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Even "success stories" have bad days

Sunday, January 13, 2013

I've never seen myself as a success story regarding weight loss. Never. Yes, I've lost 182#, but I tend to focus on the 70 or so excess pounds still to go. I'm kind of a glass half empty kind of girl. emoticon

However, my blog post "WHY I am doing this" received an unexpected and amazing response. And I have read and cherished every single comment. Every one. And I was shocked at how many times people called my story one of success. It gave me a lot to think about this past week.

But here's the deal... even those of us that have lost large amounts of weight successfully have bad days and struggle at times. Yesterday was one of those days for me. I did well in the morning, making smart food choices. But as the day wore on, my frustration with my husband and my unending "to do" list became overwhelming. Then he went to work for 10 hours and left me with our 4 year old (and my parents for a while). My dad was preoccupied with a game. My mom's dementia/forgetfulness was particularly trying, my 4 year old got ink all over her hand, etc., etc., etc. I felt like I was going to break.

I got my parents fed and sent back to their house across the street. I got my daughter fed, bathed, and in bed. I got the ink cleaned up from random places it had landed. I sat down and felt the overwhelming frustration.

And then I went to the kitchen and took my frustration out on myself with cinnamon rolls.

I read a blogger here on SP once equate these falls with getting a traffic ticket. If you get a ticket, do you spend the rest of the day running red lights and speeding? No. So why does a diet slip up avalanche into a full day/week/month/year of bad choices??? It doesn't have to.

Today I'm doing better. I have some spiced up veggies roasting in the oven for lunch as I type this. Hubby is home today and spending some MUCH needed time with the little person, allowing me a bit of time to decompress. And life goes on.

Without the cinnamon rolls.
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  • MYRTLE811
    Your blog rings a bell for me...been there done that. But the difference for you and me this time is we get back on the horse again and move downward with our weight. I could make one day of cheating last for at least two weeks telling myself it's done so I can enjoy the overeating and squash the pain. Pain only got worse; good for you for getting back on track!
    1917 days ago
    1917 days ago
    I needed to hear this. Thank you!
    1922 days ago
    That's a great attitude to have. Cinnamon rolls attack sometimes, but it sounds like you're doing an excellent job of beating them back. It probably helps tremendously that you're getting a break from all the stress, though. I don't have kids, so I can only imagine how trying it must be at times, so I'm sure it was nice for the hubby to take over for a bit.

    Hope things are still floating along swimmingly for you!

    1922 days ago
  • SHELBY897
    Reminds me of a quote I heard in the past something like "If you fall down one stair, do you get up and throw yourself down the rest?" If you have one bad meal/day/week, why throw yourself under the bus? The time to start again can come anytime - day or night, never wait for a new day.

    Before I started my weight loss journey you could find me on my bed watching tv every afternoon yelling out commands to my two children. Late at night I'd finally get up and be overwhelmed with everything I needed to accomplish. Now - #1, I learned the fine art of saying "NO" to many things and #2, I learned to immediately upon arriving home get to work on everything. Some nights I actually get to read a book after the kids go to bed now because all my stuff is done!

    You have a small child, cut yourself some slack and start putting yourself first. A happy/healthy mommy is the best gift you can give her along with your time. Keep up the amazing job you are doing!
    1922 days ago
    So you fell down but you picked yourself up and got back on track emoticon

    You are an inspiration to me. emoticon

    1923 days ago
    Hi Lyn,

    Your blog has added to the realism I need to put into my journey.

    Believing it's harder, or too hard for me could derail my chances by allowing anger or self-pity in when I fail to lose weight.
    It seems I am gathering strategies and attitudes to make a successful journey. I have started, but the tools are still arriving.

