I Want to Be the "Hot Girl You Wish You Dated"

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

I know this is an incredibly shallow desire, but I was a "fat girl" throughout school, maybe not the fattest in the room, but at least 2nd-or 3rd place. Couple that with my anxiety and extreme shyness and I never got attention from boys. It didn't really bother me too much at the time; I've always been the type that has more important things to worry about, but now looking back I feel like I missed out on part of that typical teenager experience. Even when I did kinda have boyfriends, they wouldn't "officially" date me because they didn't want to be seen in public with me.

Today men still don't look at me. It kinda starts to make someone feel bad after so many years. Back then I always thought, "It'll be different when I'm older." Now that I'm older it's not. I hope I'm not just dog ugly. It has to be something, and I'm hoping it's my weight rather than the latter. If I meet someone online they'll talk to me fine until they see me, then it's a dead stop. I don't hear from them again. They don't even make an excuse to stop talking. I know I don't need someone like that to begin with, but after it happens so many times it gets kinda hurtful.

This isn't the main reason for my weight loss. My main reason is for myself: to be healthier, feel better, be stronger, and have more stamina. I'm tired of being tired all the time. However, becoming a "hot girl" will be the icing on the cake. I can't wait for them to eat their heart out.
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    Once you lose a few pounds and develop healthier habits, you'll have more confidence and you won't care about those guys that ignored you. You can ignore them! emoticon
    2289 days ago
    I can total relate as well. I went on 1 date all though high school. Looking back I wasn't as fat as I thought, but it didn't matter, I felt like it. I was made fun of, laughed at and rejected for things. It sucked. I didn't even date in college until I met my hubby about 2 yrs in. He was worth the wait. He is the best thing the world has ever given me and I'd go all through high school again with no dates just to have him all over again. I'm still struggling and am heavier now than I was in high school and feel like I'll never be that 'pretty girl', but I'm trying and not giving up and neither are you!!! Hang in there, we'll all make it there together.
    2289 days ago
    Cherrycow, you are without a doubt a beautiful person both on the inside and the outside. Once you start losing a few pounds, your attitude and posture will change. You don't have to be pretty to turn a few heads. It is all in your mind. If you feel and act confident, it shows. And believe me - you will feel so much more confident when your clothes start to hang too lose on your body and you have more freedom of movement. Just stick with your plan, give it time, and you will be amazed!

    I have felt this change myself, and I have only lost 28 pounds so far. I have a wonderful husband who doesn't mind my weight but I know that he is proud of my efforts, and I am sure that he will find me even more attractive once I have lost all that I want to lose. There is a great guy out there for you. Trust in the process and allow things to happen at their own pace.

    Best wishes and good luck!
    2289 days ago
    I know what you mean! I am 41 years young & have been overweight my whole life! I can totally relate to what you went through as a teenager. Good news though! I am now married to a WONDERFUL man! Believe it or not they are out there few & far between I know! On January 24th we will be married for 15 years & we are now as much or even more in love than when we first got together! He tells me he loves me in any package I come in! We have 3 children - 1 from a previous marriage - it did take me 2 times to get it right! My advice is to stop looking & than the perfect man will eventually cross your path!!! emoticon
    2289 days ago
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