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What is the Missing Step?

Friday, January 18, 2013

It seems that this time of year brings out the analyst in me. I really evaluate what I'm doing, what's holding me back from attaining my goals, and in the case of my weight work, how and why I sabotage myself. Here's what I've come up with during my last bout of introspection:

I have to want to reach my goal more than I want to do whatever temptation is trying to seduce me at the moment. emoticon

What does that mean? I think I've gotten a little comfy now that I've left the point where my weight was a huge deal for me. As I've whittled off some pounds (and figured out how to do it - thank you SP) I've reached a better weight that takes pressure off my psyche and my knees. And for some reason that makes me vulnerable to those temptations emoticon. So when someone brings a piece of chocolate pie to me I don't evaluate it I just eat it. I've never really come to terms that I am a person who doesn't crumble when offered sweets, who doesn't order french fries and a burger when she goes to lunch with friends. I can focus on it, make it happen, take off some weight but I still think I should be able to eat anything I want. And then I backslide.

I have a friend who battled alcoholism for years. She's in great shape today, thank God. But she told me once that while she was making that transition to sobiety every day she would wake up and say "I am not drinking TODAY." That's all she could commit to. It took her a long time to get to the point where she would wake up and say "I'm not a drinker."

I think that's the missing step for me. Right now I'm back to "I'm eating intelligently today." emoticon The weight will begin coming off again with that attitude. But where I'll WIN that battle with my weight is when I wake up knowing that "I'm an intelligent eater." emoticon That's when the weight will come off and stay off. That will be when I will begin really living the management life style. As I said, I'm not there yet. I'm still focusing on "this day only" to lose more weight. But I am now aiming to attain the level where my lifestyle has really changed, where I've become an intelligent, healthy eater who uses portion control and restraint to remain healthy. I've been doing this for 2 years and I just never clearly saw this before. I just had to figure this out for myself.

Deficit count for Thursday? -594
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    Congratulations on your calorie deficit! I liked this blog. There's that mental connection we each need to make to complete this puzzle and reach our goals. I'm practicing the "I can have it, but I don't want it" philosophy right now, and it's finally working. We'll get there. One day at a time.
    1916 days ago
    Liked this blog and I agree wtih you. When I can't "be an intelligent eater" I still can "eat intelligently today": and that may be good enough actually.
    1917 days ago
  • ADELE66
    Excellent blog! I really think you get to the heart of the problem for people with eating issues. We would all like a quick fix, but the bottom line is that re-education takes a very long time! And the sooner we can accept it, the sooner we can settle in for the long haul!

    Very well said!

    Adele :o)

    1917 days ago
    Eventually you'll get there. After a year, I still have days, but 90% of the time I'm an intelligent eater. I find that what I've been doing has become natural now. It's not as much of a mental argument at the store, although those cookies do beckon sometimes. emoticon
    1917 days ago
    Great post! I'm all for the "this day only" approach. Another big milestone for me was realizing that I deserve to be happy, and happiness for me was eating healthfully and exercising daily. I grew up in a family in which food = love and love = food. It took a long time for me to realize that I didn't need to eat through my emotions, whether I was sad, happy, bored, etc. Food doesn't need to feel that void for me anymore :)
    1917 days ago
    hum that's an interesting way to look at things. Waking up every morning and thinking about what the day will be for me food wise is just something I do each and every morning. It's funny but today I am struggling as I know my DH is tired of eating at home and wants to go out and I know I am not under goal so that means weight gain for me. then good news is that I do know now how to get right back on track and that is working for me.
    so here's to us. we know what to do. We can do this.
    Let's make it a great day.
    1917 days ago
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