    So far I am aware of: persistance/perseverance; patience with myself and with the process of weightloss; and now to expect to have blips and bad days...To Pick myself up, dust myself off and start all over again ;) each time.
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    1923 days ago
    It is what you do NEXT that matters the most, not what you did before. You are a success story, but don't let that become a stressor.
    1923 days ago
    Every day in which we do not give up is a success. You are doing amazingly! Keep pushing.
    1923 days ago
    I loved this blog. It speaks the truth. There is no fairy tale happily ever after ending with our weight loss journeys. Every day is a struggle where we have to fight for our health and the choices we know we need to make. The reason I loved your blog so much is that it is realistic. And optimistic. And shows that we are human and we struggle, but perfection is not needed to be successful.
    1923 days ago
    Wow, I can say I 100% understand what you mean, and can relate to everything in your blog. Thank goodness not every day is a bad day! I have been having my ups and downs for well months now... since about Oct. when everything got to be overwhelming and Just now seems to be slowing back down. So I have been battling going up and down in the weight department 10 - 15lbs up and down. Now I am trying to get back on track and start losing again. Hang in there my friend! I am here with you! I too am looking at losing another 75 to 85 lbs or so. emoticon emoticon
    1923 days ago
    Thanks for your honesty - losing is hard!
    But, we can do it, if we don't give up on ourselves - we are worth it!
    1923 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    Things like this happens to all on us. The important thing is to get back on track and go on from there. Glad You got some Me time too and that Your Husband was spending time with the little One your Girl. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week. Take Care.
    1924 days ago
    I eat when I'm tired and frustrated or overwhelmed...and I still don't know why. It doesn't make me feel better even when I'm doing it. Humans are funny things.
    1924 days ago
    I'm glad your feeling better, I, myself, have a tendency to run to food for a quick "fix", to feel better,,,,,,but we know where that takes us,,,,,,lets change this!.......whose in? your hand up?.....see you around kid! emoticon
    1924 days ago
  • CHERYLA2012
    I'm happy that you got a chance to have some "me" time!

    1924 days ago
    It is life after all and things happen, however never call them failure they are tests you will have along the way.
    Try dealing with your issues (frustrations) by keeping a journal or a diary. I have one that I use and have written things down since I started my journey.
    I can read those words and know exactly how I was feeling and how by writing about the issues I did not turn to food to cover up the problems.
    Your doing so well and yes there will be tests along the way and as always the choice is yours on how your going to handle any situation.
    As always best wishes on your journey to health and happiness. Sandy
    1924 days ago
  • DONNA5281
    Thank you for writing this blog.
    I can relate to what you are going through but I agree don't beat yourself up for eating the rolls. It does happen to all of us.
    You are doing an excellent job. Keep up the good work.
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    1924 days ago
  • MARIANNE9855
    My children are 19 and 21 and live at home but I am also involved in my parents' care. My mom is physically disabled and had several hospitalizations in the last year due to chronic health conditions. My father has alzheimers. Fortunately he is physically able to care for my mom which is great but the cognitive and emotional difficulties are hard because he thinks I am just picking on him.
    I love my parents but my mom in particular has been a life long stress for me especially around my weight- not surprisingly the more emotionally challenging she has been the more I struggled with my weight. Now though, I am maintaining some distance because I need to take care of myself because none of this will change until someone is no longer here and I need to get healthy for myself in the meantime.
    Again I am so happy I found spark people and members like Lynn and all the others who help me keep trying and moving forward.
    1924 days ago
    Thank you for having the courage to post your blogs! Yesterday I too was having a bad day and read some of your blogs and realized that everyone has good and bad days....even the success stories!! We are human and I thank the other "humans" that share their struggle. Those that post and act like they don't struggle aren't "real" or honest.

    Thank you for being real, honest and a success story! Yes, you are a success story, not only for how much you have lost but that you continue on this journey!!!
    1924 days ago
  • BOOKWORM2004
    Good job and glad hubby is there to help you out today...we all need a helping hand once in a while, don't beat yourself up for a little slip with frustration, it happens, life does go on! emoticon

    1924 days ago
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