I wish you peace.
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    so sorry chris
    I know when I took care ofmy dad , before he pass on . It was a nightmare.
    the stress of worring about him . emoticon
    I had 3 small boys . He had a stroke . then got better . so he could live on his own
    Then it was worse . always wondering if he was okay .
    Its so hard . faith got me through emoticon emoticon
    1920 days ago
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