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Some people really upset me!

Saturday, January 12, 2013

Today something interesting happened to me. I was in town with my son walking around and doing some shopping. Out of no where this group of young men passed me and then for no reason yelled to me " You're a Fat Cow and should be locked in a cage". The fact he said this to me didn't bother me as I am used to being insulted by strangers because of my weight but what did bring tears to my eyes was my son. He is only 3 years old and he turned to me and said " Mommy, why did that man say mean things to you?". Just the simple fact that my son had to witness that killed me inside. I could see that it bothered him and I had to try to explain that sometimes people are just mean for no reason.

I just hate how cruel and ignorant people can be in this world. What bothers me is the fact my child has to grow up in this world where it seems people are having less and less respect for others. My cousin who is handicap has had to spend her entire life being made fun of and I just find it unfair and horrible that people are so cruel. It truely doesn't bother me when people say things to me as I know that they have their own issue's and that's why they are trying to take focus off themselves because truthfully they have low self esteem. But as a mother I want to protect my child and when he is hurting it hurts me. Today some idiot hurt my child by insulting me in front of him and that really got me so angry.

Anyway, I'm finished ranting now! Haha! On a good note! I did well today with everything! I only got half a work out in because I am still feeling sick but half is better than nothing and I don't want to over do it. Everything is going great and I am excited about my future. I am loving life right now and most importantly I am loving myself. I am proud of myself for what I have accomplished so far. It might be a small step but I have put in 100% each and every day and I plan on continueing putting in 100%. emoticon emoticon
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  • CHRIS3874
    How IGNORANT- I can' believe people can be that cruel!!!
    They should be locked up in a cage!! No wait that's TOO GOOD for them.
    1927 days ago
    That is so horrible that people are so unfeeling and rude. I'm mad FOR you! I had something like that happen to me when we were at Culver's (a frozen custard place in case they don't have them near you) but I didn't actually hear it. We had ordered custard and the person at the register had to make it so it took some time. A man came in with a bunch of young little league players and apparently said something about me being fat since he was mad that they had to wait to be served. My daughter said, "That man called you fat." I told her that he was just being rude because he was impatient but that really bothered her.

    I hope that never happens to you again! The moral of my story is that nobody calls me fat anymore because I'm only 10 pounds away from my goal weight and am now 40 pounds lighter than that day. You will be there someday too!
    1927 days ago
    I am so sorry that those people were rude to you and that your son heard. I'm glad you were kind enough to ignore them instead of shouting back. I'm a screamer and I'd have just "gone off", as my students say. I'm glad you had a place to let those feelings out.

    I hope you can continue to affirm that you are a good and capable person. Keep up your good work and don't let ANYONE, no matter how loud or stupid take you off your path to improvement!!

    Take care and all the best!
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    1927 days ago
    I'm really sorry you and your son had to hear that. What a mean person. I don't understand people sometimes. Why can't they just mind their own business. I'm sure they wouldn't feel good if we pointed out all their flaws in public. I'm glad you didn't let it derail your goals today!
    1927 days ago
  • KAREN91
    I'm so sorry that you were the target of some mean cruel men especially in front of your son. Be cheered by the thought that you are getting thinner and fitter with sparkpeople. On the other hand they will probably always be cruel thoughtless people who try to feel bigger by putting others down. emoticon emoticon
    1927 days ago
    I liked this blog so often we are the butt of people's own frustrations and I'm really proud of how you handled this. Good for you. Your son is a lucky boy to have such a great Mum.

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    1927 days ago
    I'm really sorry you had to experience this! Where I come from, most insults are never to ones face, which somehow I think is worse, as when it gets back around to you, it feels more hurtful. I know it's unfortunate your son has to learn from an early age that people are mean, and it's not fair... but the good news is, you have the chance to raise him to stand up for people he hears being made fun of, and to have a healthy self esteem so he doesn't let the hurtful things people say get to him. I wish I had your strength to not feel upset when they say mean things about you. I would of been devastated!
    1927 days ago
    I am very sorry that happened also. Makes me angry even. But it sounds like you handled the situation very well.

    You are a beautiful person and that other person will always be ugly, more than likely. Maybe they will grow up some day. There's always that hope I guess.

    Anyways, you handled it very well. Kudos to you for that. emoticon
    1927 days ago
    emoticon I can't believe he SAID that to you! I'm so sorry you're "used to" being treated like that and can only hope that someday something happens to him to open his eyes to how his behaviour affects others. In the meantime, good for you for maintaining your self composure!
    1928 days ago
    I am sorry people suck.

    1928 days ago
    Normally I would of said something back but being that I had my son with me I didn't want to put him in danger or for him to see me behave that way.
    1928 days ago
    Gosh that is horrible. I've never had people say things like this to me to my face, at least not since I was a kid. Even when I weighed 300 pounds, nobody was that brazen.

    Maybe I look like the kind of person who would fight back/give them an earfull they would never forget.

    They should be ashamed of themselves.
    1928 days ago
  • _KATHY
    How very sad... Sad also that these young men are so lacking in something very important. What empty human beings they will become. Take care!
    1928 days ago
    I'm so sorry this happened to you. A lot of people are poor excuses for human beings. Even though it was hard for your son to witness this I think you turned it into a teachable moment by exhibiting how to handle ignorance with grace. Other people would have swore at those men.

    Congratulations on sticking to your goals for the day!

    1928 days ago
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