Losing during profound loss...

Saturday, January 12, 2013

To my old SP friends - It's been a very rough year... My beloved, healthy, athletic, tall, dark and handsome husband died on August 6, 2012 from a very aggressive cancer... On many days I still can barely believe this has happened - but it has... My 3 grown children and I acutely grieve the loss of his physical presence in our lives.

In the many months caring for him I was stressed and didn't "care" anymore, and put back on 30 pounds I had just finished losing...

I have since lost about 9 of those pounds...I've had to be very, very gentle with myself... If a diet is too stressful, it doesn't work for me right now.

A short, but very sweet, video tribute to this beautiful man:
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God bless you all,
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    I am so sorry for your loss, Mary, but weren't you lucky to have had a life with that wonderful man?
    Thank you for sharing the video tribute.

    1869 days ago
  • JENNY712
    emoticon SO SORRY! emoticon emoticon emoticon Jenny
    1900 days ago
    I am incredibly sorry for your loss. This is a difficult time for all of you and I wouldn't worry about losing so much as taking care of yourself. emoticon
    1927 days ago
    My Mama lost my Father over twenty years ago and she would be happy to leave this world of woe (as the song has it), but that is not God's plan for her. She has lost two of her twelve children since she lost my Dad, so be brave and trust God to lead you in your life. emoticon
    1928 days ago
    Mary, I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband and soul mate. That was an excellent tribute put together by your son. It shows how much your husband loved life and spread happiness to those around him.

    1929 days ago
    I am so sorry Mary. I've thought about you freqently and wondered how you were doing. May God take the pain away and soothe your soul. I will pray for you. When you're ready we will still be here, God bless you and your family.
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    What a beautiful tribute to his father. He was very handsome. You were blessed to have him with you during his time on earth..
    1929 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/13/2013 1:52:55 PM
    My deepest sympathy to you on the loss of your husband. The video was amazing, his music was filled with joy (as was his smile). My condolences are with you and your family.
    1930 days ago
    Thank you, my dear spark friends...
    1930 days ago
    Oh Mary, I am so sorry. My heart is broken for you. My prayers will be for you and for the comfort of God's faithfulness and that of family and friends. The tribute by your son brought tears to my eyes.
    1930 days ago
    So beautiful and touching! My deepest condolences... Sending you my biggest SP emoticon emoticon
    1930 days ago
    What a beautiful tribute, and, what a tragic loss. I know you from Alternate Day Diet SparkTeam. But, I noticed that your youtube tribute was managed by I'm mamabug on there, one of the moderators. Maybe we'll have to connect more; we might have some things in common.

    I'm glad that you haven't given up on weight loss, but, please also know that it's OK, for now, to continue being gentle with yourself.

    ~ Faith
    1930 days ago
    Thank you all of for your messages of love and support.
    1930 days ago
    My heart goes out to you. Hang in there it will get bette. I've been where you are.
    1930 days ago
    First, let me say I am sorry for your loss. Second, I know that this has been a difficult time for your family. I think that you can lose the weight that you put on during your grieving. I think that you have to take each day as it comes and know that your life continues and you have to live it to the fullest and through Spark People I am sure you can lose the weight. You did it before you can do it again.

    Maybe right now you don't feel like it or you are getting back to wanting to lose the weight. You will do it in your own time.

    Just know that many people are here to support you.

    1930 days ago
  • NEEDBU66
    My deepest sympathies to you at this dreadful time. May God bless and keep you.
    1930 days ago
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