Emotional eating

Thursday, January 03, 2013

I read an article on emotional eating and one of the suggested hints was to write down emotional triggers. This is getting right to the core....everything in the open!

So here are some:

• Fighting with the kids

This is a common one these days. Neither of them wants to do anything I ask them to do and it usually ends in a fight. I feel bad, they feel bad and it is just not fun! Son has decided to move out recently and this also stresses me out. He is so young but something he has to do to learn. This might change the fighting at home – along with new schedule (mentioned next point).

• Stress at school

Not too sure what it is but I have been distracted and school has been suffering because of it. I have hours of homework a night and it just always gets interrupted by kids and my dog. When is supper, need to take dog out, Mom - take me to the store….etc. UGH!!!! New focus is needed and I think a new schedule at home.

• Boredom

Yes, even with all the other things I have with school, kids, and dog, I get bored. I have nothing to do. Or I should say I chose to do nothing! Now this boredom time will be filled with treadmill activities or even some exercise video I have. No reason to be bored any longer!!!

• Fear of rejection / being alone

This is a tough one for me to admit. I have been in a number of relationships where it is just “one-sided”. What I mean is - I really care about the person and then find out that they really just don’t. What I thought was a “relationship” was nothing more to them than a casual meeting/friendship. So, this is typical of the man I have been seeing now for a few years now. I thought things had progressed but I was wrong. I am afraid to say goodbye! I don’t want to be alone – isn’t bad attention better than none??? I know, I know, it isn’t but I can’t seem to break away. So, I have been what he can call “needy” always calling him or texting him. I know he doesn’t like it but, I do it anyway. I live with the canceled “get-togethers” because at this point I feel I have no choice. I am become that someone I NEVER thought I could be. I have always been stronger than that – what is the problem now…......FEAR!!!!

What do I do now???

Well I take one day at a time and learn to walk tall again. I can do this and I can succeed! I don’t need a man to validate me! All I need is ME!!!! So I need to break the cycle. Once I find inner peace again I will love ME again. After all – what’s not to love???

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    Set your plans and take those actions against triggers. I also can't have ANYTHING that I've ever ate during a trigger session in the house. Just the thought of that item will drive me to respond by eating it during the next trigger session, which will come. Love the extra exercise rather than boredom. Its a great solution by moving and giving you feel good endorphins. Keep at your plans and goals. As you achieve, you'll gain the confidence to have all that you deserve in all of your relationships. You CAN do this!
    1934 days ago
    break the cycle sister! you have all the tools "knowledge" just do it!!!!! Peace
    1934 days ago
    This are common triggers. First step is to recognize them, which is what you have done. Next try to think of something else you can do when you recognize that trigger happening. ie. fighting with kids - stop and drink a glass of water while you plan what you reallly want to get across to the kid. Or after the fight, walk around the block to calm down. It is a hard thing to do at first, but if you have a plan, you will plan to succeed :-)
    1935 days ago
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