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Embracing Life

Friday, January 18, 2013

I’ve been told that I need to be more positive….enjoy life more. More positive in terms of looking at life, myself, others, my ‘situation’ and dealing with the negative. I’ve always been pretty negative but I can see how it is having a bad impact in my general wellbeing and outlook. Part of me just doesn’t want to be like Stuart Smalley. Where I’m so happy I look in the mirror every day and give myself a pep talk summed up by saying ‘and gosh darn it, people like me!’ It’s just unnatural for me to be like that. I know I don’t have to be just like that but that’s pretty much what it feels like when I try to give myself a positive pep talk.

I was asked to come up with 3-4 ways I can routinely embrace life. I don’t even know what that means. Literally I want to Google ‘embracing life’ and see what I get. I’m at a loss. I suppose I could make an effort to appreciate the little things more but what does that look like? I could take trips across the world, meditate everyday, be more spontaneous, quit my job and travel like a nomad.....those things would help me embrace life but aren't doable. Do people even do that? Walk around embracing life? Guess I’m off to Google…..
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    To me embracing life means just doing what makes me happy and what excites me. Whether that's yoga, or dance, or taking a drawing class, cooking course, spending down time with just myself with no restraints or simple things like blowing out my hair or being thankful for sunny days in the midst of winter.
    Also, saying a positive mantra or pep talk isn't natural to most people. My therapist said that it doesn't matter how dumb I feel or how stupid I think it is but it's important to do it and eventually you will start believing what you are saying.
    We spend so much time talking to ourselves (internally) which is almost the same thing but we mostly say negative things about ourselves or our lives. We do lots more negative talk than positive. Giving ourselves a pep talk ensures we add in positive things too and eventually the positive outweigh the negative. At least that's what happened to me. I still work on it everyday but I've found it very beneficial.
    1983 days ago
    Coming from a natural born cynic who has softened the edges a bit, I view embracing life more as "picking your battles." Sometimes people, situations and such are just stupid/irritating/maddening and you need to choose which people, situations, etc are worth your time, attention and effort. Let go of the things that suck your energy or stop you from being the best version of yourself you can be. I've weeded quite a few people from that garden that were emotional vampires or going off over situations that were out of my control and I'm happier for it. But that's just my 2 cents. :)
    1983 days ago
    Maybe embracing life means not listening to others?

    1983 days ago
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