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Am I being unrealistic?

Sunday, January 13, 2013

Every New Year, most everyone makes resolutions. The top resolution being to lose weight. I have made that resolution, oh let's say, 25 years. And by Jan. 5, that resolution and any others I made are broken, making me feel like a failure year after year.

And so, on Dec. 28th, I was sitting alone, as usual, contemplating life and everything that I view as failures. Always being fat as the #1 failure was what was foremost in my mind. So in hopes I typed in "free help losing weight." Of the pages that were listed, I saw the link for SparkPeople. My best friend had mentioned this site when she first started her lap-band journey, I vaguely recalled. So I clicked the link.

I read through the site and decided to give it a try, figuring it would be yet another failure in my life. But, I've strangely become quite attached to the site, almost fanatic about it. I come on many times a day, although I rarely comment on other peoples posts or blogs, I thoroughly enjoy reading them, and really, REALLY take to heart the comments directed to me from my posts, or my blogs.

And since it's only Jan. 13th, am I being unrealistic with myself? When July comes, will I still be on my mission? I've scrolled through many of the SparkPeople's pics and have noticed there's many who haven't updated in many months or even over a year. I don't want that to be me. But I'm so afraid that I'm going to do SparkPeople like I have Facebook, or Pinterest, or Twitter or my own excited every day, then all of a sudden it's every other day, and then it's just whenever.

I want to succeed. I want something in my life to be a success.
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    I used this site once before. I think the reason I didn't get far was because I half used the site. I didn't track and I didn't engage with the community. Now I am constantly busy with things to do here. I use everything to the fullest. I honestly believe an all in approach will win. It may not be as fast as we want. But it will happen!

    Toning up is slowly becoming more important to me than the scale. So I think I will try focusing on other measurements to keep from getting discouraged. Thanks for blogging!

    2288 days ago
    Ive been on this site (on and off) since 2009... this is the most I've actually gotten involved and i find that i cant wait to log on and check how my new friends are doing. Im a slimming world member and so i dont track my food but the exercise tips and the friendly manner of the people here keep me comin back, Its helped to change my attitude completely towards food and my diet x
    2289 days ago
    These are great questions to ask! By asking them, you can start to put together a plan to help make this stick.

    For example, by adding one healthy habit at a time to your daily life (like doing 10 or more fitness minutes consistently most days of the week), you really will start to see changes that will transform your life in so many ways.


    ris (SparkGuy)

    2289 days ago
    I am someone who has come here, left, come back, and left. But, here I am again. I always come back to SparkPeople. SparkPeople works, we just have to master ourselves. That takes time, and patience. It's easier for some then it is for others. But part of the secret is to take baby steps. Change that is permanent happens slowly. My mistake my first couple of failures was not taking small, little steps that I could keep to heart and using those to propel myself forward.

    So my advice to you is to really focus on making those little changes that are not difficult to stick to once they are there. Drinking 8 cups of water a day. Cutting back on sodas (in my case, I am very close to succeeding in cutting them out completely). Just keeping track of what you eat, which makes you more mindful of what you eat and you will naturally eat less calories. Working out no matter how busy you are, even if it's just 10 minutes a day, because that's better then before. It's easy to wake up 10 minutes earlier to do a quick cardio, anyone could fit that into their day. And from there, I promise you will enjoy the exercise and start to want to do more. Promising yourself you make at least 1 spark recipe a week, which will keep you wanting to make healthier food. Promising yourself to make a comment on one blog or discussion board a day.

    These are small, little changes that are not difficult to make, but they will add up to create a firm foundation for you build your new life upon. Just make sure you continue to challenge yourself by increasing the changes over time.

    There are other helpful little things you can do, like what others before me mentioned: making SparkPeople your homepage and treating it like a game help. I try to get as many spark points as I can everyday, and that feels like a game. I also just started participating in small group activities. Like, Shutterbugs is a photography group. I have never participated in one of their weekly things, but today I did, and I feel really great about that.

