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Time to Regroup, But It's only January 6th!

Sunday, January 06, 2013

I'm lax on exercise, I've had a major binge. Not a great way to start the New Year!

But over the last 48 hours I've corrected the eating part. I'm on my second day of staying at the low end of calorie range. I did lose .5 pound last week, but the day I read that on the scale was the day I had a compulsive sugar eating foray.

I have read "It doesn't matter how many times you fall down, what matters is how many times you get up!"

At least I am getting up again.

I want to get over the tendency to binge. Yet I don't want to completely exclude things from my diet, namely sugar, because I'm certain that saying no completely will lead to binges. Some people are in the "don't keep any in the house" corner and some are in the "do not deny yourself completely" corner.

I imagine different things work for different people. I can have a little every day without any problem for the most part, but faced with having company, I sneak to the kitchen and secretly down a ton of sugar. It especially happens when the little kids are here. My hubby takes care of all their needs and I feel bored and useless, and detached from involvement. That's when I'm most prone to the dreaded binge. I recognize this when I'm being rational, but in the midst of a situation like this I succumb.

I'm being lazy with exercise. I'll admit to that much. I exercised the two days before my company came, on the 1st and 2nd of Jan, but focused on the social aspect of my visit with my friend who came to stay for three nights. We crafted all afternoon for two days. We had lots of fun. That kept me out of the kitchen until the tail end of her visit. At the end of her visit I was anticipating two grandkids for an overnighter and headed for the chocolate. Why didn't I suggest to my friend we take a walk? Well, she is from El Paso TX and was cold all the time while here. I hated to ask her to step out into the cold weather.

On a positive note, my friend's daughter who is 19, was curious about different food and exercise topics, and I was able to share an exercise with her to strengthen her obliques. She wanted to strengthen her abs and her mother and I shared with her the importance of planks and push ups. She was receptive. She was curious about how you burn fat and how you replace it with muscle and how that all works. She was misinformed and I felt confident to share the things I've learned being with SparkPeople for over a year. (she's not terribly overweight, but at least she's thinking about keeping from letting it get worse and also improving her strength.)

My friend has the same body shape as I do, and it helped me not be self conscious about what tummy I have left. She was confident about who she is, or so it appears. It helped me love myself a little better. It also helped me to see that I'm doing ok with my maintenance, and that I should not be down on myself for choosing this weight as my goal.

I am a work in progress and I hope to see some progress over the rest of this month, and on through the year.

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    It dose go to show you that you can pick your self up and you are..
    I really think that binges will never not happen for people who do binge.. (which I do) but I do know that we can limit the number of times we do binge which is a good thing.. and the lesser that happens the better..
    keep doing what your doing which is pushing through, reaching out asking for help and even giving help and you will be back on track

    You can do it .. that is for sure..
    1964 days ago

    Reading your blog, something popped into my head, twice.....If you don't ask, you will never know.
    Sure it was cold outside, your friend might have welcomed a brisk walk, but if you don't ask, you won't know. Trust me as someone who was raised in Texas, as hot as El Paso gets, it also gets cold! What's the worst thing she could say? No? Not now, but lets do it after lunch?

    You are feeling "bored and useless" while hubs takes care of the visiting kiddos needs - can you ask if there's any little thing you could do? I mean not like building a fort or anything, just something simple to help make you feel more a part of the activity.

    This past December I arrived at a big Christmas party early and was feeling pretty much like an annoying little gnat. I asked if there was anything my friend needed help with....she looked SO relieved and asked if I could watch the muffins in the oven so they wouldn't burn while she put on makeup. Such a little thing, but it made me feel useful and gave her time to do something else. Later on (while she was running around like a chicken with her head cut off trying to finalize everything before everyone started arriving) she asked if I could "simply" greet everyone as they arrived, show them where the pupu/dessert/drink tables were located. THAT was a daunting task, but I made it through (by not putting pressure on myself) and managed to chat with a few new people & it kind of put me in the mood to be more social.

    Guess that's a really long way of saying again - just ask! It's not like you are asking for a million bucks or a friend to accompany you while you were climbing Mt. Everest, LoL!

    I'm so happy that you were able to share your knowledge with your friend's daughter! It's a great feeling when someone looks to us for advise, knowledge or a little tidbit of wisdom. So you have fallen off track a little....look at how far you have come in the last year. Not just with weight loss but also with all you have gained in the form of knowledge, self confidence and self-awareness. Those are things you will never lose even if the scale moves a little in the wrong direction.
    1966 days ago
    Hmmm...some interesting observations you have made about sugar cravings. I am right there with you about wanting to be moderate with treats, rather than banning them altogether. You can get back up anytime... emoticon emoticon
    1966 days ago
    Been there! I find that I binge on sugar, too...especially when in company of friends. You have got a good 'plan': excluding sugar completely, for you, just may not be the way to go. You'll get there-I promise!
    1966 days ago
  • POPSY190
    I'm just the same - any little change in my routine and I'm off on the eating and off the exercise! emoticon But I'm getting back to normal on both fronts, I find that keeping in touch with this site helps to bring me back to the middle way rather than just going on perpetuating the poor choices. Good luck for this SP year!
    1966 days ago
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