    Also, remember that small changes are still changes. I've failed and come back a couple times, but today I still jumped with joy that in total I have lost 19 pounds. I should have lost a lot more then that by now. But you know what? I have still lost 19 pounds. Don't let setbacks diminish what you have done, and that will help you, also.

    And never ever forget: Tomorrow is a new day. I used to mess up one day, and then just beat myself up with guilt and give up. I now know that this is unacceptable. Tomorrow is a new day. One bad day does not make you a failure.

    And I know I've written too much already now, but one more thing. Don't completely deprive yourself, either, or you will never be able to maintain. Everything in moderation. Something I do is, if I have been very good during the week, I make one day (usually Sunday) a free day where I can indulge in something that I have been craving without having to track. Just be careful, though. There are times that my free day has thrown me off for a few more. That's why now I only do it when I've been very good during the week.

    Sorry for such a long response! Don't doubt yourself, you can do this! You have to maintain a positive attitude as best you can! Anytime you're doubting, or sad, or mad or discouraged, start exercising! Even if it's just jumping jacks! That will motivate you again!

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    Good luck! You are not alone! Join lots of groups and make lots of friends who can keep you motivated! I'll go friend you now!
    2290 days ago
    Thanks everyone for your encouragements. I think we all know what it's like to be down on one's self and that's how I was feeling this morning. I've never known what it's like to be thin. I've always been "that ugly fat girl." I guess I'll always have those taunts burned into my memory. Worse was the nickname I was called...can you guess? Think of my think of a certain very large aquatic animal. It was horrible. Anyway, I struggled this morning with whether I've bitten off more than I can chew (haha...pun intended) or will I really follow through. I do believe I've finally gotten my mind set in the right direction and with the help of my virtual friends who can kick my butt when I need it, I won't quit.
    2290 days ago
  • BEEJAY49
    I've been here for a long time. There are times when I don't feel like being here and then I think, hmm? What else would I be doing? Playing games, probably. So even though Sparks isn't a game, I make one of it. I try to be consistent each day and see how many "trophies" I can get at the end of the month. :) I know it sounds silly but hey, whatever works right? Right!
    Then I think, ah, challenges, they can be fun. So I make a game of seeing how many team challenges I can get done in a month. I can do this and so can you! You can stay a part of Sparkpeople unlike other sights that fall by the side of the road, why? Because YOU ARE WORTH IT and I know it and so do you! :) Love you! HUGS!
    2290 days ago
    Ive been on an off of spark for a while... but this is the first time Ive gotten involved with people and groups. I feel that it is helping me keep track of myself a LOT.
    We will help keep you accountable, and pushing for your goals, so that come july not only will you still be at them but youll have made progress emoticon
    And you will do the same for all of us.

    2290 days ago
    A lot of people bail out on their goals. I am one who has come and gone and come again. I am determined this time to NOT give up. Even if I'm not perfect. Even if I eat a whole pan of brownies. Even if I sit in a chair for a week, I am not giving up. I am not perfect. I am prone to poor choices and that's how I got fat in the first place. But I come back to Spark every day. I do my Wii Fit routines (almost) every day. I eat my veggies and gulp my water (almost) every day. Even if the weight comes off a quarter pound at a time, I am not abandoning my quest to get skinnier.
    2290 days ago
  • POOH97015
    I was like you, but I found that with Spark People things turned out to be different. I stayed the first time for about 9 months. I did leave for about 9 months and now I have been back since August when I started preparing for my gastric sleeve surgery. I read the boards every day and try to comment where I can so I get more emails coming back for me to read so I stay in touch with the site. It reminds me to keep coming back. I don't track my food here because I'm on Weight Watchers also and keep track of things there, but I use this as my back up. I hope it all works out for you and you keep it up. One way to do it is to set Spark People as your homepage. That way you never forget to check it out. Just one idea for you! Good luck on your journey and I look forward to seeing you as you continue down this path to a healthier, lighter you!
    2290 days ago
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